Singles Supporting Singles
 

Hi There,

First let me start by saying "I've done this before" Actually I've tried to do both before. I've tried to lose weight and I've tried to start a thread for Singles. This is not to say that married people are not welcome. However, I'm hoping this will provide support, friendship and most of all a sense of belonging for single people trying to make it in a "happy couple" world.


I live in Tennessee, I just turned 34 :cry: I have never been married and I've never come close. I have (gulp) 60 pounds to lose. To make my singledom even more "typical" I have 2 cats ;)

I work in a very stressful job environment, come home alone to the cats, and eat!! I do try to work out but that needs an overhaul as well. I have been heavy all of my life and truly believe that is one of the major problems I have in meeting "that right person"

So there you have it. Me in a nutshell ('cause i'm a nut :dizzy: )
If you wanna join so we can support each other..I'd be honored.

LA

:wave: hi la. i am single also and need to 140. i'll be 50 this year :yikes:
i don't have any pets. maybe when i lose the lbs i'll find a girlfriend
:) glen

hi i'm single and have been for ages should be under 200 but around 234 my life is totally dedicated to playing watchign and coaching rugby i have no confidence in women at all after a bad split over a year ago i'm only 22 but crippled in the emotional side of my brain

woo hoo!!! that's the way to do it. Welcome to you gentlemen. Wow, I'm surrounded by hunks. I never realized guys felt about their weight the way women do lol
Well, I'm looking forward to posting with you all.

I ate horribly today :nono: but I'm still hanging in there. I've packed my bags to go to the gym tomorrow!!! Anywho, I am so happy to meet you both. Anyone else out there? Come join us.

LA

Hello,

Fellow single girl here. La, you sound just like me except that I am 36 :yikes: and have 20 more pounds than you to lose :yikes: :yikes: I have never even come close to being married and I know it's the stupid weight that is preventing me from meeting Mr. Right (if he even exists) I don't like that the world is this way, but I guess I can understand.

I have no cats but I do have a dog.

But I am trying to lose. I just joined a gym and I am trying to go 5 times a week. I am still trying to get the eating under control. :(

Slimmings, you are so young. I hope in time you will get over the bad breakup you had. Just keep in mind that all women aren't bad. Most of us are pretty great. :D

Lynn

welcome lynn.

I agree, most of us gals are pretty awesome

It's going to be a fun thread.

By the way, if any of you want to pm message me...I love those too
:^:

Hey gang. LA told me she started this thread, so I thought I'd drop in. I've known LA for a while & we posted on the old thread together. We've kept in touch even though the thread died down.

I'm 32, SINGLE, never married, no pets. I live in Texas. At this point, I probably need to lose 80-90 pounds. I've lost it before, but slowly gained most of it back.

I work long hour & have a heck of a commute to work, so exercise just doesn't hit my radar. I know all the things to do, but am just too tired to do them.

I ate horribly this weekend. Spent Friday night watching movies & eating pizza, Saturday night at a hockey game drinking beer. Today, I've just been a bum. :ink: I can usually do well during the week, but the weekends are just tough.

Anyway, I hope this thread stays really active & we can offer lots of support to each other.

Have a great week!

Hello!!
 

Hey Everyone!!

Well I Think This Is For Me - I Am 23 Years Old And About A Yr Ago Now I Had A Bad Break Up Ewith My Fiance Of 2yrs ( We Dated For 6 Total) Too Much Mental Abuse In That Relationship....

When I First Began Dating The "***" I Was 17 And 160lbs... Very Happy At That Weight... As We Got Further Into The Relationship I Gained 70lbs Over The 6years... Ouch!! That Was A Big Slap In The Face... Ecspecially Since I Thought He Was "the One" - Oh Yeah ~ Well Now I Am Fat And Single And Hating It!! I Am Becomming More And More Depressed Everyday - And Its Not Good... I Want To Again Be That 160lbs... I Know It Is Going To Take A Lot Of Work -- And I Know I Can Do It - I Just Need That Support!!!

