[JerseyGyrl]

Originally Posted by kiramira

If you marry for the wrong reasons, or with the hope that things will get better, the marriage isn't on a stable foundation. And after marriage, things generally get WORSE rather than better

IMHO, love, trust & communication are the foundation of a happy marriage. Unfortunately, people don't always marry for those reasons and they don't think about the consequences for themself or for the person they marry. When it begins on the wrong foot, you are 100% correct....things typically get WORSE.
My Mom gave me some very valuable advice "Marriage is like building a house...you need a strong foundation (Love)....without it, the house will eventually crumble."
In this situation, my guess would be if he loved her, he'd probably consent to counseling to possibly strengthen the marriage....but...seriously, I don't see him going that route. He feels he "made his bed & now he has to lie in it"...he's clearly unhappy (as I'm sure she is as well)...and I'm sure as time goes by & the situation remains the same or gets worse...he will seek "happiness" outside the "marriage".
Hopefully wisdom will come with age & he'll do the right thing for himself as well as for her.

[JerseyGyrl]

Originally Posted by LaurenA

I would try to work things out before I moved on - like seeing a marriage counsellor etc becuase there had to be a reason we were together in the first place. Then if I was still in the same situation I would move on.

Well...to be quite frank, the reason he married her was because he was a virgin & had slept with her so...he felt "an obligation" to her. Yes...I know(young & extremely naieve)...sad and surely not any reason to get married