[Lissa]

my name is Lissa...im 24..and today i decided enough is enough. I talked to one of my close friends Belinda and she told me about this site so i decided to try it out. i was never a chubby kid...i was average size. But when i turned 9 yrs old, i got sick and was diagnosed with asthma. Back then in the early 90's they were quick to put kids on steroids in order to curve the asthma symptoms. So my dr. put me on prednizone...and to this day I hate hearing that word. The side effects: increased appetite and rapid weight gain. I guess I kind of blame my parents because they saw the extreme weight gain and did nothing about it. A year ago I was my heaviest...275 pounds. When I met my fiance neither of us had a car so we did a lot of walking. A LOT. We live in Florida so walking + florida sun = me loosing about twenty pounds. But since then I have bounced from 260-265. To know that I am that close to 300 scares the daylights out of me. I am getting married in June 2009 and I cannot stand to think about getting a size 22W wedding dress. My fiance is a fitness freak. He lifts weights about five days a week and weighs one hundred pounds less than I do. Its not easy knowing you weigh more than your man. I hate the insecurities I have because i am bigger than him..and I know he likes smaller woman. He fell in love with my personality and says he loves me regardless and supports me trying to loose...but sometimes i just want to choke him lol. He is in the music industry and he performs at clubs and does concerts and its not easy watching these tiny little size 4 groupies slobber over my man. And he doesnt understand my low self esteem he is a guy and sometimes guys can be insensitive. So I have decided not to lose weight for him, but for me, and I need all the help and support I can get. Thank you!

[ellis]

Welcome, Lissa!

Oh, you poor love being on prednizone at such a young age! (well, any age, actually)

I think it's great that you're losing the weight for you. That's so important. We can become resentful if we're doing something expressly for someone else.

We have a 20-Somethings forum here that you might like:
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=56

But please jump in and post anywhere you're comfortable. I wish you the very best. You can do this!

[Lissa]

thank you ellis!!!

[leela0730]

I tried doing it for my hubby (then fiance) and ellis is right, it's a short road to resentment-town. So now I am doing it for me, and it's so much better this way.

Sometimes I think guys just don't understand. Oh well, we still love 'em. Sounds like your guy is supportive in his own way, which is awesome! I don't know if I'd be able to keep working toward my health goals without my hubby's support. Now I've reached a self-esteem point where I feel comfortable calling him when I am having a craving and telling him to tell me that I will regret a binge. When I first started, there was NO WAY he could say anything to me about my food....even when I asked him to, he knew better than to fall in that trap. My self esteem was just so low that I couldn't handle any commentary about it from him, even when he was well-meaning. But he is really my helper in this now, and I think a huge part of that is because I stopped doing it for him. So congrats to you for taking that first step! The people here are wonderful, you will get lots of support!

[carrie77]

It's awesome you're here and making this decision. I made the same one recently as well. I found that the day I started working out is the day I really was able to feel better about myself and my possibilities for success. It has done a lot to curb depression for me over this past month.

It sounds like you have a really supportive and wonderful partner. I am sure that will go a long way in helping you succeed at this goal.

We have a lot of work ahead of us but we can do it. Good luck to you! I sincerely wish you the best.

[Hypra]

Welcome, and congrats!

I'm SO glad you realized you need to do this for you and not anyone else. I was put on medication about 4 years ago (been off of it for about a year now) that also made me gain weight and want to eat everything in site, it's miserable.

Just a tip!: Remember that this is going to be a long process. I'm not trying to bum you out, I'm being realistic. So many people (me included!) get excited about being healthier or losing weight, and then after a few weeks and we've only lost a couple pounds get discouraged and quit. No matter how slow or tedious it seems, keep chugging through it! Every pound, even if it's just one little pound after a week of hard work is one pound off your body forever, one pound closer to being happy with the way you look!

[Lissa]

thanks ladies..im glad my friend told me about this site. I have decided i am going to join a gym because i think that will motivate me. its the same one my friend goes to. So i guess we can kinda be a support system to eachother.
i told my fiance yesterday about my decision and he was happy. I also told him i dont want any comments or advice yet because im not at the stage where i can accept it lovingly....but i will be there soon. However long the process takes, the outcome is well worth it. i wish all of us the best of luck and health.

[belinda245]

I am so happy I was able to motivate you!!!! You motivate me as well. Going to the gym with a friend always makes it a little easier. Just remember 1 pound at a time.. lol. Slowly but surely my friend we will lose this weight and we WILL see results!! Just dont give up! And call me anytime you need a little extra motivation!

[Lissa]

thanks Belinda....trust me i will be calling you lol...and you can call me too!!