There's another forum I visit from tiem to time called Frugalvillage that has wonderful people with amazing advice. If you're willing to post your budget there for each month, I'm sure they can help you figure out how to bring the ends closer together. Definitely cut out the supplement. It's expensive and unhealthy. Stick to a fiber filled, balanced diet, and that should help suppress your appetite.
How much money does your father in law make at his current job? (not a question you need to answer, but think about) Would it be worth it to have him quit his uber stressful job and watch your daughter (saving the daycare expenses) during the day, and find a part time job in the evenings/on weekends? While working someplace like Walmart, etc. won't pay a huge amount, when you add in the saved costs of daycare, it may be worth it. Also, will the lowered income offset you into any assistance programs?
How far is your ex behind on payments to you? Not that it's something you want to do, but if you're having difficulties providing for your family, you may need to go to the courts to press for the money he owes you. Be honest with your other ex, keep communication open.
Call your creditors. See if you can work out a payment plan for your medical bill. I know it's late in the game if they're pushing for collections, but can you work out a 10-20 a month payment until things ease up?
Is your car worth as much ore more than what you owe? Sell it, quick. Pay off the loan and get the cheapest car you can pay cash for. If not, be prepared for the car to be repossesed. Squirrel away any extra money you can to go towards a cheap craigslist car.
Definitely cut any extra expenses you can- cable, cell phoen, internet, home phone, netflix, etc. Call your utility companies and see what you can do about reduced rates.
Find a way to relax!!! Set aside a ten to 15 minute period each day for some kidn of relaxation ritual. A bath. A cup of tea. A few minutes reading a library book. No matter how stressed you feel and time crucnhed your day may be- commit to that ritual every single day.
Decide on a baseline clean for your house- I know mine has varied greatly with the amoutnof time I have. Then, figure out what you need to keep it there and divide it up. FIL may be sickly, but he can vaccuum twice a week. Get the little things that stick in your toilet to keep them clean. (scrubbign bubbles or something? its like 3 bucks for 6 of them that last 3 weeks or so a piece) DH can empty the dishwasher before he leaves for work, you can run it at night when its full. If you dont have a dishwasher- get a rack and let him put them away when theyre dry. Have each person sort their laundry when they put it into hampers. Even if you have a cardboard box for each color, it will save sorting time.
You CAN get through this. And as a side note- my husband worked for Blockbuster for several years as a store manager. I firmly believe their impending bankruptcy is a direct result of karma for the way they have treated their employees.
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