Monday
 

Hi everyone. Sorry I was MIA last week, but the first part of the week started out terrible and I never made time to get to the library to use the computer.

Happy to meet SheriaVA - girl, you are right on about men! I have been dating someone for several years but I live alone, by my choice. I don't have time for BS and head games either; I agree on the sex thing too. Great minds do think alike!

Hello Ang - I didn't know you had a doctorate - what field is it in and is this the field you work in? I don't know the size of the region you live in, but do they have any singles groups or maybe a YMCA? You could try volunteer work (a hospital or library) and get to know people that way. If you bowl, you could join a team in a bowling league.

Hi Lilwolfe - what do you do in pastures - do you work with animals?

My time here is about up. Hope you all have a nice day.

I just wanted to say hi, I just noticed this thread from the general list. I am 29 and not married nor am I currently dating either. Funny thing is that I find it easier to diet when I am alone than when I am dating. I always have a hard time dating mostly because I am really shy but it doesn't bother me as I am pretty independant.

Hi Everyone.

Welcome nelie. I agree with you that it can be easier to lose weight when you are alone. There seem to be so many emotional issues to contend with when you are in a relationship.

Connie - my doctorate is in industrial engineering and this is the field I work in, although I do research. Thanks for the ideas for meeting people. I live near a city but the town I live in has mostly married people with children (true suburb). I am planning on joining the YMCA in September but it is the club where the families go (the other clubs are much more expensive so I am sticking with the YMCA). I'm sure I'll meet some people though. I have also been thinking about volunteering but have not decided what I want to do or where I would volunteer. I like animals but feel like I should volunteer somewhere that has more people. :) I think I am still adjusting to the whole house and new life thing. One day at a time and hopefully it will fall into place and the relationships will come too.

Connie - has your week gotten better?

Ang

Help!! I've Been Held Hostage By A Fat, Depressed Woman!!
 

Hi there,

First, let me re-introduce myself. I am LA. I started this thread WAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYY back when. And I just dropped it like a hot potato :lol: Actually what happened was I get really fired up and then like a lot of others, I got depressed, busy, lazy...whatever..and stopped posting.

I am so thrilled you ladies (and gentlemen?!?!) have been going so strong. I honestly thought this thread had died until I was at work today doing some research and saw that it was going strong way to go!!!!!!!!!!!!! :bravo:

A little bit about myself: I am now 34 years old :eek: I am not in a relationship (not unless you count the fact that I'm bitter about my job lol )
I have 2 cats (Caesar & Brutus). I live in TN and have about 90 pounds to lose :sp:

I guess I can't really explain why I have such a problem with my weight. I am pretty happy with my life, I enjoy eating healthy foods and I like to go for walks. These things should work together for the overall benefit of myself but I seem to stick to what I know: EAT ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING!!!!! :cbg:

So I can't explain why I do the things I do. I'm the first person in line for food and the the first to go back for seconds. My portion control is out of control and I honestly think at some point my thighs are going to be engaged lol

So if you do'nt mind welcoming me back into the fold :dance: I would be very happy to try again.

LA

Welcome back LA. Of course we would love to have you back - the more the merrier. I can totally understand how energy and motivation can come and go. When I'm depressed it is really hard to accomplish anything, including posting to great forums. :D

I am also 34 with two cats (Noah and Peanut). Unfortunately/fortunately (??) I think I know exactly why I don't lose weight. I'm not a psychologist, but are sure you are totally happy with your life? Do you limit your eating with just willpower then?

Today is another day with opportunities and hope. Ang

Dixie, sounds like we have a lot in common! ;)

Welcome to nelie and welcome back to LA!

I'm still finding my way here at 3FC and trying to figure out where I can find a thread that relates to me and is active. Glad I found this one. :)

Tuesday 8/3
 

:wave: Hello everyone. Welcome to Nelie.

Welcome back LA. Glad to meet a Tennessee neighbor; I have lived in middle Tennessee all of my life. I have one cat (Tom). I live alone but am in a relationship. I have been using the WW program since May (I've lost 25 lbs on WW and I lost the other 25 lbs on my own). I became a type 2 diabetic last year so I had no choice but to change to a healthier lifestyle.

