On the "other side" someone is watching you and thinking "Wow -- if they can do that so can I". I've had several people at work see my success and really work on eating healthier. We now talk about different "tidbits", share some great bar or shake someone found etc. One co-worker was so impressed with my strength on "snack days" she's doing the same, and is losing weight and feeling great! When I fell off the wagon for a bit, it would be HER who would say "no thanks" and that has also re-motivated ME to go back to saying no thanks too, as I know she used to be impressed with my resolve.
There's lots of ways to handle it but really, it's no one's business what you eat, and a "no thanks" should do.
I used to work for an absolute devil. Not only would she constantly try to get me to eat things I wasn't eating, or purposely schedule early morning meetings so I couldn't make it to my usual gym time -- She would actually say things like, "I was telling Charlie how huge and fat you used to be. He couldn't even believe it. He thought you had always just been a little chubby."
Still makes me cringe thinking about her.
So I guess I'm just hoping y'all will find more supportive coworkers!
Wow! That's so awful! That actually reminds of a cringe worthy coworker I had where I was used to work. She actually made me nervous because I began to anticipate her next back handed remark which was nerve-racking. I hope you are no longer subjected to her anymore.
If there is one thing that really bothers me, it's women who "don't get along with other women." I am sure you all know the ones I am referring to because they say it almost as if to brag or insinuating that other women are jealous of them. I think it's quite the opposite. I take pride in building strong relationships with other women I work with both directly and indirectly. I hate to see women ripping on other women for no real reason other than their own insecurity. I have also noticed that the so called offenses they cite as reasons to dislike a particular woman are the exact same behaviors they actually like or at least overlook in their male counterparts. Just not cool.
There will always be people you don't care for along the way just as there are those you prefer but outright rude behavior is so uncalled for, particularly when it has no real basis. I don't mean to sound like I am preaching but as women I do feel we should be more supportive and even protective of each other when we can because there is no shortage of negative people to knock us down for no reason so do we really need to join in?
And it doesn't end...my office mate today told me that I am her experiment. She wants to know if it is even possible for a woman our age to maintain weight loss. She is a good friend, so I know if she is thinking it, so are many others. Probably more watching me now that when I was eating salads at the holiday parties. I'm turning their fascination into my motivation.
I'm still in Phase 3 and will be until Valentines Day. Then I go on vacation and plan on a week-long fun day. When I get back I'll go back to Phase 1 to get the fun off my thighs. I haven't had any problem at all on Phase 3 and no weight gain, even though I eat about 100 grams of carbs a day.
There is a lady in my office that is constantly watching what I'm eating. At first I thought she was judging me for being overweight and then I realized its actually coming from her own insecurities and issues with food. Now when she makes comments or checks out what I'm eating I don't take it personally and just shrug it off and be glad that I'm not so obsessed with the way I look that I'm willing to starve myself and only eat a few strawberries each day for lunch. Also, when you say no they are just wishing they had as much willpower as you.
I am very fortunate with my officemates being my biggest cheerleaders! They watch what I eat and are fascinated. They always pick restaurants I can join in, make sure to get food I can enjoy as well (they got BBQ the other day, but brought me grilled chicken breast from the BBQ place so I wouldn't feel left out), and genuinely encourage me. I love them I have an office of 50 people, and I think everyone knows I'm on this diet and am cheering me on.
Guess I'm one of the lucky ones. Even during the holidays people didn't pester a whole lot. These days I either telework or eat behind closed doors in my office to read the newspaper, so no one even knows (or cares, honestly) what I'm eating. In any case, I think they'd get the hint after the first couple of, "No, thanks" and "I already ate" responses.
I am very fortunate with my officemates being my biggest cheerleaders! They watch what I eat and are fascinated. They always pick restaurants I can join in, make sure to get food I can enjoy as well (they got BBQ the other day, but brought me grilled chicken breast from the BBQ place so I wouldn't feel left out), and genuinely encourage me. I love them I have an office of 50 people, and I think everyone knows I'm on this diet and am cheering me on.
