Dating while on plan or wait?
 

I was thinking of throwing my hat back into the dating world after being seperated for the last five years, divorced for one but am a little weirded out by how that might actually play out.....

Will I look like a cheapskate for not taking her out to dinner as I haven't been to a restaraunt since being on plan, the movies would be a challenge to say the least as I sit their and refuse to have any of my dates popcorn, soda or treats........even coffee is off the books for me :?:

All that said I am VERY happy with the road I'm heading down with Ideal Protein and am not looking to mess with what's working right now.......

I guess what I'm wondering is........ what are others doing? Are there some dating options I've missed? Ones that don't include dinners, movies, snacks, coffee, drinks, clubs etc?

Maybe an IP Dating site is needed lol...... Invite my date over for a Big Mac in a Bowl Night with two large waters.......

Maybe I should just hold off until maintnance phase all together :^:

My husband and I go to movies and dinner. I bring my restricted bar and we get bottled water. Dinner is always somewhere I can get a steak or chicken breast and steamed broccoli. I say date! If you absolutely need to avoid those options... picnics, snowshoeing with packed snacks. Make her a fantastic dinner and rent a movie. Um...I haven't dated in a long time so those are the suggestions I have. I am sure others will have WAY better ideas. Good luck!

Do NOT hold off. This is the first day of the rest of your life! Get back out there!

You may want to give your date a heads up ahead of time so that she gets why you're letting her have her own popcorn and not stealing it all. :) Bring some chocolate soy puffs to snack on instead... heck, bring her a package, too! They're good!

And dinner is just like Holly said... there are always places to go where you can get a lean protein and lots of veggies... and your date can order whatever she wants!

GO FOR IT!!!

Who doesn't like Outback? You can get a steak and broccoli, and she will be impressed with your healthy eating. Just say no to the yeast rolls! It should be a good conversation topic, because you will want to eat healthy for the rest of your life. :)

BTW, a guy from work started IP while he was on an extended TDY. He ate at Outback every night for 6 weeks. He reported a consistent 4.5 lb lost every week. Worked for him, and the company paid for it!

Activities are good for a first date... I've done bowling, playing pool, mini golf, etc. Don't hold off. If nothing else, it's good practice! You will have to tell her at some point that you are on IP, may as well be sooner than later. If someone has a problem with it, you don't want to waste your time, you know?

Good luck!

To follow what the other ladies have said, Be honest! I would love hanging with a guy who is healthy, active and eats right.

My hubby has started eating healthy along with me and it is so nice and makes him even more attractive to me! We've been married 23 years.
A guy who eats healthy and is ready to get back into the dating world?!!!! go for it cutie pie!!!!!!! You will be happy that you did! Wouldn't it be funny of she said she was doing IP too?!!!!!

Yeah.......that would be nice :)

Question: What's better - avoiding dating because you might not be able to have a drink with a date or have to order differently at dinner - or putting yourself out there and finding women that will respect your lifestyle choices (including dieting to improve your health)? You don't need to waste time with women who are more concerned about where you are eating and what's on your plate.

That said, I enjoy a steak dinner with my husband at Applebees once every couple of weeks - oil-grilled steak, steamed veggies and I'm good to go! No need to wait, go get 'em tiger :)

There are lots of options out there Ron, and eating a nice relaxed meal at a restaurant might be a treat for you too since it has been awhile. Most restaurants have very "healthy choice" meals now and you can always ask for an extra veggie or salad side to replace any potato. If you feel like it's time to get back out there, it is. Go for it! Best wishes

Definitely be honest up front - Takes all the stress out of finding fake explanations for things. And hey, if that's cause for rejection, do you really want to be dating that person?

I agree with everyone about great dinner options being available . . . and with the idea of "activity" dates. Good luck!

I say date! Nowadays, you can usually look at a restaurant's menu online before hitting them up to see if they meet the diet requirements. If your date seems to be confused, just explain that you're dieting.

I say DATE. Don't deprive the girls ;) It would be great if you could come up with an interesting first date that doesn't require eating. Or, if you just plan ahead with the menu that would work. Good luck!