Ang - so far this week has been better. I shouldn't have let those things get to me. I still give in to my emotions. Part of the problem Monday - I was also dealing with issues from the weekend with my significant other and then I fell and all the emotions surfaced.

SheriVa - I forgot to congratulate you on your weight loss :bravo:

Lilwolfe - hope you are having a good day.

Well check in with you again all later this week. Bye for now.

Thanks for the welcome. I feel left out by not having any pets ;) I thought about getting a cat, well my ex boyfriend suggested that I should but I am not sure about that as of yet.

I actually didn't realize that a lot of my weight issues were also tied to emotional issues. I tried for years to lose weight and I may lose 20-30 lbs, just to gain it back but I never really felt good about myself. I have been plagued with self esteem issues since I was a child and it became quite acceptable for me to be that way. A couple months ago though, I realized that it was unacceptable for me to have low self esteem, so I actively worked on feeling good about myself. Since then, it has been quite easy for me to watch my diet and exercise. So, I honestly feel I'll be able to lose weight and keep it off this time and hopefully I'm not wrong.

Hi Ladies,

Thanks for the welcome. I am doing okay. It's been a bad day at work--ugh!! I have done so-so eating wise. I have a lot of trouble at nights. I'm alone and not much to do. That's a big no no :nono: How are the rest of you.

Connie, I live in East Tennessee. :) Shyangel, I know I'm not totally happy with my life but if you knew how I was about 2 years ago, you would realize I am lot happier now.

Anyway, hope all is well

LA

Hi Everyone - I hope hump day is bringing good times.

Connie - Giving in to my emotions is my biggest problems. Unfortunately I don't know how to control it, even if my brain is aware of what is happening. This is a new day and a new challenge. Hang in there.

nelie - how did you go about feeling good about yourself? I have been struggling with this problem for a long time and can't seem to break the cycle. I would love any advice or a place to start. The "fake it until you make it" theory just doesn't work for me. :D

LA - I'm glad your life is better than it was. I guess I just realize that most of my problems with weight/exercising regularly/eating right center around how happy I am and how in control I am of my life. I try changing the actions because I must, but I am also desperately trying to make lasting emotional and mental changes so the battle with weight won't be so hard. I am alone too and hate it. I know exactly what you mean about eating at night. Lately I have just been trying to stay out of the house so I don't just sit on the couch and eat. There are problems with this approach though - nothing gets cleaned or done at my house. :( Do you have any hobbies or are there any groups or volunteering that you could do to keep you busier at night and increase your socializing? You can always PM me if you want to chat privately. I don't mean to preach or anything but I can relate totally and the only thing that keeps me going is the fact that I must keep trying.

Ang

I seem to be quite a bit younger than most of the posters in this thread, but maybe I missed some people. :)

I'm 23 years old and live in Concord, NC where I bought my own house last year. I work in Charlotte which is a great city (except for the traffic) and has a lot to offer a single gal like myself, but my weight and low self esteem has kept me from going out and enjoying life.

I have no pets, I had a cat for awhile, but I let my old roommate take her when she moved out. I was tired of the cat tearing up my house. LOL

I'm very, very, VERY single... I haven't had a "serious" relationship since I was in high school. I know that I'm not going to meet someone while I'm sitting at home reading or on the computer, but I don't feel like going out and getting ignored by all the men out there becaue I'm not a size 8. It is a vicious cycle that I know is not healthy, but I can't get myself out of that habit.

I have 63.5 pounds to lose to get down to my goal weight of 135. I'm 5'3" and 135 is my first goal. If I can reach that I will then decide if I want to keep going for another 10-15 pounds.

hi there! newbie here!!!
 

hi everyone! i would like to join your group. i have been to this site on and off for quite a few years but i never really felt right because everyone talked so much about spouses, kids, etc. which i have neither of.

