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Originally Posted by KattoS
(Post 3455446)
Hey all,
I'm totally new to this whole thing, but I thought this site could be the support I needed to finally shed the weight and keep it off.
As of now, I've been currently living overseas for the past two years and I have seen my weight fluctuate so much, I'm at loss of what to do. Before leaving the states after college graduation, I weighed 139lbs. Starting at 200+lbs, in my last year of college: I joined a gym, walked my dog everyday for an hour (sometimes jogging), did sit-ups, crunches, yoga and basic belly dancing, and of course I ate smaller-healthier portions. So its easy to see how I lost the weight.
But sadly, being overseas means a change in diet, the amount of time and availabily to exercise when free, and of coure the stress load from work. I know I've fallen off the horse, blaming the stated reasons and myself, and I've tried so many things to get back down to the size I was before I left. I'm a confessed yo-yo dieter and I want to stop.
I would like to reach my goal of 130lbs.
I'm interested in any and all (healthy) suggestions and/or opinions.
Please and Thank you.
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Hi
KattoS! This is a good site for support for lifetime eating changes. When you get close to your goal, look at the life after phase 1 for comments from people maintaining their loss.
As to yo-yo dieting, I have a few thoughts. You know the saying, every pound has a story? I think for permanent weight loss, we need to consider the reasons we eat poorly and gain. And it's a little different for everyone. Do you eat when stressed? Do you eat when depressed? Do you eat when lonely? do you eat when you feel guilty or ashamed? do you eat when your feeling overwhelmed? When is food your "go to"? also, What thoughts or beliefs do we have about food? Thoughts like "I could never be happy without sweets." or "I could never go out with so and so without drinking." If we want permanent weight loss we have to change our thinking, identify our personal problem spots and find solutions.
Some psycho babble stuff, I know!:)
Three other thoughts about changing our thinking that have been rolling around in my mind as well.
1. We have to appreciate and care for ourselves. Shame, hating the way we look never lasts for the long hall. It leads to starving ourselves, then pigging out. You have to love yourself enough eat well and make positive changes not just to look better, but for health and to live longer. What do you like about yourself? What about life are you excited about that makes you want to live longer and enjoy life to the fullest? Do you believe you deserve to be a thinner healthier person? Better to eat to lose weight because you deserve to be healthy and active, then to punish yourself with less food because you've overindulged and are "fat." Self hatred and shame are terrible long term motivators, especially for women.
2. Kill the perfectionist in you! I mean this primarily for maintenance, after phase 1. I am surrounded with people in my family who are either jogging every day and eating perfect and losing weight like crazy, or eating anything and everything and not exercising at all, talking about when they'll eventually "get back on track." If they have a few days or weeks that are "off" sometimes it takes a whole year before they are back "on." If all you have time for is 10 min of exercise 2x this week, then do it, without feeling like it's a waste. I say this mainly for the maintenance phase, as phase 1 of this diet isn't for vigorous exercise. Actually, for phase 1, you have to be pretty uptight about following protocol, too. So this advice is mainly for "real life."
3. Don't let your life be about weight. Don't let movement on the scale or compliments about what you look like be the only thing you have to be excited about. When it doesn't happen, (and sometimes it won't) it can be a real killer. And it will make you want to quit. Enjoy who you are and where your at and let weight loss be the icing on the cake.
I have not "arrived." I am working through this issues continually. That's why they are so readily on my mind! :)
Kelley