[hidingtazz]

After lurking for a few days, I thought I'd dive in and become an active member here. I am thirty-something, and was lectured by my doctor yesterday about how I need to take control of my weight and health. I've always had horrible luck in love; and after my fiance passed away (a little over 2 years ago), I convinced myself that it if I was heavy, men wouldn't be interested in me and I wouldn't have to worry about relationship issues. It made sense to me before, but it seems a little silly typing it now. I haven't quite figured out the best way for me to "take control" yet. I've tried WW, Atkins, SlimFast, Choose to Lose, etc. with differing results.

Anyway, I hope you say "hi," and I'll see you around the boards!

P.S. I added the progress thingy in my signature even though I was embarrassed at first.

[mandalinn82]

Hi HidingTazz -

I'm so sorry to hear about your fiance. Welcome to the boards! Keep looking around, find a spot that feels right, and keep posting. I look forward to hearing more from you and getting to know you better.

[Jolly Molly]

Hi Hidingtazz,

I'm sorry about your fiance. Dealing with sadness like that makes your struggle even more difficult, but you've come to the right place for support. I also have a lot of weight to lose and was embarrassed to post my starting weight, but I think we need to focus on where we're going and not dwell on where we started. Hang in there!

[hellokitty81668]

Hi Tazz, Welcome to 3FC
I am sorry about your boyfriend, and have delt with gaining weight so I wouldn't be attractive to men. Personally I don't have a solution, because every day is still a struggle for me to stick to this and exercise, I don't use any plan, like WW or slimfast, just count calories and exercise, and it is working slowly. I figure it took me almost 16 yrs to gain this weight, it is going to take time to loose it. If you want this bad enough , you can do it!! . There are great people here, great support groups( I belong to the 100 lb support club), and great inspirations. I think of it this way if these people can do it, why can't I? I know you can do it too!! So good luck and I hope to read more of your posts.
cheryl

[hidingtazz]

Thanks everyone! I can tell I made the right move coming here.

[Jolly Molly]

Hidingtazz and Cheryl,

I have a stupid (or naive) question. You both say you put on weight to be less attractive to men-- were you aware that you were doing that or is it something you realized in hindsight? In hindsight, I can see that I might have done that too, but as I was packing on the pounds (in my college years) all I could think of is how being thin would solve any problems I had with men. I guess what was going on in my head was more "I'm fat, therefore I have man trouble" and not "Getting fat will keep men and their associated trouble away from me." Not sure I expressed that well, but I'm curious to see how it was for you.