[Rainy]

Originally Posted by jeffro

Solid advice... I think maybe Im just being a wimp and want to take the easiest route possible - meaning it'd be so much easier to explain loose skin, scars, etc. to someone who is familiar with these issues, but it'd be a little tougher to talk about it with someone who's not.

...but if I find the right girl it shouldn't be a problem. I guess I had it in my head that since being overweight shapes personalities, I'd be more compatible with someone who's also been through the same thing.

I completely understand where you're coming from with that. I don't find it being "Wimpy" or being "The easiest route". I see it more along the lines of standards. If you were to find a girl that never had to worry about her weight, she isn't going to understand why you watch what you eat, or why you exercise. Explaining that isn't always easy either.

[alisoninwonderland]

Originally Posted by Rainy

I completely understand where you're coming from with that. I don't find it being "Wimpy" or being "The easiest route". I see it more along the lines of standards. If you were to find a girl that never had to worry about her weight, she isn't going to understand why you watch what you eat, or why you exercise. Explaining that isn't always easy either.

Exactly.

[jeffro]

As long as she's a good person, I think she'd understand. Just gotta find her now!

I'm honestly concerned about the physical part of the relationship as well... Im in great shape now but I've still got loose skin on my stomach and sides as well as scars on my chest from having loose skin removed. That sh-t sucks and is incredibly awkward to talk about. But I feel like it's necessary to explain whats up before things get intimate. If I can find the right person I'll have no problem opening up and talking about it, but I need to find a girl who's understanding enough to get it.

Thoughts? I'm just thinking things through here.

[Rainy]

Well good luck!

[alisoninwonderland]

Originally Posted by jeffro

As long as she's a good person, I think she'd understand. Just gotta find her now

You'll find her. You're adorable and you seem like a sweet guy. She's out there... or on here? Who knows.

[Rtsmme4life]

Of course your welcome here! Good luck on your search for love