I'll be the lone dissenter and say wait. It looks like you are losing your weight at a pretty rapid pace and will be at goal by the new year. I say don't let the stress of dating, starting new relationships, etc, combined with the stresses of the upcoming holidays get in the way of your goal. I think it'd just be too easy to start slacking off.

That being said, I've been willing to put my life on hold until goal. I feel for me, it would be easier to give up six months (or maybe more) of my life to Phase 1 in order to stay the course. So, take my advice as what it is, with that in mind.

I started dating after I lost 100 on Atkins (and having been single for five years). I was at 175, with a goal of 145. I never got there. I found a husband and gained almost all of my weight back. This all started in 2003. We got married in 2007.

I didn't say that to tell you to date or not to date, just to say that it is so easy to veer off course, so no matter what you choose to do, it is really important to remain vigilant.

So, I'll repeat what others have said: if you choose to jump back into the dating pool, be upfront with your temporary restrictions (I say temporary because things will expand as you move into maintenance).

My experience was that first dates involved drinks or coffee. Usually the next two involved meals and it wasn't until 3rd or 4th that we did other activities. Movies are NOT good early dates b/c you don't talk/get to know each other. You just watch a movie. I had bunches of first dates and some handfuls of 2nd and 3rds. Only a few went any further than that. Then Scott started intentionally filling my social calendar.

We were older and both getting "back" into the dating pool. It can be done & that oh-so-clear 20/20 hindsight tells me I should have been more vigilant.

Anyway, that is my experience. Not to suggest what you should do or not do but to just give you some "food" for thought.

Yeah, I live with a guy that has zero interest and shows no support for my weight loss. If I get one more thumbs up from behind the computer screen next time I hit a goal, I'm going to brain him.

Totally agree with that plan of action, Radiojane! And Wuv, you deserve better as well! We all deserve loved ones who cheer us ON, even if they're not on the program.

DATE, Ron, and find a chick who will be supportive of you and your lifelong journey toward better health!

DATE.... DATE... DATE... do not wait !

Just be honest with her from the beggining.

I say date and if I was 20 years younger (and living in Edmonton) I would be first in line at your door. You're very handsome and you cannot deprive some wonderful lady of all that.

Edited to add: I just noticed that you are very close to my age (51 in a few days). Just by looking at your picture in your avatar I thought you were 30.

Wuv, just saw this now! WTF? He said NOTHING?????!!!!!! :?::mad:

Well here goes nothing.........I said yes to a dinner invite from a beautiful, succesfull woman that has been flirting for the past week or so......... I really hope I don't regret this decision...... wish me luck!!

You don't need luck. You got this. And all these "sisters" to give you advise :)

YES! Congrats and have fun!

Great! I was chuckling earlier because if you had posted last year I would have been bugging my 30 year old daughter here in Edmonton.

I thought from your picture you were her age too.

But she met the love of her life online. But not a dating site, it was a mutual interest site.

Too bad for me, it was an OILERS site.

So now I got a third raving Oilers fanatic to match the two I gave birth to. And we all are from the east coast.

But you are good to go! If the lady has been flirting with you she won't mind your "restrictions"at all. She will be thrilled you are taking steps to get healthy. And as others mentioned it is great to know from the get go if the person is supportive or not.


Good luck!

Very glad to hear you're going to take the plunge! :carrot: I think starting a relationship before maintenance will hopefully help your partner understand the support your going to need going forward. I also think seeing the dedication you have to getting yourself healthy would be very attractive to a date. I tend to gain weight when I'm happy and comfortable in a relationship. If the relationship starts and is built on healthy habits, you may be able to avoid what I call my "fat and happy" pounds. ;)

Wuv, I am SHOCKED to hear your partner wasn't bubbling over with joy for you. We are all so proud of you, it's too bad they didn't share in that celebration. Do you think they may feel a little intimidated or self-conscious regarding your success? :?:

I agree with Scorbette1103. If you are happy (at any size), you should seize the day.

Wuv-I am so sorry, and disappointed that you didn't get the response you wanted. I can say that people react differently to situations. However, the only thing that will give you strength is to empower yourself regardless of the reactions of others. You did a great thing and you don't need his adulation.

Good luck and I hope you have an enjoyable first date.

I hope your date goes well!!

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