Oh, it's so good to get a handle on this now! Not only did I compete with my husband, but also with his very overweight family! Instead of being proud of the comments "she eats like a bird", I ended up joining them up to 235 pounds.

You're small...you have to eat small. No, it's not fair. I like Cherber's way of thinking. Try to feel proud of yourself for eating less than him.

My husband is WAYYYY bigger than me, and therefore needs to eat alot more, and more often than me. I originally gained about 20 pounds when we started dating because it took me a few months to figure out that every time he eats, I didn't have to too. Now I try to cook more at home. I generally try to cook for three people: me (1 portion) and my husband (2 portions). I also try to make diet friendly foods that he can add to, and I can eat over a salad (think tuns sandwich for him, tuna in a salad for me or veggie burgers for him and a bean burger over lettuce for me)

That being said, it is still hard when he snacks all the time and I have to watch him. I try to get him snacks that I don't like, and keep the ones we both like very healthy.

Just starting to worry about this. My SO is a grazer type who will eat a handful of chips or 3/4 of his subway or some dried fruit when he feels like it. He also lives on red bull. I used to be a grazer, but I grazed too often without thinking about it and that's how I put on 40 pounds in the first place. Now I am fairly regimented about meals and planned snacks with known calories. I'm not sure how this is going to play out when I go down to visit him for a long weekend. I've only got 6-7 more pounds to goal and I want to get there and maintain. Temptation and his sweet tooth are not my friends.

I'm annoyed. I spent a whole spring break with my boyfriend. I was more aware of what I put in my mouth...but I still ate it! We still shared root beer floats, popcorn, etc. I was able to stop when I didn't want to eat any more, I suppose that's progress, but still. What's normal eating with a boyfriend who eats a lot (and should) and what's considered going above and beyond?

the boy LOVES to buy me chocolate. and as he's over 6 foot and is used to seeing the portions he consumes, always feels like I'm under-eating when in reality I'm often over-eating for what my 5'1.5" frame can consume relative to him.

it's important to really understand your body's needs, and become very comfortable with what full/hungry feels like. what a portion should look like. and exactly what a plate should look like and consist of for you and your body type. that way, when you are with him, and you do order differently or eat less than him, you don't feel deprived, guilty, or uneasy about the differences in your portions or food content, because you know you're taking care of yourself and giving your body exactly what it needs.

who knows, maybe he'll follow suit if you start bustin' out the veggies more and he starts to see you losing weight. My bf has noticed my weight loss and how hard I've been working out, and as a result (even though the guy already has a six pack sheesh) has been motivated to keep up and get moving more with me.

My boyfriend is 5'9, weights 116 pounds soaking wet, and eats 4 times more than I do. I have seen him eat an entire Ben & Jerry's pint, get up, run to 7/11, bring another one home, and eat that too.

I've been eating low carb, as it is the only way I can eat around him. His metabolism is too high for him to eat diet food. So we'll go to a restaurant and order a hummus appetizer - he'll clear out the pita and I'll nibble on the celery. He gets the dessert and is under strict orders to allow me only one spoonful. Only months of training have given him the willpower to resist my sad eyes when I ask for a second, but he's been very good at that.

My husband is twice my size, vertically and horizontally. I gained 30 pounds when we moved in together because not only did I start eating like a 200+ pound man all of a sudden, but I also quit smoking since he's a nonsmoker.

Now, we don't eat the same foods anymore at all. We no longer cook big, unhealthy meals together, and when we go out to eat, I get something healthy and plan what I'm going to get at the restaurant ahead of time, and he gets whatever he wants. I put it to him point blank when I started on my weight loss regime if he actually cared that we didn't eat the same stuff anymore and he said no, that I could've eaten as I wanted all along but that I seemed to want to "nest" and do the domestic stuff together early on. He couldn't care less if we get two sets of groceries and eat our own way. For me, pre-defined portion sizes are the only way I can manage to stay in my comfortable weight zone, and he's fine with it.

This is not to say we won't still cook together but we've lately been only using that as a special occasion thing, and that makes it more special anyway.