Hopefully You Guys Can Help Me Out - And I Hope To Do The Same!!

Layna :D :D

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO E-MAIL ME ANYTIME - I CHECK IT EVERYDAY!! [email protected]

welcome layna!!!

We are so glad to have you with us. I hope we can give you as much support you can need. Just remember, we have to do this for us. Yes, we'll fall short sometimes but we can't stay down. We'll be here for you. Keep checking in.

LA

Hey there Kids,

How are you all doing? I am doing pretty good. I went yesterday and did the worst thing a fat chick can do: I tried on pants :( I am more resolved than ever to lose weight. I lost 20 pounds last year and have gained half of that back :/

So here we do again. Starting tomorrow I'm going to go back on WW. I have to lose weight. I am not a young girl anymore :( I just have to lose weight. So, we're gonna try..try again. I am positive it's time. I like WW, it's an easy plan. So why not?

Well, check in and let me know how you all are doing.
Jenjen and I are going to be in the 3fc chat room Monday night. Hope to talk to you all there.

LA

HI,

It is so easy as a single not to even bother to cook a meal. I might grab a yogurt or eat nothing at all. I know not eating is as bad as eating the wrong things so I am trying to change. I was married, weighed more on my wedding day than I did when I divorced him (almost 10 years ago), now I don't want a relationship - too scared I guess. I could use to lose 100 lbs. but I am taking it 10 lbs at a time.

I decided to get my life back, do my walking tapes, drink my water, and try to eat three healthy meals a day. Slowly I will add more as I get better at these three things. I am so tired of having no energy and being out of breath doing the simple things. DM

Yippie...A Single Thread
 

I'm new here on the boards, etc. Wanted to find out how singles connect on the board so I did a search and found your thread.

Single and thirtysomething. Looking to hook up with some lifestyle buddies. My diet philosophy is not to diet. I'm trying to eat a normal balanced d**t, drink A LOT of water and walk. I've lost like 50 pounds and have kept it off, but I've been at this set-point weight for awhile. It's like the scale hates me :lol:. Anyways, I just decided that I have to kick up the exercise. Just started that...so the verdict is not out yet.

I really want to keep my weight off, so if I lose weight slow I really don't mind because I don't want to have to keep fighting this battle.

Thanks for this thread. I look forward to making some new friends. :cool:

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Me in a nutshell...one of my favorite jokes.

LA you're :cool:

I'm 34 (still single) and just realized today that I way the same as I did almost 11 years ago when I gave birth to my son...(wholly cow...literally). I have gained 45 lbs over the last two years. I have been in a relationship with a really great guy and I guess I let my guard down (not to mention the refrigerator door open). I am back on track now. I am trying to eat healthy and I joined Curves. I know it is going to take a while and there are no quick fixes for what I have done to my body. I am hoping that with all the support on this board I can actually make it.

Thanks for listening to my ramble and good luck to everyone here.

Me too....me too!
 

Hey all...

Thanks for starting this thread. It's hard, sometimes, being a single person in a "couple's and families" world. BUT...there are some great things about being single too!

I'm 33, single, had a couple of relationships that I thought were "IT", so I'm not so sure that my head and heart know what they are doing these days. Better to just take my time and be happy where I am in life. I believe that it will happen if it's suppose to happen. If not...well....I'll figure that out later :)

So...what "plans" are you all following? I'm doing my own thing right now. Cutting back on the processed foods and trying to make healthier choices. I have found that (believe it or not) what they say about sugar being addictive is true. I do not crave it as much as I used to. That's one GREAT thing that has happened in the past few weeks.

I try to keep the starches and empty carb calories to a minimum and have been snacking on things like pistachios, mixed nuts (in moderation), oranges, bananas, etc. I am eating more vegetables than I used to. I eat more protein and lean meats...haven't had pasta in three weeks.

So..there's my plan in a nutshell....it's not hard to follow because I eat when I'm hungry and don't obsess about portions.

So..what are you all doing?

Have a great day everyone!

