i was talking to my friend on the phone today. we both are in our 200+ pounds. in highschool,,,we both became thin by our senior year.

we are still best friends. well to the point!!! i was talking to her today about weight loss and we both agreed that in order to lose weight a person has to become somewhat selfish. put ourselves first somewhat!!!

example: i always tell myself,,i can't go exercise until everything is done in the house,,,or my family,,especially my husband does not want a healthy dinner,,,or my friends are going out to eat,,,do i go? i am weak in situations pertianing to food,,,so do i chose to stay home. or i don't want to waste that extra chicken leg,,,we are on a budget(that is a big one,,,not wanting to waste food) stuff like that.

do you all agree or disagree that we as mother or wives or both,,,we have to set the family aside to a certain degree in order to stay focused?

Yes. Put your own oxygen mask on first. Then you can help others better.

As for "wasting" food, put the leftovers in the fridge so you or someone else can eat it later. Storing it in your tummy is wasteful too. It is taking more than you need at that time.

A.

Yes, it takes some "selfishness." I get up at 6 am every morning to exercise, and if my kids get up too early and get in my way in the living room, I order them to go elsewhere. I also tell them they can't talk to me when I'm working out. (They are completely old enough to not need to bother me while I'm busy.) And on days when I bike to work, I "selfishly" make my kids walk to school instead of getting dropped off in the car.

And I have created major change in the way my family eats, despite certain members not "liking it." I don't care that one or two kids don't like broccoli, or would prefer to eat white bread, or etc. They don't get to choose to put junk in their bodies--they don't get to choose to abuse their bodies while I can stop them from doing it. I don't see that as selfish at all, because I am not "imposing" my preferences on them; I am giving them the gift of health, and a good education about food.

I guess it's all about perspective. What I do for my health, I do for the health and well-being of my whole family; is that selfish? Personally I don't think so.