i am almost 39 and have my own house in corning, ny. i live with my best friend (a dog) of 11 years, named molly. i have had her since she was a pup and has been thru thick and thin with me. i am not in any relationship right now. i don't have the self esteem to even try after a bad break up with "the one" last fall. i need to lose about 60 or so lbs and have been trying for what seems a lifetime. i have been on the rollercoaster so long, i don't know if i am going up the hill or down. it all seems the same anymore. i work 2 jobs so i don't go stir crazy from loneliness. that was my solution to my break up to keep my mind busy. i go out once in a while but i'm tired of the bar scene and really miss doing the things i enjoy (camping, movies, etc) because i have no one to do it with as my friends are married and have families.

well, i don't want to spill all my secrets at once and i do have to get ready for work. my full time job is second shift so i don't usually get on the computer till after work. i get really bored after work because i am so awake and nothing to do at midnite except eat of course, so i thought making new friends (in the same boat) will help. thanks for listening and i look forward to chatting with everyone!
kathy

Well, I seem to be quite a bit older than the average poster on 3FC so we'll call it even. ;) I think it's great to have a sharing of information with all kinds (and ages) of people. We can always learn from others, regardless of age.

I hear ya, sister! I am a homebody, too. Part of that is because I adore (and require) a good bit of alone time, but part of it is because of what you said. As I've said above, I'm older and wiser and tired of the B.S. so I'd really rather stay home (or hang with friends) than deal with the trauma of meeting and dating new guys. As much as I'd love to have a quality "someone" in my life, I feel like it's just not worth the frustration sometimes (of getting out there to find someone, much less a quality someone!).

shyangel,
The way i went from feeling crappy about myself to feeling good was realizing that it was a necessity for me in order to have a normal life. My (now ex) boyfriend at the time was seriously bothered by my self esteem issues and attributed it greatly to the problems in our relationship. So something dawned on me in that other aspects of my life (work and social life) could also be negatively impacted by low self esteem. I made a concious effort to change and at first, I did something corny. I looked at myself in the mirror and said "you are beautiful, you are smart and you are deserve to have a fulfilling life". I haven't done that for a while but whenever I start thinking negative thoughts about myself, I stop them then I tell myself positive things. Losing weight, of course helps your self esteem (or it should) because you are seeing positive changes in your life. Additionally, you should believe that the things you do to lose weight are positive, no matter if the weight loss is slower than you want it to be. I feel good because I know I am exercising and I'm eating well and trying to make positive changes in my life. It is very hard at first and you may not always be perfect but you just have to keep working on it. The important part is never allow yourself to think badly about yourself.

I hope this makes sense.

Hello Everyone and Welcome to all of the newbies! :wave:

It seems to me that we all have a lot of things and issues in common regardless of our ages. I am so happy to see that so many of us own houses. As single women this doesn't happen all that often. FairyTale - I can't believe you have a house at 23! I think it's great. I just bought my first house and at 34 am a little overwhelmed with the whole thing. I hate to say it, but when you're not that handy like me there is something to be said for having "access" to a man (of course they must be handy themselves). :lol:

I think low self esteem is one of the reasons why so many of us don't get out enough. Kathy - I also thought about getting another job to have something to do to fill my time. I hate going home and being alone, partially because I tend to eat too much but mostly because I feel isolated from the rest of the world at home. I hope that maybe you can enjoy getting on this site sometimes when you get home from work and not go eat. I know my computer is on a different floor than my kitchen so if I get on it I don't eat.

Thanks for the advice nelie. It made sense and I'll definitely do my best. Reading your post made me realize that I don't find success and happiness from just being healthier (exercising and watching food). I see it as a means to losing weight and feel frustrated and upset when I then don't lose weight, which just makes me eat more and exercise less. Vicious cycle that I am just not sure how to break. It doesn't help that I don't have anyone in my life right now that gives me external boosts of confidence and makes me feel good about myself. If anything I have the opposite problem - people making me feel like crap about myself.

Sorry for the rant but having major problems in the head this week and just not happy about life in general.

Ang

hi again
 

hey everyone! this thread is so me. it feels like everyone feels like i do except you can express yourselves better. maybe with a little practice...