Wow, guess I'm luckier than I realized! Like breezie, everyone on my team knows I am doing IP, and they are all super encouraging. Another team member is also doing IP, so we trade recipes, exchange ideas, and occasionally trade packets to try new things without buying a box. It's been really great! People know that I weigh in on Wednesday evenings, so they usually ask the new day how I did. Of course, some weeks come with very little loss, but everyone is always saying things like, "That's OK, it's still going down, that's the right direction." I've got such great co-workers!
I'm fortunate as well in my work environment. I told my staff that I was on a protein/veggie diet only. So, when we plan meetings out, they make sure I can get salad and lean protein. I have no other co-workers on IP to share with (So I can't wait to get on this forum each day), but I do have a co-worker/friend who just had lap band surgery, so she too is on a restrictive protein/veggie diet. We walk together and focus on the our losses and what it will bring us. I am usually so secretive with my dieting (minus my staff and friends) and I don't like people bringing up my loss or asking me how much I have lost (only 2 friends have commented) that I don't leave much room for people to ask me. I think it's trauma from being a chubby child that was teased. I am extremely sensitive about my weight/food issues. I would not have made it in the horrible job situation that ojenchilada faced-in fact-I might have gone to HR and complained. I think some people are despicable!
When it comes to weight loss/weight management,I separate people into 2 camps: those who get it and those who don't. Guess who I speak to on a "need to" basis only?
Mine is like that but who cares? I am the one who will be showing off the new me! I really don't care about what others say, I just care about me when comes eating at work, that mentality is that had helped me to go thru.
I'm not on IP but my co-workers (and employers!! husband/wife team, it's a small business) SCRUTINIZE and comment on my food. It probably doesn't help that it's a deli/bakery, and any other co-workers eat the food there so I guess that I bring in my own food seems a reflection in some way. They will actually peer into my bowl as I eat (I don't get a break time so I have to eat standing up, lurking in the sidelines of the deli).
It can either make me feel super self-conscious or rightgeously pissed, lol.
There is also a salesman who is there often enough that you'd think he works there. He once tried to offer me a baked treat that I just did not want. He would not give up . Three times I said 'no thank you' politely then he started lecturing me that, 'when you deny yourself something, you end up wanting it more and bingeing on it, instead of having a reasonable amount'. He was literally pushing the bar towards me. I took his wrist in my hand, and used considerable pressure to push it away.
the same salesman said a couple weeks ago, 'does Vermontmom have a new pair of jeans today?' and I stopped in my tracks, turned to him and said, 'that makes me feel so self-conscious, I'm not going to answer that, and I hope to never hear it again'.
Why is it that people feel the need to get in your business? I have a co-worker that always said, "you would be so pretty if you just lost weight!" When I lost weight she wouldn't talk to me at all. Then, when I gained 10 pounds over the Christmas holiday, she was all smiles, telling me in her oh-so-saccharin voice that she was soooo sorry I failed! Aaagh! The urge to rip her hair out was almost overwhelming!
Wait till she sees me in my new smaller pants next week...that will fix her little red wagon!
I'm with Angie on this one. People still comment to me too, but I've also noticed people are really starting to see the weight come off and are amazed. Eating is such a social thing! We spend lots of time eating with family, friends, coworkers. I think it's hard for people NOT to comment and they probably don't realize it may be offending to those of us struggling with weight and trying to make healthy changes.
Why is it that people feel the need to get in your business? I have a co-worker that always said, "you would be so pretty if you just lost weight!" When I lost weight she wouldn't talk to me at all. Then, when I gained 10 pounds over the Christmas holiday, she was all smiles, telling me in her oh-so-saccharin voice that she was soooo sorry I failed! Aaagh! The urge to rip her hair out was almost overwhelming!
Wait till she sees me in my new smaller pants next week...that will fix her little red wagon!
As the saying goes, "The best revenge is living a good life." Petty, mean people are what they are, and their punishment is the world that they create for themselves. Don't let them bring you down
I have an office of 50 people, and I think everyone knows I'm on this diet and am cheering me on.
to push it away. 