Michelle

Hello everyone!
I'm new to this site and also single. I am 27 years old I live in NJ and I have about 25lbs to lose :stress: I was doing really good with my diet I lost 10lbs but I'm having a really bad wk....eating everything in site :tape: I go to the gym often but when you are cheating on your diet it just doesn't feel the same!
I was recently in a 5 year relationship that ended and left me with 30lbs and a cold heart, these thing happen though. I have decided to turn the page in my life and start over fresh. Just kinda sucks that after 5yrs you kinda forget how to date. I went out on a date and I sware I felt like I was 17 again I didn't know what to say or how to act. lol kinda funny :blah: I think Ill stop now hehe.
Well nice to meet everyone and it's nice to see we don't have to go through this alone!!

Bella

Hello Gals and gents I'm also single turning 37 this April. I have been on the Atkins diet for almost a year come March 26th.I have lost 215 pounds on atkins still have about 90 to go.

I gained almost 300 pounds do to severe depression I had health issues (almost lost my leg because of a bone infection) I had to stay in bed for almost 6 months and gained weight like mad then in june 2002 I broke my neck and was in bed for another 5 months but with hard work I am back to about 80 % still have some small aches and pains but not horrible.I have no problems with walking or talking so I am very lucky and thank God I don't have any real bad after effects from the broken neck

Today even though I still have lots of work ahead of me I feel like a new person.I have gained so much self esteem my friends tell me I dont act grumpy all the time and I didnt even know I was being like that.

If anyone needs to talk about anything feel free to ask the one thing I do realise is with help and support anything can be accomplished.my max weight was almost 590 I am now 350 at 6'4 sorry for the book lol.Hope to talk to you people soon good luck on the diet trail.

Single parent ok?
 

Hi... first post on the site. I'm a single parent, have been why whole adult life. Got a great kid though, wouldn't trade her for anything. The frightening this is that according to 'charts' and whatnot, I need to lose the equivalent of her... 150 lbs. Really, if... no, wait, scratch that... WHEN I lose 100 lbs, I'm a knockout... so I don't worry too much about the chart yet.

It IS very hard to be a fatchick in a world of married's... especially where I live, where EVERYONE is married... or that's the goal... get to the alter. I've had a few wonderful relationships... and few really crappy ones. Still working through the reasons I let the bad ones do so much damage. It scares me to note that in the 7 years since my engagement broke off, I've gained about 70 lbs... and here I thought I was over it. Perhaps not.

I'm off to buy Dr. Phil's books... will try anything at this point. Have a very sedentary job... which SO doesn't help. I'm also in grad school and I guess there's actual data that shows grad students put on weight. So,I am watching more closely what I eat and am doing better, have a ways to go. Its tough though, I hate cooking for just my daughter and I.

I'm back :wave:

First off I want to send a hearty welcome to all of our newbies!!! WELCOME, WELCOME, WELCOME!!!! I didn't realize how many singles are on this website woo-hoo WE ROCK!!!!!!!!!!! :D

I apologize for not checking in sooner. I've been sick :tired: and it's been a very stressful week at work. So I'm gonna need a lot of coffee this week :coffee:

So, how are you all, I like what I am reading. A lot of positive attitudes. Lots and lots of good wishes, someone said I'm cool :D woo hoo, you like me, you really really like me :^:

Well, let's see I haven't been doing very well eating wise. I haven't felt like cooking so it's been soup city for me. I like soup but I'm getting sick of it.
I have a big day tomorrow but after that, its FRIDAY!!!!! :cb:
I hope to feel better so I can go to a scrapbooking weekend. Do any of you scrapbook?? However, I did go to the gym monday (I would have gone the rest of the week, but I really am sick aaah-choo :p



By the way, jenjen and I meet each week to chat (here in their chat room) so if I'll let you know. It's so much fun!!! And we get very lonely in there, it's usually just the two of us. Not that I don't try to make it interesting but Jenjen, she's kinda dull (but you didn't hear it from me ;) )

Okay kids, I'm running off. Come check in and let's keep supporting each other.

