Originally Posted by wuv2bloved:
I saw date, I am currently dating a guy that is 300 lbs if not over. I am not sure this will last only because when he is home we go out to eat. I can eat my way, he likes the buffets (wonder why?..ha) its at the casino so most of the time its $25+ each to eat. He made the comment the last time, that is all you are going to eat? I said yup, I am done of course there wasn't really much for me to eat but I did eat what I could.

Wednesday I hit my 200lb loss goal and it was like it was nothing to him....when I told him he was like....ok?....I was like WOW....REALLY? that is all you are going to say to me?....it was like a slap in the face. Guess it was a bigger thing for me than him. Date, be honest....its about what you have inside not what is on the outside and what you do. You seem like a really nice guy, just be yourself and find something fun to do....

Yeah, I live with a guy that has zero interest and shows no support for my weight loss. If I get one more thumbs up from behind the computer screen next time I hit a goal, I'm going to brain him.

Originally Posted by Radiojane:
Yeah, I live with a guy that has zero interest and shows no support for my weight loss. If I get one more thumbs up from behind the computer screen next time I hit a goal, I'm going to brain him.

Totally agree with that plan of action, Radiojane! And Wuv, you deserve better as well! We all deserve loved ones who cheer us ON, even if they're not on the program.

DATE, Ron, and find a chick who will be supportive of you and your lifelong journey toward better health!

DATE.... DATE... DATE... do not wait !

Just be honest with her from the beggining.

I say date and if I was 20 years younger (and living in Edmonton) I would be first in line at your door. You're very handsome and you cannot deprive some wonderful lady of all that.

Edited to add: I just noticed that you are very close to my age (51 in a few days). Just by looking at your picture in your avatar I thought you were 30.

Originally Posted by wuv2bloved:
I saw date, I am currently dating a guy that is 300 lbs if not over. I am not sure this will last only because when he is home we go out to eat. I can eat my way, he likes the buffets (wonder why?..ha) its at the casino so most of the time its $25+ each to eat. He made the comment the last time, that is all you are going to eat? I said yup, I am done of course there wasn't really much for me to eat but I did eat what I could.

Wednesday I hit my 200lb loss goal and it was like it was nothing to him....when I told him he was like....ok?....I was like WOW....REALLY? that is all you are going to say to me?....it was like a slap in the face. Guess it was a bigger thing for me than him. Date, be honest....its about what you have inside not what is on the outside and what you do. You seem like a really nice guy, just be yourself and find something fun to do....

Wuv, just saw this now! WTF? He said NOTHING?????!!!!!! :?::mad:

Well here goes nothing.........I said yes to a dinner invite from a beautiful, succesfull woman that has been flirting for the past week or so......... I really hope I don't regret this decision...... wish me luck!!

You don't need luck. You got this. And all these "sisters" to give you advise :)

YES! Congrats and have fun!

Originally Posted by Big Ron 43:
Well here goes nothing.........I said yes to a dinner invite from a beautiful, succesfull woman that has been flirting for the past week or so......... I really hope I don't regret this decision...... wish me luck!!

Great! I was chuckling earlier because if you had posted last year I would have been bugging my 30 year old daughter here in Edmonton.

I thought from your picture you were her age too.

But she met the love of her life online. But not a dating site, it was a mutual interest site.

Too bad for me, it was an OILERS site.

So now I got a third raving Oilers fanatic to match the two I gave birth to. And we all are from the east coast.

But you are good to go! If the lady has been flirting with you she won't mind your "restrictions"at all. She will be thrilled you are taking steps to get healthy. And as others mentioned it is great to know from the get go if the person is supportive or not.


Good luck!

Very glad to hear you're going to take the plunge! :carrot: I think starting a relationship before maintenance will hopefully help your partner understand the support your going to need going forward. I also think seeing the dedication you have to getting yourself healthy would be very attractive to a date. I tend to gain weight when I'm happy and comfortable in a relationship. If the relationship starts and is built on healthy habits, you may be able to avoid what I call my "fat and happy" pounds. ;)

Wuv, I am SHOCKED to hear your partner wasn't bubbling over with joy for you. We are all so proud of you, it's too bad they didn't share in that celebration. Do you think they may feel a little intimidated or self-conscious regarding your success? :?:

Originally Posted by scorbett1103:
Question: What's better - avoiding dating because you might not be able to have a drink with a date or have to order differently at dinner - or putting yourself out there and finding women that will respect your lifestyle choices (including dieting to improve your health)? You don't need to waste time with women who are more concerned about where you are eating and what's on your plate.

That said, I enjoy a steak dinner with my husband at Applebees once every couple of weeks - oil-grilled steak, steamed veggies and I'm good to go! No need to wait, go get 'em tiger :)

I agree with Scorbette1103. If you are happy (at any size), you should seize the day.

Wuv-I am so sorry, and disappointed that you didn't get the response you wanted. I can say that people react differently to situations. However, the only thing that will give you strength is to empower yourself regardless of the reactions of others. You did a great thing and you don't need his adulation.

Originally Posted by Big Ron 43:
Well here goes nothing.........I said yes to a dinner invite from a beautiful, succesfull woman that has been flirting for the past week or so......... I really hope I don't regret this decision...... wish me luck!!

Good luck and I hope you have an enjoyable first date.

I hope your date goes well!!