It's not really that difficult to cushion a response. We have smilies and fonts and colours ... the English language has tons of words.

I wish folks would, first, decide if their objection even needs to be said and then take a minute to phrase it pleasantly.

Adding another vote for preggers and prego. It is like nails on a chalkboard for me.

Thank you, Optical Goddess. I've been bothered by "aholic" used as a suffix also. The suffix is simply "ic."
Although now you've got me creating a fantasy molecular structure in my head for "carbohol.":dizzy:

My pet peeves are the use of... LOL, ROFL, ROFLOMFGASDFASDFSDA, etc

They really irritate me and the use of them in messages irritates me. People use them for things that aren't even funny.

One example is my mom got an email from a friend who apparently was used to some form of online chat where LOL was used quite frequently. The email was basically illegible to my mom so I had to help her decipher it. There must've been 30 LOLs in that single email.

Actually "-holic" and "-aholic" are suffixes:

"The form -holic is used with words already ending with vowels. For stems ending with consonants, the phonetically pleasant form -aholic appears more common in general, but both spellings are seen, even for the same stem." From http://en.wiktionary.org


I am NOT trying to discredit your peeve; if it bothers you, it bothers you!

OpticalGoddess: "a pop" = apiece: that must be a common East Coast-ism, I see it in New York Times crossword puzzles all the time as well as a few other sources. Doesn't bug me.

"-aholic": obviously supposed to liken the monkey-on-back of choice, carbs, shopping, whatever, to alcoholism. Surely it bugs those who recognize what a serious problem alcoholism and other substance abuse really is ... er, make that ARE?

blooeyedgirl: :welcome2: :hug:

Another peeve: When people discuss things online, and when they have different points of view others assume they are angry, negative or argumentative. :mad: Sometimes seeking to clarify things only makes it worse, apparently! :(

Soulbliss, You hit the head on the nail with that comment. You can't see facial expressions or tone of voice when reading online posts. It's not like normal conversation, where you can get your point across with a smile on your face or a relaxed body posture. Everyone reading it may pick up a different attitude from it, possibly misinterpreting it. I guess I'm more laid back and don't take offense easily. It helps to use the smilies. :)

what serious problems alcoholism and other substance abuse really are

Yes, I concur and that is why I make LIBERAL use of the smilies!!! ( ;) this one is my "being friendly" smile!) . :^:

:thanks:

Battle Ax, I owe you an apology.

I don't know if SoulBliss's post is directed to me, but she is right. I went back and re-read your post. It's clear you weren't disparaging what I said in my first post. I'm so used to being told that the points I made are not any longer considered linguistically incorrect that I reacted reflexively -- and defensively. The mistake was mine, and I should have read your post with more care.

Since the purpose of language is to communicate clearly and your post did that, my curt reply to you was most unfair.

I am sending this as a PM also, in case you are no longer reading this thread, but I felt you were owed a public apology. I hope you will accept it.

All the best, Rae

P. S. I would have laced this post liberally with smilies, but I'm posting in the Quick Reply box. :) Again, I am sorry.

Raebear, it wasn't directed at you at all! I wasn't even aware there was a potential misunderstanding here, and anyway, I am pretty direct, so if I was worried about a miscommunication between us, I would send you a PM :lol: ;)

SoulBliss, that's good to know -- but I had a guilty conscience... I misunderstood a post of Battle Ax's and she was absolutely entitled to that apology!

Fortunately, we're sorted now and I will be more careful in future in how I read someone's posts replying to mine. :)

Rae

What a fresh breath of air it is to chat with mature, direct, honest women!!! :I LOVE this thread! :D

Raebear, u r one klassy ladie!

The aholic thing bugs me not because of the seriousness of alcoholism, it's put on any and everything: shoe-aholic, shopaholic,foodaholic,wildebeestaholic....;)

It reminds me of something that annoys me almost to the point of physical irritation. Every political scandal is coined some term ending with 'Gate'. Watergate was called that because Watergate is/was the name of the hotel. I get that. But Monica-gate? Zippergate? Ugh!:?:

I also don't reffer to my breasts as perky. Perky reminds me of Katie Couric: smily, bubbly, happy. Maybe it's a mood issue but my breasts don't feel that way:dizzy:

With all these peeves, readers may think I'm a curmudgeon through and through, that I yell at neighborhood children to get off my lawn and don't give out treats on halloween. I'm not nearly as picky or constantly annoyed as this thread may lead someone to believe.

It's just that when reading through other people's posts and also thinking about it through out the day, it causes me to think of other things that kind of grate on my nerves.

There's a lot of stuff I do that probably would annnoy other people.There's stuff I do that annoys me sometimes.

I think it's really cool and says a lot about 3FC chicks ( and roosters ) that we can vent and discuss things--peeves or otherwise-- with out getting upset or hurt. We all respect eachother, and smilies are just another way to communicate that. On other boards, ,how long do you think this thread would last?

I cannot think of another board where so many people with different opinions and experiences can post without arguing or attacking!

Maybe it has something to do with the fact that we are trying to lose weight so we have more patience :D I don't know, but I am proud of being a part of it!

I belong to two other boards, one of which is currently discussing pet peeves. That bunch is totally different! I think the post has been hijacked two or three times--but that's they way a lot of the threads get over there! It's actually funny.

Since so many of us have been around here for a while, we know our "personalities" a little and know who can take a little light hearted ribbing, right? On that same board, this is also true, but a newer member took offense to one person's ribbing of another poster. A third party actually had to step in and explain that it was all done in fun and no one had hurt feelings.

