[Shellmae]

Hi everyone!

I'm Shellmae and I am new to online communities and 3FC. I have a lot of my plate right now and really need some support in my effort to lose weight. I have two kids and am just now switching careers and going back to school to become a nurse. The thought of taking care of my kids, going to full time intense school, and trying to lose weight is really daunting - and I just feel like I need some support from people who can understand me. I'm so glad to be here....and so nervous about taking care of everything I am trying to do in my life right now.....

One of the main reasons I joined this forum is because I just got overwhelmed tonight and totally broke down and ate 10 cookies and a huge amount of cake - and I just feel terrible. I had really been trying to stick to my diet (WW) and have been doing well. But I reverted back to my old ways of dealing with stress and worry by eating, and that is a slippery spiral I just can't go back down. That is how I got overweight in the first place. I need to find new ways to deal with the stress and overwhelmingness of life - because I am going to be having a lot of it this year!

[AR4life]

Hi Shellmae, welcome to 3FC
You have a lot to deal with, take it easy on yourself hun. Find a group on here that fits your style and keep checking in.
Done is done, go from here, have a cup of tea and start over tomorrow. Good luck with the schooling! way to go

[randomcards]

Welcome, glad to have you here.

If you search through the forums you will find a lot of good information and support about emotional or stress eating or whatever you want to call it.

I think one of the biggest things I've been trying to do in my journey is to have an individual failure ---- which will happen and could be caused by stress or a million other things ---- stay just that, and individual failure. The bigger issue, at least for me is when I let those 10 cookies turn into a whole day off plan, into feeling so bad that I skip the gym, then skip the scale for a week, etc...

I personally like to do my calorie counting the following day for just this reason. When I list things out objectively and 1 day removed from the incident I can think about it more clearly..."wow those 10 cookies were the same calories as my lunch and dinner combined" and think about what caused the behavior and hopefully how to prevent it in the future.

Welcome again, and good luck with nursing school. I'm married to an RN and she loves it, she now stays home with our 1 (almost 2) kiddos but she is still able to work one day a week which is a perfect solution for her to keep her skills up, get out of the house a bit, etc. Not a lot of careers have that type of flexibility.

[CawScorp]

YOU MUST MUST MUST read this post I just read by user aphil- about Falling off the wagon- i'm sorry I am fairly new so I don't know how to link to it or anything..but look up user aphil and her posts- it is just what you need.
I cried reading it.
Long story short-and I wont do aphil's post justice- you are on the right track- this is a lifestyle change so one slip is just part of your journey. Dust yourself off and remember tomorrow is another day.
I was also feeling really guilty after I derailed off my nutrisystem program due to valentine's day revelling. BUt I read that article by aphil and it has really restored my motivation.
Good luck!

[Shellmae]

Thank you all so much - I can't even begin to tell you what this kind of support means to me. I've never really felt this kind of support in my life with regard to weight loss - it just seems liks something everyone around me is not worrying about. It is so amazing to read your reponses and feel the support!