Cheers to that....

I had a LDR with my husband before he moved here to be with me. It was **** for me, all I wanted to do was hug and kiss him and do things with him, and I thought about him all day long pretty much... so for me it was either someone was moving or we just had to end things! Cuz I could NOT have a LDR for any longer! For me, dating someone means actually seeing them so I was just so depressed that I couldn't see the man I loved!

But now he is here and it's perfect <3 Amanda... good luck on your trip!! Nerves galore but it will totally be worth it! When I first saw my husband in the airport we both just barely talked and didn't touch or anything lol! But after 1 day we warmed up. It's weird because we had talked SO much.. like all night long after work, but then as soon as we saw each other it was like seeing a stranger! I am excited for you, you get a whole month!! We got 1 week the first time we met in person.

Awww... thank you Jane!

I'm definitely nervous.... but we're both feeling the exact same way. After 2 years of great friendship, then a year of THIS..... good God, I feel like I'm about to SCREAM if I can't hug him or kiss him or hold his hand! And he says that more than I do...

It's just been such a wonderful relationship and journey with him... the fear isn't enough to hold me back from taking a chance with him.

It's so nice to know that it worked out for other people out there.... I take it you and your husband met online or something similar?

Yep, we weren't even looking for each other but we found each other online, he was actually in a relationship when we met. We were friends online for about a year and eventually he was single and I was single and it started getting more serious!

I feel like meeting someone online, or on the phone, or something similar is actually a really good way to meet! We weren't blinded by looks but instead only had words and got to find out so much about each other before we even met in person. I knewhim way better than anyone I had dated offline.

Anyway, it IS exciting and it is exciting for me to hear others in a similar situation as we were. You will love it I'm sure!!

Yeah, totally! It was just about the same way for us, other than the fact that it wasn't just him that we in a relationship... but both of us with different people throughout the years. We talked to each other about those people.. laughed and supported and (in my case) cried... etc.

And you know what... I'm starting to agree about the whole online/phone thing being almost a better way in some ways. I think in our culture today too much is based on sexuality and physicality to allow us to get to know people (and I'm TOTALLY guilty of allowing all my relationships to turn out that way as well), truly for who they are inside, first. We all know the days of "courting" are over.... and in a way, this kind of did the same thing. Allowed thoughts, and feelings, to be shared before other things came in the way. Just random thoughts of mine though...

I've been in two long distance relationships. One of them lasted a year and I really had no issue with it being long distance (and actually liked it that way), he wanted to progress so we split.

Then I swore I'd never be in another long distance relationship again. A long time friend of mine had recently moved back to be with his family but we kept in touch and talked regularly, then talked daily... then hours every day and then well we started a relationship with him visiting me every few weeks. We both hated the distance and after 3 months, we made plans for me to move. Then in less than 2 months after that, I moved. Then a little over a year after I moved, we got married.

Me too! It's good to know that it can actually work for some of us! Gives me hope..... I had a little crying jag the other day cos I missed him so much and he didn't pick up his phone (passed out after work) when I was having an especially emotional moment (lots of stuff going on in the family right now) and then we had a big talk later that day.... and I cried a bit about the 7000 miles between us. He calmed me down (as usual) and then sent me this email the next day while I was at work.....

"On a more serious note, thank you for being in my life. You know we were talkin about the distance of 7000 miles that we have between us, but you know what, I don’t care. I don’t give a damn about distance as long as you reside in my heart and in my soul. I am blessed to have you in my life Sunshine..."

Seriously.

How could I ever doubt a guy that loves me like that? 7000 miles or not??

I have never seen a long distance relationship work although I am sure there ARE some that do but I have never seen any.

And I think some people like the idea of being in a relationship but not if they are together every day.

My best friend is a prison guard and he says he sees it every day where someone in the prison is in a relationship with someone on the outside and it may last 5, 10 years but when the person in prison gets out it doesn't work out.

