I counted calories and yoyo dieted for decades, literally. It was hard and it did suck. If you are interested in alternatives, the approach that I am finally having success with that doesn't suck is One Meal A Day (OMAD). However, I got to OMAD by slowly shrinking an eating window and I would not suggest going cold turkey to OMAD. There is some reason to think there are benefits to restricting feeding to a much larger window of 12 hours. My husband has success with an 8 hour eating window. On top of OMAD, I have a lot of bits of other approaches mixed in, but OMAD is my mainstay, the big difference, and why it doesn't suck for me.
OMAD is a form of Intemittent Fasting (IF) and you probably want to look into it on your own to see if you are interested in trying it. There are a lot of studies starting to come in (both animal and human) that indicate it might have health benefits and help with losing weight. Here's our
OMAD thread on 3FC which has some links you might find interesting.
Other alternatives to hard-core calorie counting include low-carb (Atkins and family), Intuitive Eating, and Beck (Behavioral Cognitive Therapy), all of which have threads here on 3FC.
Best of luck, I hope you find an approach the works well for you!