Ang - i definitely feel like i'm in that viscous cycly myself. the job helps me a real lot. i got a job in a small family convenience store and the people that come in are pretty much regulars and i know them now. they are all real friendly and that keeps me connected to people in general. otherwise i would be sitting at home drowning in a sea of sorrow. right now i'm only drowning in a lake. lol!!!!

tomorrow is our company picnic at an amusement park so that should be uplifting. i like to do stuff like that but don't get the chance much so i am looking forward to a good day.

have a good weekend!
kathy

Kathy - could I come to the amusement park? :joker: I love doing stuff like that, but like you and many others I don't want to go alone so I don't do too much. I haven't been to an amusement park in two years. There is actually a 6 flags within an hour of me so there is really no excuse. I hope you have a great time. Your job at the store sounds great. Not only is it keeping you busy but the connection with the people sounds like it really adds to the benefit of the job. I'll have to keep that in mind if I seriously start to look for another job. I was thinking that it might be nice to get something for the holiday season to keep busy and to get a little extra money for presents.

I am going on in the city with some friends tomorrow night. It's not really my thing (bar scene) but I figure it is always nice to get out and I will be with a group so it is not like I'm going to pick up men or anything. I'm looking forward to dressing up though. I am always afraid that my clothes will be too tight and I'll look bad or worse, not have anything to wear. I don't fit into everything right now since I gained about 15 pounds in the last year. I also may be going to the beach Sunday. I haven't done that in a couple of years. Talk about trauma - putting on a bathing suit. Wish me luck

Anyone else have plans for the weekend?

Ang

good time
 

hey everyone - how is your weekends going? i actually had really good time at the amusement park. i am paying for it today. my body feels like i ran a triathalon. very stiff. i am not used to so much walking...but it was worth it. i had an unexpected surprise. a temp guy from work came along and i pretty much spent the day with him riding the rides and talking etc... it was a nice change to have a "male" friend and not be 3rd wheel again. it however did bring back a flood of emotions and also the thougt at the end of how i had to go home alone again. but i took the day as it was and just had fun.

ang - that job actually is actually a life saver for me. plus i need the extra $ to pay bills. i tried renting a room when i bought this house last year because it is so big and what a disaster that was. so this year i work the extra job and i am enjoying what free time i have in my home in solitude.

i was wondering what kind of diet plans everyone follows on here if the do follow any??? i am so confused about them all. i also have my mind set to get back to exercising this week. i was going to a gym for a long time but i couldn't afford it anymore and quit at the beginning of summer and have slacked off all exercise since using the excuse that it was too hot. no more excuses for me!!!!

have a relaxing sunday all !!!!
kathy

Good morning.
 

Another work week is here. :( I think the more fun I have on the weekend the more I hate weekdays - I guess it's better than the alternative of not enjoying the weekend. Kathy - I am so glad you enjoyed your time at the amusement park and what a bonus that you were able to spend time with someone. Feeling like a third wheel sucks, particularly at places where you need to pair up for rides. I hope you were able to hold on to your good feelings about the day, even when you got home. After reading your post I talked to a friend about going to our amusement park. I hope it happens because you reminded me of how much I miss them.

I had a pretty busy weekend and got a surprise call from my bf to see him late Saturday (actually early Sunday morning). It was nice to feel wanted at least in some way. Unfortunately I didn't get much sleep so Sunday was a wasted day (as far as being productive - it was not wasted emotionally since I got to see bf) for the most part. Oh well.

Kathy - I don't follow any eating or exercise plans. I had some success in the past with WW because I need to feel like I am making life choices as opposed to following a 'script' developed for a specific diet. Also, I don't think I am ready to put the dedication into following anything closely so I don't start. I don't want to then have to deal with being a 'failure'. I have done a lot of reading over the years and basically know what I need to do with exercise and eating so I try to make as many good choices as possible. A while ago I almost eliminated things like white rice, pasta and white bread to try and reduce the 'bad' carbs in my diet. For exercising I run, bike, and work in my garden. I try to do something everyday and of course I don't, but I keep trying. This goes back to dedication and the unwillingness to set a schedule and put me first (but that's a different story). What are you thinking of doing for exercise? Do you have any thoughts about what is 'wrong' with your diet or eating habits?

