[Marylsmom]

everyone here is saying the same thing and it is absolutely true that you have to love yourself first. I feel for you because I was in your place when I was your age. I started bike riding and hiking like a crazy woman and found out what a strong powerful woman I am. I am now 48 and after back problems, and weight gain, I still feel I am a strong, powerful woman. I'd rather be overweight and feel that strength inside than thin and unsure of myself. BTW men are extremely turned on by self confident women!!

[gamechanger]

My Friend,
Please focus on yourself. Your are so young and have a beautiful life to build, so you don't have time for shallow males who obviously have significant emotional issues. Believe these other forum friends and me when we tell you that the right man will love you no matter what the bathroom scales says. What is most important is that you love you and that you take good care of yourself in every way.

[Kaitie9399]

Anyone who cannot accept you for who you are is not worthy to have you.

You are a divine woman who deserves to be treated like a queen--it doesn't matter if you are 100 pounds or 600 pounds. You are a daughter of divinity.

[ainiclive]

Hey atithyaa Don't feel depressed, rejected. they are jerks. I have one friend she is fat . But she enjoy the way she is and every one likes her for what she is.Some time she maintain her shape but not every time. I know the right person won't say a word about you. Keep working .

[amwm2wm3mm]

I know this is a few days old now but wanted to say that everyone here is right. My husband and I started dating when I weighed about 160. When we married, I was three months post partum and weighed 220. He loved me just as much then as he did when I weighed 160. If a man can't love you for all of you, he isn't worth your time.

[AlmostMe]

You've received tons of good advice here - but I'll say that the advice to concentrate on diet and not exercise probably isn't the best. Exercise can improve your mood and make you feel better about the amazing things your body can do. But don't torture yourself in the gym!!!! Find something you love doing. The key to good health is movement and good quality food in reasonable proportions....and that can be at any size.

Ditching boyfriends is easier said than done. But the first guy...people cheat for all kinds of reasons - very rarely do they cheat with another girl because she's skinnier. Really. Really. Really. PM me if you want to know more.

As for the second boyfriend. He sounds worst than the first. Lots of people cheat at sometime in their lives (not excusing it!) but someone who is too ashamed to bring you in front of his friends??? Someone who tells you that you're not quite good enough and that he'd rather have a 'sexier' gf?? That is some seriously bad behaviour. I'd go so far as to say that is emotional abuse - and being with him is not going to make you feel better. In fact... he'll probably make you feel worse, you'll go through punishing and unhealthy rounds of restrictive dieting and re-gaining with rock bottom self-esteem.

[bbmains]

not trying to break you up...since I am a male but to be perfectly honest. If he says those things to you now and you do lose weight...next will be "guys like girls with big tits" or "guys like blondes best"...seems like he will always be unhappy and just sneaks away for some booty call so his friends don't judge him. Go for a man that love you for you, whether you lose weight or not. That's just me (another man) talking...personally I love big girls!!!however we are ALL trying to get slimmer here!

[Nowl]

Firstly, I agree these men aren't right for you and that you should focus on yourself and your own happiness for a while. You will discover a strength you probably didn't even know you had.

Next I have to comment on the support I've seen in this thread and all over this forum. I am so inspired by the intelligence, the insight, and the strength behind every post/poster. Truly amazing.

[bargoo]

The minute a boyfriend said he couldn't introduce me to his friends because I wasn't slim and sexy enough he would be history.

[MusicalDreamer]

Ditch the boyfriend. If he cant handle you at your worst he doesn't deserve you at your best. My ex was an ******* too. He cheated constantly and eventually left me for his best friend(who was bigger than me & ended up hurting him back) and I moved on. My current boyfriend said he loves me whether I'm a size 8(my goal) or 18(my current size). Focus on your goals and if you just so happen to find someone that loves you for who you are, not what you look like, you'll have your happiness. I'm cheering for you!
-Kuma