Worried About a Friend

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  • Quote: I had a good online friend many years ago now who was a hermit by choice, very heavy, and with Asperger's and she refused to see a doctor even though she was gradually becoming more painful in random places. It began to hurt to lay down, hurt to sleep, pain flares in her back, lots of things. Finally the pain became so bad that she called for an ambulance despite her fears of going places and the doctors. By that time it was too late The cancer had spread throughout her entire body and there was nothing the doctors could do. She went to hospice care and passed away in less than a year. I still think about her all the time.
    This is so sad. What a horrible way to die. It's hard to understand that kind of fear because I like to think that doctors are there to help us but many people are too scared of the terrible news they are likely to hear. Our health is the most important thing that we have, we must take care of it!

    A friend of mine just got diagnosed with Stage IV kidney cancer. He just had surgery to remove a tumor from his brain and has over 40lumps in his lungs. The prognosis is dire, and he is a healthy 40yr old, never drank, never smoked, always ate really well and had been going to the doctor regularly. It was a total shock. He makes constant updates on facebook and I am tuned in daily. On a personal level it makes me grateful for every moment of relatively good health I enjoy and I try never to take it for granted.
  • Wounds that won't heal, asymmetrical swelling, discoloration, and high bp are not things that will go away or even really get better if he's just going to the gym and getting out more. I mean, those things are admirable and important but this guy needs to see a doctor. Like everyone else, I am NEVER in favor of a "fat" intervention, but this guy is in the midst of a health crisis that's going to require medical intervention.