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Yes, we definitely have to step back & laugh at all of this sometimes ^^
It's great to see that you're tailoring these changes to fit things you like & can do. It'll be so much easier for you to make these changes & stick with them when they fit into your life.
Have you thought about tracking what & how much you're eating just to get an idea of where to start? (Be it calories or just portions.) It may help to see on an average day what you're eating.
About exercise, it may take awhile to find a form of cardio that you enjoy, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't continue yoga or pilates or free weights. Doing
something is more important.
This is an ongoing process of finding out what works for us. So don't always worry about all of the "should's" and the "have to's". Find the right "should's" and "have to's" for you!
Best of luck!! & Keep posting around the boards