No stories for you in chat this week, then....and I had BUNCHES...oh well, your loss! ;)

Welcome to everyone! This board hasn't been busy like this in ages. Glad to see so many new faces.

I haven't done too well this week. Been a really busy week & haven't been home much or gotten much sleep, which makes jen a cranky girl. :devil:

I have resolved to do better. Hope everyone has a happy and healthy weekend. And, welcome to all once again!

HI


How is your weekend? Mine has been pretty good. LOTS of sleeping. Had a rough day Friday :( but I'm beginning to feel better thank heavens.

Jenjen, you know i'm just joking, I LOVE YOUR STORIES :p are we going to chat this week? Please you guys come and join us. It'll be fun.

As for eating, I haven't done too bad actually. I am going to be the MAID of Honor for a friend's wedding. Gonna have to lose some weight :nono:

ANyway, that's about all there is on this end. Take care and have a great rest of the weekend.

LA

thought I 'd try to keep this thread alive
 

Hi everyone,

Hey, you didn't all go out and hitched did you?

So how is everyone doing? It's been slow going but I am down about 22 lbs!! Yay me! I'm not following a strict plan but I have cut out a lot of junk and sugar and to my surprise, I don't crave it all that much anymore. I was even able to buy a few pairs of pants in a smaller size!! That made me so happy I can not even put it into words.

Anyway, I am still single. I have had an on & off thing with
:mad: DAVID :mad: but it seems to be in the off phase right now.

So come on you single people, I'd love to hear from you & give & get support from all of you.

Everyone have great LONG weekend. Hope to hear from you.

Lynn

Big and Single
 

:( :lol: Hi all iam a single gal from the UK is anyone eles on this tread from england? have lost 33 pounds doing slimming world since jan so slow but sure
got lots to go and its no fun being single and fat i find it hard to meet people :?: people judge befor they know you, so any how iam angie and iam big and single hi to you all :p

Omg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

Hi Lynn

No, we haven't all gotten hitched!!! I guess I thought no one wanted to post anymore and felt sorry for myself. I'm glad you replied. :^:

So, how is everyone? More to the point: WHERE IS EVERYONE :yoohoo:
Things are not going well for me. Stressful week at work :dizzy:
I gained 10 pounds so make it 70 that I need to lose :( that just makes me even more upset which makes me eat even more. It really is kind of depressing.

So, let's try to keep this thread going. I know I let you all down and I'm very sorry about that. Let's not do that anymore!!!!

LA

Hi!
I'm single and over 60. I don't feel that old. I found it really easy to stay slim when I was married or worked out of the house. The best thing for me was to stay busy. Now I work at home, by myself and the willpower just isn't there. I would like to lose 30 to 40 pounds.

Hi, everyone!! I am 49 and weigh toooo much lol. I am trying to watch intake of food and increase my exercise. Due to heat in Alabama it is difficult to do in the evenings so starting next week I am starting on 2nd shift so I can do exercises and walking early in the mornings. Hope you all can be my motivator and encouragers too! I am divorced, was married 18 years before divorcing in 1991. Have not dated, and really am not interested, in a relationship at this time. I am happy in my life. I have a great son (LA he is in TN too!!) and I live with my father. Emails will be accepted for encouragement only. Thanks all and good luck to you all. Bonksmom

That's what I'm talking about!!!!!!!!!!
 

Hi All,

Welcome welcome welcome. It's so nice to see new faces...and old faces.

Spot, you're right 60 is not old!!!!!!!!! Welcome to you.

Bonks....I am so glad to see your post. Where abouts is your son? East, West, North, Southeast? Is he single lol actually he may be a little too young for me :o

I have not done so well lately. I'm so proud of your losses, and a little big jealous if you want to know the truth. I am trying not to be down on myself but seriously I am really getting frustrated. Jenjen and I talked all about it yesterday in the chat room here (you all should join us, it's very fun :) ) I don't know why I can't stop eating?!?! I mean, I could stop eating I guess but I don't. It's all my fault, I know...but that only makes me feel worse..which only makes me eat more. :/ Maybe I should have my mouth wired shut (they'd love that at work lol )

Well so glad you all have checked in. Let's keep this thread going...and going...and going.

