[jules1216]

my son and his two boys under two moved in with us...their mom left him and the boys in january for an ex in the navy stationed there..shes pregnant again and just got married...they were together 3 years and turned out she and this guy were emailing texting for a year and a half..he had a girlfriend too...
my son is not ready for anything but this girl has been facebooking him, shes a friend of my daughters and has had a crush on my son since high school..she kept trying to set up play dates...my son finally agreed and she hasnt responded at all...hes devastated...thinks he will never find anyone that will want a single dad with two kids...

if he's a good father, he'll be beating them off with a stick.

it is probably that it's still too new and raw and he's throwing out vibes - once he's gone through the grieving process and has opened up again, the neighbours will be throwing old shoes at all the cats meowing under his bedroom window every night.

[MusicalAstronaut]

My ex left me after almost 2 years together, but he also did it completely out of the blue. He had me drive 45 minutes downtown to meet him, he dumped me, said "don't call me", and left me there. About a month later I got my stuff from him and we talked a bit and I got some of what he was thinking from him, but honestly, knowing what he was thinking didn't help all that much. I really thought it would but it didn't. But at least he had the decency to tell me that we were over.

I agree with MiZTaCCen, people who pull a disappearing act to break with you are boys that we mistake for men. It helps to keep yourself busy so you don't think about it as much. It's been 4 months for me and I'm still hurting more than I thought I would be, but I took another job and I started swing dancing lessons, and both have helped. It just takes your mind off of the whole thing.