I appreciate the advice.
My brother is talking to him today...having a one on one so Doug doesn't have to feel defensive. I know it sounds strange....26 and still with his dad who takes advantage of him. But at the same time I understand this....he has no family except for his dad and his dad's family. It's not his real family but it's what has been stable to him for years and to risk throwing that away by facing his father is tough. That's what he is going through right now is that marrying me will most likely drive his "father" away and then he will have no family. How would that make anyone feel? I'm 22....and I'm not so independant either, of coruse my dad wanted me to live at home till I was 35...and those were his words.
Supposedly Doug is bipolar...but this..again..was coming from his dad. I've spent days with him and never saw him take a pill. The only temper he's ever gotten is if he gets upset...he takes a walk, comes back and talks through it. Like I said before, he's not stupid.
I aggree that he needs to get out of there and finding assistance is the first step. Actually, the next step is to find out what all his dad is actually lying to him about...and then going for assistance.
My mom is on my side actually....she loves Doug. Doug has been like the son she always wanted.
lol If mom needs help he's over here right away to help her no matter what. He's never expected pay which is more than I can say for my own brother. Of course we do pay him though, because he needs the little extra cash once in a while. He has called my mom and dad "mom and dad" for quite a while now...he really looks up to my parents. That's why I'm so scared about Doug talking to my dad and getting hurt. Doug is very sensitive and I don't want him to hate my dad. Yes, there are things Doug needs to work on....heck, there are things I need to work on too...SERIOUS things.
I'll let you guys know how things go later. I'm supposed to spend the whole day with him *crosses fingers*...I hope the talk with my brother does him some good.