I myself would not be in a LDR because what is the point? Isn't the point of even BEING in a relationship is to have someone right there with you?

And what would could keep two people apart? Job? Home? School?

If two people want to be together they will find a way!

My mother lived in Japan and didn't speak much English and my father was a farm boy living in Illinois and neither had money or family support in fact both of there familes DISOWNED them for marrying outside of their race and they STILL found a way to be together!

I wish I had a dollar for all the people I've known (I was in the military) who had LDR for years and when they finally got together in didn't last a year.

I know there are exceptions to the rule and no doubt people will post after me telling me how THEIR LDR worked I am speaking on the whole.

I want my sweetie right next to me and if they were on the otherside of the world I would get there if I had to hitchhike!

I have never seen a long distance relationship work although I am sure there ARE some that do but I have never seen any.

And I think some people just like the idea of being in a relationship but not if they have to be together every day.

My best friend is a prison guard and he says he sees it every day where someone in the prison is in a relationship with someone on the outside and it may last 5, 10 years but when the person in prison gets out it doesn't work out.

I myself would not be in a LDR because what is the point? Isn't the point of even BEING in a relationship is to have someone right there with you?

And what would could keep two people apart? Job? Home? School?

If two people want to be together they will find a way!

My mother lived in Japan and didn't speak much English and my father was a farm boy living in Illinois and neither had money or family support in fact both of there families DISOWNED them for marrying outside of their race and they STILL found a way to be together!

I wish I had a dollar for all the people I've known (I was in the military) who had LDR for years and when they finally got together in didn't last a year.

I know there are exceptions to the rule and no doubt people will post after me telling me how THEIR LDR worked I am speaking on the whole.

I want my sweetie right next to me and if they were on the other side of the world I would get there if I had to hitchhike!

Well I posted before you talking about my husband and myself The point of a LDR is that there is someone who doesn't live where you live but you really think you could be compatible.

My husband and I knew eachother for years, worked in the same office, etc. He moved away but we were still friends but because of other personal reasons, neither of us had interest in being in a relationship with anybody. In time though and as we became closer friends, both of us changed our minds. There was a lot of trepidation and some anxiety about one of us uprooting, about living together, etc. I already said but after 3 months, we made plans to have one of us move (me).

Of course I love my husband more each day and we've been married for almost 3 years.

I also talked about a previous relationship I had in which I liked the distance. I liked someone who wasn't there all the time but who I could talk to on the phone frequently and go visit/hang out with every few weeks, go on trips with and spend the holidays with. I probably would've gone on for much longer but he wanted something different which is ok.

I've had another LDR, as well, a couple of years ago. Me and an online friend of mine had an LDR years and years back, but then went our own seperate ways and stayed friends. When I hit a bad spot two years ago, he was in the process of a divorce and wanted a roommate. I really needed an escape from my life at that point, so I went along with it and succumbed to his pressure to become his girlfriend once I got there, though deep down inside I knew I wasn't feeling it with him (in fact, he annoyed the CRAP outta me!). It lasted about five months before he broke up with me because I wasn't able to give myself over emotionally and physically the way he wanted me to, and to be frank I just couldnt' help it. I didn't feel it for him.

But... with this guy.... it's like the complete opposite. The connection, bond, whatever... is strong I've never experienced its like, not even in my numerous and various types of other real life relationships over the years.

So why not? What do I have to lose?

Isn't there some kind of saying out there along the lines of "Don't regret what you've done, just regret what you didn't?"

I kind of look at my LDR as something along those lines. As wonderful as we are together, as friends and whatnot these past few years.... and as much as we've come to truly love and care for each other..... it just wouldn't be right to not give it a chance. I mean.... how many relationships do people have that they AREN'T even in LDR's and they don't work out. So what's the difference? If you love and care about someone, down the street or the other side of the world..... why shouldn't you give it a chance and see where it goes.

Better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all....

Sunshine - I do have a great guy, and I know it. I couldn't ask for better or different!