I am new here. My support system i thought i was getting set up has fallen apart. i feel alone and cant stop binging. the holidays are horrible for me this year.

i am in my 60's,, have fur kids and 5 grandkids.

Welcome Anne! Did you mean four kids or fur kids...cuz I have one fur kid and zero kids

Keep coming back!

Cathy

Hi Anne, welcome to 3FC. We can be part of your support system, so join on in and tell us a little more about yourself. Holidays can be tough, huh......what's going on? Can you share?

Hey & welcome! The holidays can be really hard.. we will all be here for support & encouragement.. i hope to see you around!

Hey!!!
the holidays are def hard! welcome! one thing I intend to do this holiday season to keep from totally overeating is to get only about 1/4 cup or less of each thing on the buffet line! You know, you go to these Thanksgiving and Christmas feasts and they have like 20 different dishes that all look fabulous! I plan to only get a tiny bit off each! That way I can taste everything, and not overeat!

You are not alone. The holidays are the worst for me to! Glad you came for support. I am new as well and became motivated by all the success stories here. I have actualy eaten better these last couple of days because I have been so inspired.

Cathy, fur kids. I have 3 grown daughters who are problems at best.

Whats going on? lots this is my first holiday season without my mom. She and i had very good holidays last year then she died jan 8. 1 of my daughter who i thought had a good relationship with me and was seemingly supportive of my weihtloss efforts suddenly started sending hate email. Another who i thought we were building a relionship after years of not being able to have one sent hate mail and excluded me from her wedding in july. the third one is into drugs we think, has a piece of crap sperm donor to her youngest. they both abuse her other 3 kids. we were able to get one away from her last year. the state will not remove the other 2 from her, believe me thier father tried. these girls only contact or visit me when they want something or want me to do something.

i was doing Jillians groups but oldest daughter is there and asked me to not talk i certain threads so she could be private. i understand and respect this. but after her hate mail started i dont feel safe to talk there. i have to go to her house to watch there son for part of Nov. while she was gone on trips. while there in her filth i couldnt bring myself to cook so we ate out too much.
that started a bad eating pattern i cant seem to stop. realizing the effect all of this has put me into an emotion binge that i cant stop.

My hubby is a trucker so home only on wkends. we have had to move 2x since aug of 08. i am back the town my ex lives in cause i inherited moms house that we wanted to keep. i have had so much to do with everything this year that i have not found any friends. when i lived here before i had few friends and they have moved away. I got to the TOPS group but feel like an outsider there.
i feel so alone and hated.

Hello Anne,

I'm glad you found this forum. I've only been here since October, but I've found it to be a really friendly and encouraging place.

I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time right now, I'm blessed to still have both of my parents, but my Dad is very ill with metastasized cancer so the holidays feel very different for us this year, too.

You're welcome to send me a PM if you feel like talking.

Hi Anne,
There is nothing worse than starting a healthy eating plan when a holiday is just around the corner.
Put your mind to it and i'm sure you will do fine!

If you are like me and tend to reach for the chocolate tin, buy yourself a bar of chocolate and put it in the freezer. When ever you feel the urge to have some sugary snacks have a piece. It takes ages to melt and 90% of the time satisfies the craving!

Clare x

Welcome, Anne! I'm sorry things are such a mess for you right now. There are great people here who can help support you through the weight loss. Personally, I find getting control of my weight and eating, helps everything else in my life. I hope it's the same for you.

Oh heidi big big hugs. i lost my dad to metastisized cancer 20 yrs ago. It is hard.

Yes Clcsc145 i agree and i was going so good for 2 yrs and had really lost and kept off in sept and oct!

Thanks Clarebee. I just need to get back on track!

i will check in with y'll tomorrow. I have to head to my TOPS meeting soon.

Anne--I am sorry you are struggling right now. Coming here was a good thing; you will get lots of support.

Hang in there!

J

I'm sorry that things are so rough for you right now. There are a lot of people here who are very understanding listeners. I'm glad you found this site.

Hi Anne!
I'm sure so many here can relate to the burdens that families can be sometimes - especially during the holidays - it makes everything so much harder (and add trying to lose weight to the mix and it seems overwhelming) -the support you need is here - you can do this - and we'll all be here to cheer you on!

Glad to have you join us! There are lots & lots of different groups and forums - I'm sure you'll find some that will keep you motivated, inspired and entertained! There's also info and first hand advice on different plans to help you choose the right one for you and get through the ups and downs.

There are bunches of people here with more to lose and some with less - the bottom line is that we all have to do it a day at a time. The good thing is that we'll have lots of company along the way.

I've only been here a few months myself, having NEVER been part of an online forum. What has been so eye-opening is how much it has helped me. Whenever I feel overwhelmed or defeated, I just log on and read some of the success stories, complete with their before & after photos - or read about others still dealing day to day with their challenges - and before I know it, the time has flown by and so have all the thoughts of cheating or giving up.

So welcome - you 've found the right place - join in by inspiring us and being inspired!

Welcome, Anne! You've come to the right place. You'll find lots of support here; don't hesitate to ask for help when you need it.