Most of my regrets seem to be intertwined within each other since they all happened in a short period of time in my life back to back basically. But my biggest one is probably wasting time- I feel like I've wasted some valuable time in my life that I'll never get back and not spending very much time with my father while he was dying of cancer- I couldn't deal with him being so sick and in such pain since when you're 17 years old you don't even think of death and think you have all the time in the world. He didn't complain very much but it got to where you could just see it on his face that he was really suffering. It didn't help that I basically had to figure out on my own that he was as sick as what he was since he had forbidden my mother and his wife to tell me that he in fact was going to die and that the cancer was basically everywhere in his body. It took me about a year to figure it out that he was getting sicker and not better like what he was telling me and then I was finally told he had cancer. So I have some issues about that that are unresolved to say the least.
i have a few regrets... i regret letting myself get big again, i regret nearly every relationship i've been in for not standing up for myself and the way i should be treated, i regret not pursuing a degree in teaching, i regret an abortion i had in 06, i regret not opening a savings plan like my dad told me to...
I regret not fighting harder for my mom. I wish I could've been stronger for her, and not let my family talk me into taking her off life support. I hate myself, and I hate my family. I regret not telling them how awful they treated me after she died. I should've stood my ground and demand that her furneral should've been done her way, the way me & her always discussed. But no, I had to be weak and let myself be bullied by what my stupid uncles wanted.
I regret telling her that it was okay to let go and that I'd be fine. Because if I'm being truly honest with myself...I'm not fine, I'm absolutely miserable. I miss her more than words can say. I regret not telling her how much I loved her...
I regret not fighting harder for my mom. I wish I could've been stronger for her, and not let my family talk me into taking her off life support. I hate myself, and I hate my family. I regret not telling them how awful they treated me after she died. I should've stood my ground and demand that her furneral should've been done her way, the way me & her always discussed. But no, I had to be weak and let myself be bullied by what my stupid uncles wanted.
I regret telling her that it was okay to let go and that I'd be fine. Because if I'm being truly honest with myself...I'm not fine, I'm absolutely miserable. I miss her more than words can say. I regret not telling her how much I loved her...
regret telling her that it was okay to let go and that I'd be fine. Because if I'm being truly honest with myself...I'm not fine, I'm absolutely miserable. I miss her more than words can say. I regret not telling her how much I loved her...
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shopaholic--- 1 year ago, my mother had a hole form in her lung and they thought she would die.. her lung healed itself but it was painful, and took a toll on her.. 4 months later she developed breast cancer.. they did a full mastectomy, which took another toll... 2 months later she had a hernia operation which took another toll on her.. last week she went to the ER screaming in pain.. she had broken her hip.. didnt fall.. just her muscle tissue is degenerated so much there was nothing to support the hip and it broke.. yesterday she told me she is tired.. she doesnt want to do this anymore.. i love my mother very much but i understand.. and told her so.. yes it wil hurt me when she passes.. but her pain hurts me as well.. seeing someone suffer so we can have more time would be something to regret.. dont regret you told your mom it was okay to let go.. she wouldnt have ;gone' if it wasnt her time.. telling her it was okay to let go was one of the most unselfish things a person can do.. hardest yes.. but nothing to regret.. imho
Yes xGurly, I am down about not pursuing my dreams. While I know it's not too late, it was a waste of time pursuing someone else's dreams.
Nothing is ever a waste of time if you learn from the experience, which it sounds like you have! I know it's hard when others expect things of you. You can achieve your dreams and it's not too late!
I try really hard not to have regrets in Life. Sometimes I feel regret over things, but I work hard on letting it go. Otherwise it'll just eat away at me and it effects my happiness. I've been through far too much to not be happy. Besides, if I can't learn from my personal experiences then maybe I can help others with them. I'm a firm believer in things happen for a reason, even though you may not know that reason for a long time.
I do not have any regrets. Instead, I use the stupid/silly/uninformed/generally negative things I've done in the past as a learning experience. I look back at them only to realize what I did wrong, so I never do it again.. instead of dwelling on it and and thinking "I wish I did that at that time instead of doing what I did"...
Having a daughter. I have 4 boys and gawd knows I love them all to bits - but pink and frilly.... I really wanted that. But you cant have EVERYTHING - I am healthy, I have a loving husband and great kids. I have a well paid job and I have a close extended family. I hope nobody thinks of me as selfish but I am being totally honest.