Ang

hi again!

ang- are we the only 2 posting here??? where is everyone??? i guess we'll just have to keep this going. lol!! i'm glad you decided to make plans for the amusement park. it made me feel like a kid again. the feelings are lingering...especially when i woke up yesterday as stiff as a board. lol!

i have tried many, many diet programs. ww seems to work good for me if i can set my mind to it. like i said before, i get home after work, am bored, and then eat, eat , eat. as for exercise, i was going to the gym but quit because of $ issues. too expensive. so now i am walking outside and doing home videos. the only thing i need to do is get on a daily schedule. i have been feeling so low and tired that i haven't done anything regularly. i walked yesterday and i'm going again today. it's a good start. :)

have a good monday!
kathy

Well I survived my first weekend back on my diet! Saturday was rough because my older brother, his wife and assorted friends and family were driving through the area on their way to the beach. They stopped by to see my house and we all went to Bob Evans for breakfast... It all looked sooooooo good, but I was better. :) I ordered two eggs and toast. No greasy breakfast meat, no sausage gravy, no cheese omlettes... *sigh* It all looked so good, but I was proud of my willpower!

The rest of the weekend was pretty easy to get through. I'm used to snacking all through the weekend while I relax so I just ate smaller meals every few hours to get that "snacking" feeling. On Sunday I had cereal and toast for brunch around 11, a small salad around 4, and a bbq sandwich and left-over mashed potatoes around 7. To top off the night I had a Hershey's bar with almonds and I still had a few extra calories at the end of the day.

My stomach is starting to shrink... The first few days back on the diet I was STARVING by the time I got home from work and I had no patience to actually cook, but I still managed to stay on plan.

Hopefully this week I can start back on an excercise program... I know that will help just as much as eating less, but I just haven't found the willpower for that yet. LOL

But as the scales continue to go down (2.5 pounds so far!!!!) I'm sure I'll want to do something to give my metabolism a little boost.

Hi All!

Kathy - I definitely need to do something to make me feel like a kid again. Being an adult is just too stressful. I think you are doing great by walking. I don't belong to a gym either because I just can't justify spending the money. The outdoors are a better playground anyway, at least with the good weather. You say you eat when you're bored, I don't exercise and make bad eating choices when I am upset (like tonight). I ate a pint of Ben & Jerry's ice cream and now regret it terribly since my stomach is killing me. Have you been feeling low about anything in particular?

IWMFT - congratulations on making tough and good choices this weekend. Eating out and eating with people can make things very tough. Good for you for having such determination and will power. Can you send some my way? :lol:

Are you aiming for a certain amount of calories a day? Eating a number of small meals is recommended by a lot of people. I'm glad it is working for you. I am trying to do that, or at least build in two snacks a day (am and pm) so I get hungry less and eat less when I sit down for my 'meals'. So far it really helps to have a protein shake or bar at about 4pm so I don't pig out at dinner (unless I eat with my emotions like tonight and then it doesn't matter if I snack). Keep us updated on how the snacking plan works for you. Congratulations too on losing 2.5 pounds. Do you have an idea of what type of exercise you want to try?

As you may have guessed, no exercise for me tonight. It was all I could to do go to the farm and water some of the plants. I really wanted to just sit at home but I couldn't let the plants suffer, at least not all of them.

Keep up the good work and hopefully we'll hear from some other people soon. ;)

Ang

hi
 

hey there! another work day done. i'm glad that it is over.

iwmft - congrats on the 2.5 lbs gone 4ever!! :) you made wise decisions at bob evans and enjoyed the good company instead. that is something i need to work on. i need to put the focus on the important stuff. what plan is it you are following??? i decided this week myself to get back into the exercise and so far so good. maybe you can send out "good choice" willpower and i can send out "get moving" willpower. ;)

ang - i agree i would rather be outside than in a sweaty, smelly gym in the summer. also, my dog appreciates it. :lol: as far as the ice cream thing, for the last 2 weeks or so i have been eating it by the gallon. this week i cut it out. i think i have been low about nothing and everything. it's hard to pinpoint, but after my weekend i am feeling a little better this week. i need to work on my mindset. ever since this last bad relationship i just haven't been myself. i guess i'm mad at myself for jumping in again and getting burned. it took me almost 2 years to take that plunge again and when i plunged it was off the deep end. i always say time will heal everything, but now that i am getting very close to 40 i am rethinking that saying. well, enough boo-hooing... what drove you to visit ben & jerry???

