[Aayden]

I've been a member of this forum for quite some time but I never really posted after introducing myself. I never posted because I suppose I'm afraid of opening up to people. Afraid of being teased by people. I should have known better because people here are going through or have gone through the same thing I am right now. I didn't realize it then but I do now and that's why I've returned as I fight to get healthy once more.

My name is Aayden, I'm 24 years old. I'm a stay at home mother of 1 and Wife to the love of my life. I'm 5'2" and 290 lbs. I can't play with my daughter outside without feeling winded and sick within minutes and I feel ashamed to step out of my house let alone go places like the beach or the store. I've been teased by other wives in the area, told how my husband as a soldier should be ashamed to be married to a fat cow like me. It's time to make a change in my life. Not only for me but for my family and to show everyone, I can be a better person!

I hope to make friends here, gain support and ideas and share my experiences. My goal is to make it to lose at least 40lbs before my husband comes home from deployment!

[Jacqui_D]

Hi Aayden! I'm so glad you've decided to reintroduce yourself and get more involved this time! Yes, so many here know what you are going through so you are among friends! Everyone here wants you to succeed! And you will! C'mon over to "Chicks Up for a Challenge" under Support groups and join in the fun there. Those threads are always hopping, everyone is very supportive, and a challenge will help keep you motivated and accountable. (I'm in the monthly weight loss challenge because it's easiest for me to tackle one small goal at a time, lol!) Good luck! And please, thank your hero hubby for me for his service!

[Mrs Snark]

Welcome Aayden!

You're not going to be teased here, and the kind of people who said those awful things to you aren't even worth knowing. Put that doo-doo right out of your mind, don't waste one more minute thinking about it.

Yes, you want to get healthy, for all the reasons you stated, but you are already a nice, good person -- right this minute, doesn't matter what you weigh! You may want to make your health "better", but you are a "better" person than those others right out of the gate.

This is a great site with lots of supportive, lovely people, so jump right in and join everyone!

[belovedspirit]

Aayden! Something I most appreciate about this site is how positive and supportive people are. It's a great place!
Best of luck with all of your goals! You CAN do this and we'll be cheering you on!

[vintagecat]

Aayden,

Welcome. It sounds like you have a lot to live well for. The teasers and haters show only how ignorant and ugly on the inside they are. Ignore them. It's easy to say but hard to do I understand.

At my very high I was somewhere over 285. I was afraid to weigh but an annual physical caught me near the peak. I remember how winded I got. A video that we were sending to my family on review showed me huffing and puffing just walking across the floor. I was mortified enough to drop into the 240s and I felt better. I was near a seatbelt extender at my higher weights and I just slid into an airline seat with the arms down because I'm a "round" person rather than wide, the tray table however was a problem. We all have our bottoms. You might have reached yours.

Make a plan, buy good foods and take care of yourself. Best of luck to you.

Cathy