[Pint Sized Terror]

No one is telling you to focus on only your weight loss, they're only suggesting that your friend isn't being a very good friend.

He's just being immature. Plain and simple. Once he sees that he isn't getting a rise out of you, he'll do one of two things. One, he'll come crawling back and want to be friends again without all the BS. Two, he'll move on and y'all will go your separate ways.

I'm almost 29 years old, and I've had many friends that were my very best friends just kind of fall by the wayside. These were friends that I had gone through all kinds of stuff with, deaths of parents, dating issues, sex issues, graduating... I would've never thought that one day we wouldn't even talk anymore. Nothing catastrophic happened. We just grew apart. It happens sometimes. You have to remember that friendships shouldn't be forced or uncomfortable for either party involved. If he can't respect you enough to stop playing games, you may have to take the steps to move on.

[prepping]

It's always a hard thing when you realize that you've lost a friend. But it's a natural thing in life whether it's intentional or not.

If he was truely a best forever friend, somehow or another you two will connect again. Right now is not the time though.

Hit ignore, delete, remove, whatever it may be. Both on the computer and in your mind. Your own happiness is all that matters.

[shelle58704]

Originally Posted by Hamoco350

Moving on from him as a boyfriend isn't difficult, we only dated for three months. Moving on from him as my best friend seems impossible.

Thanks everyone for the advice. I'll try to focus on my weight loss.

It's hard when someone you care about hurts you in any way. I'm sorry.

If your talking like Facebook or whatnot, I'd delete him for a bit. Maybe he'll realize and clean up his act.

Good luck!

[nelie]

Well also realize that maybe both of you need time to heal and possibly step away for a few months. 6 months? Then you could try to see if you could be friends. Obviously being friends right now isn't working.

[Hamoco350]

Originally Posted by nelie

Well also realize that maybe both of you need time to heal.

I think that is the best possible way of resolving this. I'm going to pull back and give him time and space. I don't think that our friendship is entirely over, but I do think I need to stop pushing it right now. The wounds are still fresh so I'm going to focus on other important things in my life. He also needs to realize on his own how badly he's acted, for the sake of his personal growth and maturity.

I really do appreciate the support and advice from all you chicks!

[tytbody]

it shows your hamocco, you aren't alone in this ordeal. It has happened, more than once. it's your lesson time. Learn so you won't have to go through it again.

[EZMONEY]

One of the first "normal" things to do when someone is hurt is to lash out and try to hurt or continue to hurt the other person....

back in the old days it was through gossip...

today we have the wonderful? tools of Facebooks and MySpaces...

Your best option is to ignore the best you can...not easy to do...but it will pass!

[Scarlett]

Hate is not the opposite of love, apathy is. The fact that he is trying to "get your goat" means he still cares (or has unfinished emotional buisness). If he didn't he would be apathetic and wouldn't care enough to engage in facebook drama.

This is why not giving someone a reaction and walking away from a fight is the best way to deal with it. In some weird way egging somones car shows that they matter to you. Don't stoop down to his level or engage him in any way.

If you don't want to defriend him on facebook at least "ignore" him so you don't have to see his facebook drama every day. Limit your facebook use if you have to. If it were me I would just cut all ties, only see/talk to him when its some sort of mutual friend thing. I don't like to have immature/high drama people are friends.