So I was at school today, having a conversation with someone in my class as I do. I'm trying to be more outgoing, just to open up. I want to accept more responsibility and... I don't know, make living worth it, I guess.
Anyways, so we were talking about hard drives and all of that, and he mentions that the majority of his are full of pictures because he's a photographer. We went off on another subject, but he ended up bringing it back up and asking if I'd ever be interested in modeling.
I was flustered by this, so I didn't really internalize the details, but he mentioned that it wasn't anything weird, and he wouldn't go past my comfort zone. Due to the seasons, he also needs an answer by the end of the weekend (the leaves are close to changing colors, and that's a big part of it).
Wow! I don't know what to do! On the one hand, I have a horrible self image and I don't see myself as much. This could, perhaps, work to break that horrible self esteem and self confidence and bad self image that I have. Losing weight has made me feel better about myself, but it hasn't made me more confident with my body or appearance I think. This could work to overcome that. What's the worst that could happen?
At the same time, I'm thinking just that. What if the worst happens? I'm afraid! I'm afraid of leaving my comfort zone. I'm afraid of being embarrassed. The easier thing to do is to respectfully decline.
But then again, the easier thing to do is to eat whatever I want and not worry about my weight. The easier thing to do is to avoid doing my homework and studying. The easier thing to do is to hide at home.
What do you guys think I should do? What would you, personally, do if someone you knew asked if you would model for them?
Well, like you said, what's the worst that could happen? You don't even need to see the pictures if you think you might be uncomfortable with them. I say go for it, just another experience under your belt.
professional photographers (and those aspiring to be such) often have an eye for beauty and specialize in helping to capture it in unique way that translates on a photo.
you should take the opportunity to see yourself in a new way thru someone else's eyes and lens!
plus, dont be worried that you need to know what to do. the photographer knows you arent a professional model, and will help direct you (chin up, hip out more, etc).
think about it this way: that guy gets paid to find pretty people and make pretty pictures. he is a professional and if he thinks he takes a pretty pic of you he is likely right. good reality check too maybe
Go for it, but the realist in me says to write out a contract saying where your pics can be used, are they just for a portfolio, etc. I know I'm a worrywart--sorry!
Go for it, but the realist in me says to write out a contract saying where your pics can be used, are they just for a portfolio, etc. I know I'm a worrywart--sorry!
This. And maybe make sure your friends know where you are, just in case, unless this is someone you know pretty well and not just some guy from class.
Me? I'd say no until I knew him better. It could be a come on, it could be a setup for something you wouldn't like. Yeah, sounds paranoid... but it just rings the wrong bells for me.
This. And maybe make sure your friends know where you are, just in case, unless this is someone you know pretty well and not just some guy from class.
Yeah, I totally agree with this. I think it could be a really cool opportunity for you, but also remember to look for red flags. If he's just a cool guy that is genuinely interested in photographing you because he thinks you're beautiful or striking, then there's nothing to worry about. If he's some skeezy photog that uses his job to get it on with random, unassuming chicks, then you'll want to tell him to piss off. So just look for the red flags, don't every do anything you genuinely don't want to do (nudity, etc), and if it really is innocent then enjoy it for and enjoy the attention! Feel out the situation and go from there.
Sorry if that sounds dire, but I live in Los Angeles, so lots of skeevers like that around. You gotta hone your inner BS detector!
Go for it! If you don't try, you'll be wondering how you'd have felt!
I got some graduation pictures taken by a friend who's also a photographer and her pictures made me feel so pretty! When photographers are talented, they capture something we cannot usually see. I was very happy with the pictures and I actually felt pretty, with my fat rolls and all.
I say go for it... but I agree, be careful! Stipulate how the photos can be used and who owns them. Don't be pushed or bullied outside of your comfort zone and don't go alone.
I am actually a professional photographer and my advise is to wait until you know him a bit more. Also, make sure to read any releases he has you sign if you do do the session. Definitely, if you do go, bring a friend with you. I'm sure he is a normal guy and it is all legit but you really can't be too careful nowadays.
Model? Me?