The other board, you really have to be careful what you say and to whom it is said. I've had people jump all over me for my response to someone's question. I don't go back there very often.

OOOH, it really bugs me when people say "jump all over...." :D :D :D :):dizzy: :D
;) :hug:

:p

That has happened to me online as well as really passive-aggressive things like people just being catty and junior high school like in approaches to postings and responses.

Oh and ignoring PM's is another thing that happens (falls under passive-aggressive behavior though, doesn't it? :lol: ).

Hey! This would be a good place for an "online pet peeve" thread!!

:devil: :devil: :devil:

This thread has been a great read!

My biggest online pet peeves are signatures with a million animated gifs in them. And, yes, some are guilty of it here. If the images are from an outside site I'll just block that site and they don't show up. But, if they're being hosted by the site in question, I will scroll right past that person's comment so it's off the page as soon as possible. Sorry, it's just my thing.

Here's a little relevant story:

I work for a staffing firm. The other day a prospective talent wrote an email to the president of our company pointing out an "error" in his biography. Well, Mr. I'm-such-a-great-proofreader-hire-me-hire-me-hire-me, you were wrong! I went to five different sources (all in print, not just random websites, and all very reputable), and all five gave me the same punctuation rule. We have a great proofreader/copywriter on staff and I don't appreciate you attempting to make her look bad to further your little career.

I read his email (it was forwarded to me), and he was so smug. Grrr!


Oh, here's one I'm seriously guilty of, overusing quotes and parentheses. I used to use them sparingly, but now I throw them all over the place. My apologies to the assembled.

On the one board, everyone likes photos in their signatures--big photos, collages and even slide shows. I've noticed that the way that site is set up, if the same person posts several times on the same thread, their signature only shows up on the first post on each page. It sure makes a lot of sense!

And they're pet peeves. Personal, annoying ... mildly annoying mostly. Nobody is going to get sent to a concentration camp in Siberia for having sloppy grammar. Well, maybe if they use no capitals and no punctuation.

This is sort of a peeve, but maybe it's a common thing in American English that (surprisingly) hasn't made it here.

I've seen a phrase used both here and on other sites that I go to that doesn't seem to make a lot of sense. It's "could care less". By the context it seems to be able to be reworded as meaning "I don't care". Surely in that case "couldn't care less" is a much better phrase to use? "Could care less" doesn't seem to make a lot of sense if I'm reading the context correctly.

If I'm misinterpreting the phrase here, what does it actually mean? I'm not intending to cause any offence here, and please accept my apologies if you are offended; I'm just not sure what it means.

"confused in Christchurch"
AKA Nicole.

I think it's supposed to be "I couldn't care less" and it means that you don't care at all about something. By saying "I could care less" implies that you do care to some extent. "I couldn't care less" means you don't have any caring at all for the topic at hand. That's how I interpret it, anyway. And actually, I think I've even said "I could care less" when I meant "I couldn't care less".

I believe you are correct. It should be "couldn't care less." However, I have to admit, this is one phrase that I always blurt out wrong! My Mom has tried to correct me, but I just can't get it straight. I'm still working on the "lay, lie, laid" thing, too!

That might be an idea for the newest fad diet!!! :o

People (and businesses) who purposely misspell words, i.e. Klassic Kuts / Kitchen Korner

Originally posted by 4myself: Very ironic: just today I passed a school bus that was from "Kid's Kollege." It's a local pre-school/daycare. All I could think was that we are teaching toddlers and young children how to misspell!

On the flip side: I have a know-it-all sister who no matter what the subject, if you send her an email, will shoot it right back at you with volumes on the history and origins of the subject matter, plus pictures and links to more info. If you don't respond back to her, she'll print out everything and hand it to you the next time she sees you. What an insufferable know-it-all! :rolleyes: I do know how to use Google ya know! :lol:

:rofl:

I am laughing at the fact that you used "insufferable know it all" when you have Snape as your avatar. I can just hear him saying it to Hermione... :lol:

Sorry...back to your regular programming. :lol:

Oh yeah, along the lines of know-it-all ... people who are more concerned with being RIGHT than they are with being kind, welcoming, or helpful.

I'm with you on the know-it-alls...there are too many that think they do! LOL

I think a lot of you will enjoy this (I just read it on Mental Floss):

Repetitive Redundancies

• “False pretense”
If pretense is “the act of alleging falsely,” as Dictionary.com asserts, then wouldn’t a false pretense be … true?

• “Advance warning”
A warning delivered after the fact is known, I believe, as “Monday morning quarterbacking.”

• “Convicted felon”
If we’re guilty until proven innocent, there shouldn’t be too many convictionless felons running around.

• “Surviving widow”
Kallan defines it thusly: “The last woman standing in an all-widow game of Russian roulette.”

• “Fall down”
Gravity tends to make this modifier unnecessary.

• “All throughout”
More pervasive than occasionally throughout.

• “Close proximity”
As opposed to a distant proximity?

• “Sum total”
This really gets the point across … and then sum.

• “Shared dialogue”
When was the last time you heard a shared monologue?

• “Mass exodus”
When everyone leaves church at the same time? And speaking of church …

• “Holy Bible”
I’m so tired of these unholy Bibles.

People accidentally combining words annoys me, too. "Flusterated" (flustered + frustrated?)

Other redundant statements: "dead body" and "at this point in time"

Wow, what a list Allison! Funny!!!