Absolutely. Its important to learn from the experiences though (I know one too many women who repeat the same behaviors over and over), and this is precisely why I said, when OP is in her late 20's - 30's she will look back and wonder WTF was I thinking?!!!

Don't call him!

Okay, I have a lot of guy friends...more then girl friends and when they break up with a girl, for whatever reason, and the girl keeps calling or emailing, they become a bit of a joke to everyone. Don't become the butt of jokes by hanging on to something that is over. Leave him to his own life and you move on with yours.

Men can say the same thing.

No matter what's below your belt, it takes time, age, experience, growth, in order to learn to understand or at least empathize with others, particularly the opposite sex. Being young and inexperienced comes hand-in-hand with hurting others, particularly the opposite sex - sometimes intentional, often not. That's just life.

That's why so many of us can look back on 'devastating' breakups and realize 'oh... what was that fuss all about?', because in hindsight, you realize that perhaps your inexperience/misguided emotions/youth led you to believe that it was something that it wasn't. How many "JERKS" did we know at age 18, only to look back at 28, 38, etc... and think "gee, we were just immature kids. He wasn't a jerk. He was just a kid."

Just my thoughts.

I agree 100%.

It's easier said than done, but I urge you to find your own fun. When you can go out on your own and just enjoy yourself, it attracts people to you, and you'll find yourself making friends without even trying. You can find your own self worth and you will, but like anything else in life, it takes some work to get there.

It really sounds like everything in your life right now is revolving around this guy and his lifestyle. I'm also considering the post in general where you say that all you do right now is go to work, come home, diet, and sleep. It's not coincidence they're written on the same day.

It sounds to me that you're not only attached to him but to his group of friends and the new lifestyle you were looking at since you mention you're losing them too.

I'm not going to go all psychobabble on you, but do you think you are more upset over breaking up with him or are you upset that you think your life will go back to being ultra boring? I know from other posts that this is a recent guy and there was one just before that. Are you confusing feelings for them with feelings of 'yay my life is exciting' now or something like that - and that's why you want to keep pursuing them?

There's nothing wrong with you - these feelings are all normal.
Stop blaming yourself.
You don't need a man to prove your self worth.
Try not to be so depressed...easier said than done I know.

As for life in general, maybe there's some people at work who feel the same way you do? Anyone to just go get lunch with or have a drink after work with? Small steps build friendly circles. It's not going to happen quickly, but at least you know those people will be there regardless of whatever guy you're with. Maybe there's even people here on this board in your area that would like to get together just for fun.

That's exactly why I do what I do, lol. They fill the void and give me things to do (in more ways than one, lol), and I feel like I'm satisfied in all areas. So yes, in a way, I feel completed when I snag a man because I no longer have to fight the battle by myself and I have someone to distract me from it. Unfortunately, guys catch on to this and don't want to help me fight my battles.

Most of the people I work with are significantly older than me or are about to go back to college in far away places. I'm not completely knockign them though, and there actually is a light at the tunnel -- today has just been one of those days that have been part of a series of days, lol. I'm slowly getting better. A friend came out of the blue and invited me out to karaoke tonight, and I'm making plans to go see one of my out-of-town friends as we speak, cause I really just need to get away from here.

And then after that, I need to find out how to go about getting a job/internship at a publishing house, because I want to be a freakin' editor. And I'm going to get in touch with my counselor. The end.

That's awesome! Now, a word of advice, from experience unfortunately, that I hope you'll consider.

I assume there's alcohol involved with karaoke. Do NOT call that guy after you've been drinking - better yet, just leave your phone in the car.

This x1000!!!! Seriously, nothing good has ever come from drunk dialing anyone.

I also think the counselor idea is a very good idea. You seem very overwhelmed (and have for a few months through your post...which I understand I went through the same thing a few years ago when I graduated) and an unbiased party to help you sort out some stuff I think would be a tremendous help.

It sounds like maybe this guy sensed that you were using him to fill this void in yourself. FTR - guys do NOT like that. You've really got to figure out how to be happy with yourself before you dive into another relationship. No man is going to stick around to fix you... he'll run, and FAST.

Please do not contact him. I can almost guarantee that will do more harm than good. If you do decide to, please keep in mind that it's possible he will ignore you, or be mean to you. It's not worth it.
I promise you that it will get easier. But for now, please just focus on yourself...you need to realize your self worth. You are fabulous and any man worthy of your love will accept you as is. It's not about whether or not you're good enough for them, it's whether or not they are good enough for you.
Hang in there. I've been there, I know how hard it is. But months or years down the road, this guy will be nothing but a blip on the radar, I guarantee it.

x2 all of the above.