[DeafinlySmart]

I planned our first anniversary. Some he plans. What's interesting is our 9th anniversary I was planning a cruise trip for our 10th. It never dawned on me that I needed to plan our 9th. I was completely oblivious. So oblivious that I went out of town. My husband KNEW I forgot because I always do the reminder thing and someitmes even part or all of the planning. So I drove 4 hours out of town with the kids and went to visit my sister. He called my sister and while we were playing a board game my sister acted busy and asked me to get the door. I still didn't get it at first. I thought maybe he decided to take a vacation too. The roses weren't a strong enough clue for me UNTIL he said, "Happy Anniversary." I was mortified that I forgot after all that planning for the next year and after this being a big deal to me for all these years. He called ahead and arranged for my sister to take the kids out while we went to a candlelight restaurant. We came back at 8pm and I begged to go to bed. I was exhausted from the drive. LOL.

[Button_ewe]

My hubby found that if he treated me better he had more sex....maybe u should point this out to him......

[liz321]

I know what you mean.....when I get home and my hubby is vacumming or has cleaned the garage etc...I tell him....."I am so turned on" and we both have a good laugh!

You have to keep it fun!

L

[da fat n da furious]

there are 6 family members born on the 10th -11th of Sept. My son is the 10th mine the 11th. You would think my mother would remember mine,,,but no. I spent years without anything from her,,we lived 5 min away. She would call and everything but never remember my birthday till a couple of days later. My husband would remember, but teh first 10 years did nother,,,we usually were so busy with all the other birthdays mine just took a backseat.
My youngest son and father is the 26th. The rest of the month has about 10 other family member birthdays also.

[gma22]

Lindsay honey, listen to this old married lady. I have been married to my husband for almost 34 years. He is as adorable as they come and loves me to a fault. HE HAS HOWEVER FORGOTTEN BIRTHDAYS, ANNIVERSARYS ETC. He also played the "you are not my mother" card years ago. I told him "I am not forced to be your housekeeper, chef, or prostitute either, but if want me to remain so a card on Mother's Day and a trip out to dinner won't kill you." Men are big dopes, even the good ones so don't expect so much from him. Should he not be such an idiot, absolutely, but will he always be one, most assuredly. For goodness sake, don't let pride get in the way, HELP THE MAN! Be bold and tell him outright, "Honey, tomorrow is my birthday, let's do something special." "Sweety, our anniversary is in two days, why don't I get a sitter and we do something fun that we did when we were dating?" I doubt he is going to tell you NO!

I know a lot of women think men need to be more accountable, but let's face facts, they are just wired different then us and think more with the privates than with their brains. Don't be so hard on him or yourself.
Step back and laugh about it. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it means he is a DOPE! It probably isn't the only important dates he forgets.

My birthday is September 28th and he has just started remembering the correct date a few years ago. This year I got my present a couple months early, a truly gorgeous diamond and sapphire ring. We will still go out to eat for my birthday and his too, but does it matter to me if we decide not to? Absolutely not! You know why? Because I love the man who tells me he loves me everyday. Who even when he is mad as a wet hen at me, kisses me goodnight. He is the man I sit and weep over, check to see that he is breathing at night if I can hear him and nag him to remember his medicine because he has heart problems. I don't give a darn if he never remembers another single thing as long as he doesn't doesn't die and leave me here alone. Next time you think about him being a dummy, think what you would feel like to sit in a chest pain emergency room and watch the man you love groan in pain, his skin the color of ash, knowing he is having a heart attack and you are powerless to help him. I guarantee you will run and throw you arms around him and appreciate him for the, absentminded careless fool that he can be!

Faye