thanks for listening, it is helping tremendously. it is nice to know there are others out there who understand.

have a happy humpday!
kathy

I'm not following a plan other than restricted calories. I love carbs too much to do much of anything else. :lol: But I learn to make smarter choices very quickly on a restricted calorie diet, because 1400-1500 calories doesn't go far if I choose to have a Big Mac for lunch....

:goodluck: on the willpower! I really need to :tread: but by the time I get home I'm too tired and hungry to do anything... *sigh* I would get up early, but I don't do mornings well. :lol:

Hi Everyone,

I'm 36 years old, 5'9" tall, weight approximately 247 pounds and I wear size 18-20 in clothing.

I'm single as single can get! All of my life, I've wanted to get married and build a life with someone, but it just didn't happen that way. You know the term, "always a bridemaid but never a bride?" Well, that describes me perfectly. Every one of my friends is married and have been for years, which has always made get togethers kind of difficult for me because I'm always the one without a companion.

Now I'm focusing on changing my life for the better and making changes in areas of my life where I need improvement. Before, I would be so depressed and lonely, wondering what was wrong with me and why I could never find someone to really love me. I had so much love inside to share with someone, but I made the mistake of giving that love away to men who didn't deserve it and wanted to use me, and I didn't realize it at the time. All I knew was that I was lonely as **** and in need of some love and attention from a man. The problem was, that they were looking for sex, not love, and had no interest in being honest and building a life with someone.

I thank God everyday that I wised up before I ended up married to a wife beater, a stalker or worse. I came to the realization that I have to love myself FIRST before I can expect someone else to love me. Also, there were areas of my life that I wasn't happy with, such as my weight (I need to lose 75 pounds) and my finances, and how can I expect a man have his stuff together before I get involved with him if I don't have mine together?

So I've decided to lose this weight and get healthy. I'm in the process of remodeling my house and about to buy a new car. I've started working on my finances by cleaning up my credit reports and looking at investments for my money. I'm also looking into poetry readings, art galleries and other activities and attractions that I'm interested in, and I'm going to go NOW, not once I have a "man" to go with me. I want to enjoy my life now, not continue to put it on hold waiting for "Mr Right" to show up and change my life for the better.
It's up to me to change my life and be happy, I can't put that kind of power into someone else's hands.

So for right now, I'm alone but not lonely. My feet are in the blocks and I'm preparing to run this journey to find out who I am and what I want out of my life and to simply enjoy each day as it comes. . . . . .

Ephiphany... WELCOME!!! Good for you for making that decision to lose weight!

I'm also "single as single can be" but I have a good life with friends and family. Not that I wouldn't welcome the attention of a good man... ;)

How do you like Chicago? I've never been up that way other than a quick layover in O'Hare.

Thanks for the welcome!

I've lived my entire life in Chicago except for two years away at college in Kansas, but I love it here. I couldn't imagine living anywhere else!

I guess what I like most about Chicago is the diversity, and that it has so many things to do and see. There is no way that you can come to Chicago for more than a day and not find something good to see, do or eat. It has everything. The best pizza, italian food, chinese food, indian food, soul food, cajun food, and on and on.

I think the best time of the year to visit is in June and July because all of our yearly festivals are going on: The Jazz Fest, The Blues Fest, The Gospel Fest, The Country Music Festival, and the mother of ALL festivals: The Taste of Chicago. People come from around the country for the Taste. Hundreds of restaurants, outdoor concerts (which are free) plus a carnival in Grant Park, which is one of the largest city parks in the US (like NY's Central Park).

We also have outdoor movies in Grant Park in the summer. You just show up with your blankets, food and drinks, and lawn chairs and their is a festival of movies that are shown on a giant movie screen in the middle of the park. They give out a list of the scheduled movies which are shown on Tuesday nights every week, and they show everything from old classics like Gone With The Wind to action movies and animated movies. It's like going to the drive-in without the car and without having to pay to get in, and it's cool to see so many people from different races, religions and backgrounds all together laying out with their families and friends under the cool summer breeze and enjoying a really good movie.

