I decided a LONG time ago that if I ever got married I would elope. Go to a Caribbean island somewhere, wear a pretty dress, say our vows on the beach, dance for a little while, be served a nice meal then stay a week for the honeymoon. I think it would be great to be able to say whatever personal thoughts you have without an audience, not have to worry about pulling off a "perfect" day, and to just be able to relax and enjoy it. Then come home and have a small reception for friends and family.
My mom is a social liability. She drinks too much at every family gathering and doesn't handle it well (angry, loud, combative, brings up things she shouldn't, etc). The second you politely suggest she chill out with the booze she drinks twice as much just to spite you. If I had a big wedding, I would literally spend the whole reception looking over my shoulder thinking "how much has she had to drink," "who is she talking to" etc.
Also, I think the standard 1.5 year engagement period is just too long. I'm not a fan of long engagements.
I think weddings are too much drama and money. I think women (generally) are more concerned with the wedding than they are the marriage. In a way I think weddings can make a mockery of the institution of Marriage.
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