LA

Hello all! Well, it is Monday again lol. Another day! I did not do very well this weekend, didnt get to exercise. LA son is going to be 30, in Southeast TN, and he is divorced. I have found an article in Woman's Day by Arricca Elin SanSone called Words of Wisdom. 20 WORDS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE!!
Todays word: "BEGIN...Take charge of your life by beginning something you've always wanted to do, like going back to college or cleaning out a closet that's been driving you crazy. If your goal seems overwhelming, START SMALL! Clean one shelf or take one class. 'By daring to begin the life you've always wanted, you become energized,' says Mari Tankenoff, L.P. and CEO of Mind-Fitness, inc. a counseling and consulting firm in Minneapolis." TODAY I BEGIN TO BE MORE MINDFUL OF WHAT I PLACE IN MY MOUTH!! Good luck all! Have a great day. Bonksmom

Hi everyone,

Glad to see the responses!!! Welcome everyone.

LA, I know this is easier said than done but don't be so hard on yourself. I know this is hard but (I can't beleive I am saying this) it does get a little easier as you go along. I have been overweight as long as I can remember. During my teens and twenties I fantasized about losing weight, being thin and all that. Now, at 36 something finally clicked. I haven't been at this weight since I was 18!!! Just don't give up on yourself ok? You have to keep trying until you find what will work for you.

My weakness was (still is) sugar. But I have to say since I have cut out a lot of that out I don't crave it like I used to. Sure, I do get cravings and if I feel I'll die without it I'll go to the local 7-11 and buy a single serving of something. A year ago I would but a whole 1/2 gallon of ice cream or a box of Drakes cakes. For me, keeping that stuff out of the house has helped a lot. I find little things like that really help.

Are you following any kind of plan? Or do you do your own thing?

I'll have to check out the chat room sometime. I've never been in there.

Spot, 60 is definitely not old! Bonks, how hot is it down there? I am in CT and we are just starting to have nice weather here. A couple of days have hit 80 but otherwise it has been cool. But I know those hot, humid (yuck) days are right around the corner

Everyone have a great week, and keep up the good work. Talk to ya later.

Lynn

Single Too
 

Hi all, I am single too and trying to lose weight. Seems like I've tried everything. If I don't see some results in the first week I give up and have a binge. Obviously that's not good. I bought Jorge Cruise 8 Minutes in the Morning book last week and today is my first day trying it. Hopefully this will be the answer for me. I also go to curves, but have been slacking off there lately (not seeing results), but I'm going to improve on that as well. I have two pets, a dog and a cat and they are both single too.

What time do you all meet for chat?

Janett, Hi! My name is Debby (bonksmom) I have tried Jorge Cruise's 8 Minutes in the Morning and was doing great!! It was not hard and by the end of the month I was increasing my weights and had more energy and lost around 20 lbs. I then went on vacation (of course lol) and never could get back into the groove. But come Monday June 7, 2004 I am starting my 8 mm again. I am going to stick to it this time too. Try it and you will like it. My doctor is the one who told me about it and it does work. But when my work hours went up so early I was having to get up at 4:00 am to do them, it just didn't work for me. So as you can tell from my other posts I am going to 2nd shift 3:30 pm to midnight so I can do my 8mm and walk in the mornings before work. Good Luck!! Debby

Hi Lynn, it has been running in the 90's already, hot and humid. It will get even hotter. The other night I tried to walk at 7:00 and it was still in the 90's
so it is just too hot for me to do it. If I can go in the mornings it is much cooler, and I am not as tired as when I work all day and then try to walk.