You'd love Chicago, and I hope that one day you'll get the opportunity to visit.

Amen, sister! I have always been saddened by "larger girls" who felt the needed to "give it away" (sexually) in order to get attention from men. We must love and respect ourselves FIRST before we expect love and respect from others, male or otherwise.

And another amen!! :D Sounds like you have your head on straight!

Hi Everyone.

Kathy - what type of exercise have you been doing? I can relate to having relationship issues affect your mood. If possible try to pinpoint what is going on so maybe you can change things. Luckily I don't eat ice cream too often. I was at the store and there was a great sale so I couldn't pass up buying a couple of pints. I was good with the first but not the second. I won't buy ice cream again for a long time. If it's in the house I eat it (chocolate and other sweets too). I know this is easier said then done, but don't beat yourself up over the past. Tomorrow is a new day. Try to learn from the past but don't let it get in the way of the future. I am sure there is someone great out there for you - just be patient and open to it. In the meantime feel free to share all you want.

IWMFT - any chance that you could exercise at lunch time on some days? I can't get up early either and very soon after work is not going to work at all because of the weather. Another thought - I just starting having a protein bar around 4 or 5 and then I am not hungry for dinner so fast. If your schedule permits you could do something like that and then go workout and then eat. Just a thought...

Welcome Epiphany. As I read your post I felt like you were writing about me, except that I have not had the courage to dedicate myself to self improvement and have also not been lucky enough to not make a lot of horrid mistakes in my life with guys that didn't deserve me. I give you a lot of credit. Thanks for joining us.

Ang

P.S. Where is LA?

I would love to be able to, but my gym membership is about 1/2 from where I work (close to my home) so working out at lunch isn't an option. :( I'm planning on going Saturday morning before it gets too crowded and having on of the personal trainers help me create a good beginner's weight program that I can do 3 days a week. I'll start with that and when that becomes routine I'll try to pick up an aerobics class or something.

I know I'll feel better once I get my exercise going, but I'm just so tired (and partially so lazy) that I can't get moving. I've starting taking a vitamin suppliment to help my Iron levels, I think that is a big part of my problem.

hi
 

hey everyone! welcome epiphany!! are u sure you didn't read my mind before you wrote your opening message. i could of swore i thought that whole thing and forgot to write it. :lol: i am also "as single as single can be" and i also understand the finance aspect. i bought a house last year and just purchase a new car this past march. i still have lots of cards to pay off though. someday i'd like to go to chicago to see oprah. just a small dream of mine! :D

my exercise is mostly walking and videos. however, i bought (sucker) a lateral thigh trainer (as seen on tv) monday and recieved it wednesday(that was fast). i have been using it for a few minutes at a time. it is fun, but boy does it kill my legs after like 2 minutes. i will have to build up my time slowly. i'm starting out just doing commercials. so now i won't head to the kitchen. :^:

i am having a very stressful day/nite. i am verrryy worried about my mom who was in the path of that hurricane and i haven't heard from her since 2pm this afternoon. i am hoping no news is good news.

well, i hope everyone has a good weekend!
kathy

IWMFT- are the vitamins helping? I can understand the location of the gym making it impossible to workout at lunch. I guess I am lucky that way that I run outside and we have showering facilities at work. It's a pain but better than not running at all. Did you get to the gym this morning? How was it with the trainer? I am thinking that I should join a gym for lifting and get a trainer to outline a plan. I have a friend who did it and she seems to be doing great. I'll be curious to hear about your experience.

Kathy - good for you for doing the thigh trainer. I am sure it will be helpful and by using it during commercials it will be doubly beneficial. Good thinking. :) I hope your mother is ok and the hurricane missed her.

Ang

Hi Ladies,

How are you all? I see there are MORE MEMBERS!!!!
Woo Hoo

Well, I did a bad thing today. I ate too much and then went to buy clothes. I should have bought the clothes first then went to eat!!
I am fat, I need exercise but I have no motivation. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?!?!

