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Originally Posted by helwa588
i think it's ridiculous. why does it have to be a large waisted guy? it's sending the message that no skinny guys want a plus size woman.
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I don't know that's the message it sends, I know it's not the truth, having been in the BBW dating circles a bit. In college, I read a research article on the Fat Acceptance Movement, and dating and and out of the movement for overweight people, and the study found that as the amount of extra body weight increased, overweight women had far more dating options than the overweight men. I didn't think it was likely to be true (but it did tempt me into online dating, and I surprisingly did find it to be true - there were a lot of thin, attractive and even "buff" men out there, interested in me - or at leat my pic, as I found that most of the attractive and even "buff" guys who liked plus-sized women were just as shallow as my thin friends had always told me they were when they were interested in thin women).
In the fat acceptance dating circles, I met a lot of women (women my size at the time and larger) who wouldn't even give the fat or less attractive guys at the plus-size mixers the time of day, because there were plenty of thinner and more attractive men to choose from.
I don't know that there's a point, except that I don't see the show challenging stereotypes too much, because the stereotypes are too ingrained in our culture. But it's both culture and truth (mostly because of the culture) that people tend to end up with people more similar than not, and if there's a large attractiveness gap, you get the rumors "why is (s)he with him/her?"
When I was single, my mother constantly tried to set me up or push me toward men with men with whom I "had so much in common," when the only factor we usually had in common was being fat and roughly the same age. One night at a church trivia game, my mom harassed me all night to "go up and talk to" one of the guys at the mikes. She told me everything she knew about him (and it was like a spies dossier), and it made me more and more convinced we had nothing in common, but excess poundage.
I think making the show too mixed would make a lot of people uncomfortable. The closest I saw was on bits of Flavor of Love. Their were a lot of plus-sized women, and women of all races after "Flave," but boy those girls got catty and nasty about the "fat girls." As far as reality shows, I only saw it "accidentally" in channel surfing, but did catch enough of it to know I don't want to see that.
I think that in a show featuring a thin guy with a dating pool of mixed weight women, the women are going to look pitiful and desperate to most viewers (heck, I think when the format is thin guy with thin girls, the girls seem pitiful and desperate). If the format were thin girl, mixed men the thin guys ar going to look creepy/fetishist and the fat guys are going to seem pitiful and desperate (especially if fat girl chooses cute guys over the fat guys).
In a weird sense, I think chubby guys and girls may actually be the least exploitive of any mix.
I do suspect the show is going to have a lot of variety in body type (at least a lot more than generally seen in the dating shows) because "fat" covers a lot of territory, and I think for "interest," they are going to have a wide variety of people.
Plus size dating show to debut on FOX
