I got the ultimate "no-no" question today. One I've never been asked, ever, in all my life and throughout any size I've ever been. "When are you going to have your baby?"
I just brushed it off at first, but I keep thinking about it and it keeps bothering me. It's just like I've worked so hard to lose all this weight and I'm finally comfortable with my body and someone asks me that... and it's not like I can even really do anything about it. Most of what's on my stomach is loose skin; I'd have a relatively flat stomach if it weren't for that. I don't even know what to think about it, especially since I've never been asked that before, even when I was overweight. It's like I worked hard to lose 90lbs just to look pregnant? -sigh-
I got the ultimate "no-no" question today. One I've never been asked, ever, in all my life and throughout any size I've ever been. "When are you going to have your baby?"
I just brushed it off at first, but I keep thinking about it and it keeps bothering me. It's just like I've worked so hard to lose all this weight and I'm finally comfortable with my body and someone asks me that... and it's not like I can even really do anything about it. Most of what's on my stomach is loose skin; I'd have a relatively flat stomach if it weren't for that. I don't even know what to think about it, especially since I've never been asked that before, even when I was overweight. It's like I worked hard to lose 90lbs just to look pregnant? -sigh-
Why can't people just keep their mouths shut?
Because people are opintionated and generally have something in their life lacking, to make them blab in the first place. Take it from someone who used to BE one of those people, unfortunately. (5+ years ago)
I can imagine it's not a nice feeling, and luckily I haven't encountered that question. I have the personality, that if something that personal is said to me, I generally speak up. I wouldn't exactly be rude about it, but slightly. I'd say something like "Actually, I just lost 70 pounds by working my a** off, and I'm quite proud of where I'm at" with a smile and walk away. I guess my attitude/personality is a bit aggressive.
What you have to keep in your head and your heart is that you did ALL this. Nobody will ever be perfect. And there will always be something about you and everyone, that someone else will pick out. Flaws are always going to be a part of us. Accepting it is hard, moving past it is hard, but I personally think wallowing in it is the hardest. Put a good attitude towards it and be PROUD of yourself. You did this for you, nobody else. Embrace your accomplishment.
Not everybody is going to like you, but you need to love you no matter what.
Last edited by Remington90; 05-06-2013 at 10:25 PM.
i had that happen ALOT when i weighed between 220-190 ! it was a little embaressing ..it totally sucked ! alot of people just dont think before they speak ..*sighs* i'm really sorry that happened to you
This happened to me for the first (and only) time a few months ago. I work at a nursing home and sometimes residents leave and then come back. Anyway this one resident knew me a few months ago. Then I gained 20-30ish pounds this past semester dealing with the stress fest that is finishing up graduate school (original research, comp exam, and everything else). Anway I put on some weight since the last time she was with us and she asked me if I was expecting. I knew I had put on weight so I kinda blew it off, but it still irritated me.
I've had this happen twice. Once was by a coworker awhile back. I was so stunned that I didn't think to be upset. Then after a few minutes it started hitting me what happened and I swear as the minutes ticked by I felt like the comment took on a physical weight that carried around all day.
The next time was from my friend's son, who was three at the time. That one really embarrassed me.
I had that happen to me once, while I was working out of all things lol...I was walking on a track and a lady stopped to ask me if I was pregnant...I just said no, that's how I carry my weight...it hurt but I DO know that I carry my weight there but I really DIDNT look pregnant....
oh! and one time on a facebook comment, I was standing by DH with my hand on my stomach for some odd reason and a comment was made asking if I was pregnant....but I didn't mind that one because I DID look like how pregnant people stand with a hand on their baby bump LOL whoops
Could it have been what you were wearing? I know at our work, if a woman wears a shirt that is tighter below the boobs and then just hangs down, people start speculating right away....no matter what size they are!
Yes it sucks, I've been asked that plenty of times and it always makes me sad.
On the other hand I have a friend who is overweight and 3 months pregnant and she's bummed as heck that nobody can even tell that she's pregnant, and is worried that because of her weight she'll never really "show."
The worse question you can get ever.
but I DO know that I carry my weight there but I really DIDNT look pregnant....