EpiphenyI love chicago. My cousin lives there. We went up to see her and had the best time. Went to Rivinia Park (or Rividia?!??!) and took in a concert. Went to Second City. Had WONDERFUL SUSHI, it was a blast. You don't get to do that much here so it was nice.

Okay, well hope everyone is well

LA

Hi there people. I saw the thread and was thinking it may be a good place to chat with other singles. I'm too old to be discussing it! have always been single, happily so but sure wish I could put more fun in my life. Have four cats I've taken in with one or more of their lives gone. One was barely hanging on the eighth, but he's here with me still! Got a horse too.

From my stats below you can see I've got a good 30 lbs to lose. Hoping you all can give me the support. I'm in the middle of a hopeless binge day and feeling lower than low. Even the Olympics aren't cheering me up. In fact, they're making it worse because I certainly don't feel very athletic today! Well, hope to hear from you. This thread is huge. Hope I can get to know some of you before long.

Bye for now!

Welcome Red Balloon,

I hope you are feeling better. I've been on many a binge. I was feeling so low and bad about myself last week But today, I got up and went to church. Went to lunch with a friend then took a nice, long walk. Not a bad Sunday I think. Perhaps you should take a quick walk. I was amazed how much better I felt. JUST WALKING!!!!!!!
I plan to pack my shoes tomorrow and go walking again.

Well gonna go hop in the shower. Have a good day

LA

thanks for the welcome tryinghard. Congrats on getting out and walking yesterday. I love walking. I've just gotten out of the habit of leisurely ones for no real purpose. I should do more of those, you're right.

Well, I'm feeling 100 percent better in any case. Yesterday I decided to salvage the day. Dusted off an old Cindy Crawford tape and did it! Hurrah! Yes, I felt sooo much better. Today I decided to **** with work, left two hours early and went to the gym. Jogged 5 K and did some chest. Just back after a 50 min. walk home and having a quick bite before hitting the hay. Must be up before 4 a.m. tomorrow morning.

Where is everyone here? Maybe it's still the weekend by you all.

Check you out later.

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hey everyone! welcome red balloon. i too have been on many a binge, especially on a lonely saturday nite with nothing better to do. it's hard that my friends are married, so that leaves me to fend for myself. i am not one to go out by myself. this past saturday i killed 2, yes, 2 whole hours at walmart. i get so caught up in that place that i lose track of time, but i guess it's better than sitting home with a pizza. :lol:

i'm still on track with the exercise, and the lateral thigh trainer hasn't become a shoe holder. i actually like that thing. i also bought a silly thing for myself at wallyworld. a hula hoop!!! :D i always loved those things as a child so i figured what the heck. it's exercise right??!! whatever works.

i was curious about something, how come this thread isn't under some club or group thread?? it just seems out of place here. it's not important i was just curious. i'm glad to have met everyone no matter where we write. :)

i hope everyone has a great week!
kathy

corning, hello. thanks for the welcome. Yes, I understand, probably we all do, the times when you gotta pull yourself up by the bootstraps 'cause the friends are snuggling? at home. But 2 hours in Walmart's not that bad. At least you were on your feet (I assume) and moving around (assuming again!).

About the thread, yes, I think it should be over in the support group forum. Also, I was wondering. Do you think we could start a new one. This one is so long and takes a while loading. My online time is super expensive. Just a thought.

Check you out later!

Hi Everyone.

Welcome back LA and welcome Redballoon. I'm glad both of you have rebounded from your bad days. You seem to be doing so much better. Redballoon - when you get going you really go! Congratulations on doing the tape, walking, going to the gym, etc. I think LA was right that sometimes little steps are good - walking can really change your mood which can then lead to who knows what.

Kathy - good job staying with your exercise. I was home Saturday night alone too and it is hard to not overeat. I agree that walking around Walmart is better than eating at home. I just wish I could even get motivated at those times to go to the store or do something.

I'm going to try and start this threadin Support Groups. If I'm successful please join me there.

Ang

shyangel, thanks for the welcome!

I found the new thread on the other forum. Here's the link:

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=45236

Everyone, come on over!