[chubbycanuck]

Hello,

I found this forum and have lurked around a little bit, it seems to be a friendly supportive place and I need moral support.
I am currently 219lbs and should be around 150lbs. I have slowly (key word there) been improving my health and lifestyle for the last three years to get down from 250lbs to what I weighed in at this morning.
I just need help for a final push, my life seems to be at a standstill because of my weight and to move forward I need to just finally get rid of the weight.

I was born in NZ but am currently immigrating to Canada (British Columbia) and live in a dinky little fishing town on the coast. My BF is very fit and healthy and I am sick of constantly trying to catch up on hiking trips or trailing behind when we go for walks. He was chubby as a child but has always been fit and healthy and doesn't really battle with food like I do so he tries to encourage but it comes across as him either being a bossy jerk or like he is trying to train a small puppy. He does genuinely try he just doesn't understand.

I was a ballerina for 12 years, I danced 40 hours a week and starved myself for so long that when I burnt out and gave it up my weight exploded. I was a tiny slip when I danced, I am 5' 6" and was under 100lbs. Once I stopped dancing I gained 30lbs a year until I hit my max weight. I haven't ever really dieted at all. I tried the courtney cox diet (lasted about 6 hours) once and hated it. When I was dancing I didn't diet, I kept my weight down by simply not eating. When I need to lose weight now that's what I do. I don't eat at all, I just drink diet coke to fill myself up.

I need to figure out a way to find a happy medium. I can't starve this weight off which is my natural inclination, and I also can't have fast food 3 meals a day for weeks on end. I just struggle to get off the stave/binge cycle.

In the next two years I want to have children, I am going back to university to retrain for a new career and the BF and I want to get married. I don't feel comfortable doing any of these things at this weight.
I hope this isn't too long! I really look forward to being a member of this community

[Lovely]

Welcome to 3FC!

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS! The changes you've made over the last three years are going to be the same things you continue to do! Small, permanent, healthy changes. One step at a time, one day a time.

You've slowly taken off the weight, yes, but more importantly you've KEPT weight off.

We'd love to have you as a member of the community! Look around, and start posting wherever you're comfortable.

[lucky8]

your not alone i have 95 to shred. My goal was about half that but ive looked at things realisticly and i know id still be unhappy and still classed as overweight so if im gona do this i have to do it properly and for good.

GOOD LUCK CHICK

[bellastarr]

i set a goal of losing 100 lbs.... the last time i weighed myself was in february at 238.5. i refuse to step on the scale but know that i have made progress.. even though i don't know the exact number i know when i started and even now i know the enormity off having to lose soooo much weight. one of the reasons i won't weigh myself is because if i see ok i lost 30 i will still be thinking omg i still have 70 to go

my advice would be as hard as it is to literally take it one pound at a time and know that as each pound comes off you are another pound closer to your goal..

best of luck

[BudgetBaby]

Welcome, Chubbycanuck! Congratulations on the weight loss you've already had!

I'd encourage you not to put off your other goals based on the number on the scale. Everyone here either wants to lose weight or did lose the weight and wants to keep it off. There's nothing wrong with that at all. But putting off university or a new career or marriage won't help you get thin a bit faster.

I've known too many women who put their lives on hold because they feel too fat to do anything. They aren't. Fat women have good careers, good marriages, and good kids every day. But people who put off life hoping to get thin first, usually end up fat and without a life.

That said, I hope you do very well with your weight loss. I think you will.