Does anyone else have a DH that thinks they can't go to sleep without some form of Sex almost every night? I sometimes want to say, "geez, take a tylenol PM and leave me alone. LOL
i wish i had that problem. i am also one of those mis matched people. i'm lucky for once a month or so... he's a once every month/only in the morning person and i'm an - any day of the month/dear god not in the morning person. *LOL* also since he only likes in in the morning, and he also sleeps in hours after i do.. well it just rarely happens for us.
i vote for hormones in this case too. plus a lot of women lose their sex drive after a baby is born.
Lily,
every night?! I wish My ideal would be every day, possibly twice a day on some days (although I could even do more than twice a day). My poor DF, I feel sorry for him. Although he does pretty good but I am someone who it is hard to keep up with and I know that.
Sometimes I think the best aphrodisiac for women is a housekeeper or a husband who can feed a baby and scrub a toilet.
AMEN! I've been traveling on business this week and DH came with me for the first few days. He was pleasantly surprised to find that since I wasn't having to come home from a stressful 10 hour day to cook, clean, help kids with homework; I had a real sex drive. Why in the world was that a surprise for him??
My kids are older now but I remember when they were little, I hardly had time (or energy) for a shower, and he thought I wanted sex???? I used to think he was crazy.
My DH mopped my large , white kitchen floor last night. Plus, changed the dirty diaper on my 4 month old grandson. This type of help, made me a lot "friendlier" in the bedroom. Tehe. I must admit, he is the one that is great to clean the toilets, showers and sinks. He even does windows .Lol, So I guess I shouldn't complain that he wants sex so often.
Does anyone else have a DH that thinks they can't go to sleep without some form of Sex almost every night? I sometimes want to say, "geez, take a tylenol PM and leave me alone. LOL
Haha!
Honestly, we were "like rabbits" before I got pregnant. I'm just not sure what happened! He pursues me EVERY night. ...I stayed on the phone until 2AM (even though I was exhausted) just because I couldn't force myself to go to bed. If I lay down...it's time to sleep. (Because I'm asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow). It's truly sad. I feel it's unfair because he and I having sex 2 times a week is a lot to me...but he swears we haven't had sex in 2 or 3 weeks. I told him to start marking it on the calendar!
Anyway, does that "horny goat weed-stuff" really work??? ..Because, I'm serious, I'll try anything. I want him to be happy...but I just can't force myself to have sex, I feel wretched if I do.
Thanks for all you guys' advice. It means a lot!!
uuuhm... i know, years ago, i was taking guarana supplements, as an herbal appetite supressant. don't remember how well it did for the food appetite, but i DO remember that my libido went off the charts.
or check with your doctor. if it's hormonal, it might be better to have your doctor help you to regulate it.
Before I switched from celexa to wellbutrin, a doctor recommended I try yohimbe. When I looked it up, though, it was clearly marketed for men, but I figured if a doctor said it, I should try it. I had a bad reaction to it and turned bright red--like a really really bad sunburn for about four hours. The only thing hot about it was my face.
My husband and I went through the same thing a while ago and since I have lost some weight I feel sexier and I want it more. But one thing that does help alot is if I initiate sex, that way I do it when I want to and he doesn't have to hound me all day which annoys me. So I try to initiate sex at least 2-3 times a week and hubby is happy. I am pretty happy too since I enjoy it a good percentage of the time. We do have a 2 year old and a 4 year old to work around and my hubby works swing shift and myself days but we still make it work. So find a time to initate sex, early morning is great, and blow your hubby away by him not having to ask for it!
We were just the opposite. Hubby could go months without it, but *I* wanted it every night. LOL Now, I have ZERO drive and it had been so long HE was actually wanting it.
I've lost my sex drive 2x both ended up being biological. Once when my thyroid was very low and the other time I had a cervical polyp. But it sounds like you might just be exhausted and got hormonal stuff happening. My friend had her first child in her 30sand lost her sex drive after that, it turned out that she had endometriosis and severe anemia.
When we married, my sex drive was already higher than my husbands, and then when I started taking Meridia it went off the charts. I only lost like 15 lbs on Meridia, but it sent my already healthy sex drive off the charts - I couldn't even concentrate at work, because of naughty thoughts. It also gave me some energy I hadn't had before (it was originally an antidepressant, so it affects neurotransmitters which can effect hormones).
My husband was very happy when I went off the Meridia. Now we are both having health problems and both of our sex drives have dropped to nearly the same level, with mine actually being the lower. It has been an eye opener for my husband as during our nearly four years of marriage, this is the first time that he has been the one to be frequently the "rejected" one.
Sometimes I think men think the norm is 7 times a week and that at 1 or 2 times a week they are being short changed. If a wife doesn't want to have sex every time the husband wants it, is she "withholding"?
7 IS JUST A NICE ROUND NUMBER ~ BUT A DAY OF REST IS GOOD TOO!
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Originally Posted by lilybelle
Does anyone else have a DH that thinks they can't go to sleep without some form of Sex almost every night? I sometimes want to say, "geez, take a tylenol PM and leave me alone. LOL
LILYBELLE, TYLENOL JUST AIN'T THE SAME AS A NICE WARM....WELL, YOU KNOW...
i am also one of those mis matched people. i'm lucky for once a month or so... he's a once every month/only in the morning person and i'm an - any day of the month/dear god not in the morning person. *LOL* also since he only likes in in the morning, and he also sleeps in hours after i do.. well it just rarely happens for us. 
We do have a 2 year old and a 4 year old to work around and my hubby works swing shift and myself days but we still make it work. So find a time to initate sex, early morning is great, and blow your hubby away by him not having to ask for it!
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