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With maybe a fancy wax seal... or a gold embossed sticker to seal it...

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be sure to hand deliver it, because mail is awfully impersonal... LMAO

Oooo, good idea, hun.

lol!

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Okay...I think whether or not it is appropriate to text message someone "Happy Birthday" depends on the people. If it is a buddy/girlfriend...but not your "best" friend-I think texting or emailing it is fine-BUT-I think that because there is the minimal effort involved-you should not expect a "Thank You" for the text or email. Now, if they sent you a card in the mail, or sent a gift-or what have you-THAT is when you reply with an official thank you.

In my case-I don't want anyone texting me Happy Birthday-because I am CHARGED for it-10 cents a text message or something like that. If my MIL texted me-what am I supposed to thank her for, raising my cell phone bill??? :rofl:

For a closer friend or relative-I don't think it hurts to actually take the time to make a personal phone call (preferably from your home phone-not your cell phone while you are in your SUV in the drive thru at McDonalds.) When you hear the engine and the cashier in the background-it sort of takes away from the "thoughtfulness" of it all. :lol: To the recipient it equates your birthday, and their cheeseburger value meal on equal levels of importance. :devil:

A card from a close friend or relative does not hurt, either.

All in all-it isn't really about what is appropriate-it is about the fact that the woman overreacted expecting the "thank you" for the text. A thank you for a wedding/shower/birthday GIFT...yes...but a 3 second text message does not require the same thank you as someone who went out and bought you the crystal vase for your bridal shower. ;)

I think it is all about who has the power in the mother-in-law/other half relationship. My MIL was a great friend at first. Then I heard the rumors she spread about me, then it was instigating things between the rest of the family. When she realized she was losing ground, things got INSANE. All of a sudden I was a drug addict, a slut, I wasted money on stupid things, etc, etc. Lucky for me DH was on my side. I never got involved, spread lies, etc etc. Now she has lost all contact with me and DH, only talks to her grandson occasionally (our nephew) and is in the middle of a divorce. I do feel badly, but she pushed us all away.

Just be careful...if she's gonna lose it, she will. Luckily my reputation preceded her misinformation to others. Your boyfriend's loyalty will come out then and there. Until then, I'd stay neutral. Saying nothing is better than saying the wrong thing!!