Spot, 60 is still young!!! In fact the closer I get to 60 the younger it seems lol.
Good Luck everyone Debby

WOO HOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is how a message board is supposed to look. We're doing great, supporting, chatting, laughing, crying. Grab hands everybody and sing with me "WE ARE THE WORLD...WE ARE THE CHILDREN" :lol:
As for myself, I am certainly enjoying reading your posts. I am getting mucho enjoyment out of reading them. I like being heard, jenjen will tell you that (if she were to read this post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)))

Anywho, bonks...your son is 30? and single? and live in Southeast TN. Does he enjoy incredibly beautiful, slightly ditzy, exciting, plump effervescent women?!?! :^: If so, let me know and i'll see if I can find him one har har har :cb:

isn't that dancing banana the cutest little thing?!?!!

Amy, I got your pm, expect a reply soon.

Also, I'm making up a chat time (jenjen and I have already chatted because I had to tell her about how I hated my job) but how about we say This week....at 9 p.m. est? I have a class Wednesday (I'm going back to school :D ) so I won't be free until then.

Anyway ladies (and gentleman) keep up the good work.

LA

LA, LOL I'm not sure but you can check him out at, well I was going to give you his web address but they won't let me type a link. He has lots of cool stuff on there, lol . Anyways, what day did you say this chat would be and how does it work because I have NEVER used chat online before, too shy and usually don't have a lot to say, but this is one chat I would like to be involved in too. Well, tomorrow is another day. Did everyone read WORD 1 OF 20 WORDS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE? Will do WORD 2 tomorrow lol. Bye for now Debby :dancer: :flow2: PS. I just love these Smilies they are sooooo cool lol :lol: :lol:

Day 2 Of 20 Words That Can Change Your Life
 

Hi All,

I daydream every single day!!! You name it - I dream about it.

Lynn

Word 3 of 20 Words that can change your life
 

:lol: LAUGH...." 'Laughter is a direct route to the soul. It broadens your perspective, keeps you healthy, and makes an unbearable situation easier to deal with,' says Joel Goodman. Ed.D., director of The Humor Project, Inc. in Saratoga Springs, NY. Learn a few jokes to tell your kids, hang up your favorite cartoons or call an old friend and relive a funny moment you've shared."

Two asparagus are walking down the road when one is hit by a car. The other goes in the ambulance with his friend, sits in the emergency room, waits for some news. A doctor comes to him. "I have good news and bad news. The good news - he'll make a full recovery.

The bad news - he'll be a vegetable for life."

Sorry.....this was the best I could find on short notice. Laugh and the world laughs with you... Have a good one Debby

Hey!

My name is Sam (Samantha). I am 23, and have a lot of weight to lose. I am single, and have been single since January. So far, I hate it. I've only ever dated this one guy, and it was for 5 years...all my college career. This whole "meet new guys" thing isn't really my cup of tea - but what else are you gonna do, right?

I feel, no, I know that I was in a huge rut with him. He never really said anything about my weight unless I brought it up, and I felt like I was going to marry him, so I never felt that I needed to change anything - I'd already found "the one" so as long as he was ok with it, why should I change?

So, here I am, 6 months later, finding that most guys my age are still in this like, superficial annoying stage where the "perfect" girl is quantified not by her genuine qualities, but rather by her measurements (I will forever hate the song "Brickhouse" for its' 36-24-36 reference). While I do not feel that I want to marry, or even date, someone who only finds me attractive because of my physical attributes, I am finding that the majority of the men (boys?) I am meeting are not even interested in looking past my exterior to see what I am on the inside.

Anyway, I guess I'm rambling now. This is my first post here - Just a little about myself. I am looking forward to meeting some new people on here, and making friends with people who understand my frustration with clothing stores for plus size people who only offer tank tops and skin tight clothing.

Hope to talk to you guys soon!

Good night, and have a pleasant tomorrow (Any other SNL fans? :) )

Sam

Hello,

Sam, I love SNL. Though I didn't watch as much this season as I have in the past. I will try to catch reruns this summer though.

And yes, I know how you feel about the clothing stores. Sometimes it's like "I would not be caught dead in that"!!! But you just have to look a little harder.

Anyway, just wanted to say hi, Will post more tomorrow.

Lynn

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