Colleen you count EVERY SINGLE MORSEL you put in your mouth

... A calorie is a calorie is a calorie....
Try Fitday.com, this is what I use to count calories and it helps a LOT... Weeks when I am not vigilant on counting calories I gain or maintain... Fitday will give you a break down of calories, fats, carbs and protein ratios... Do what works best for you though, some still use the ol' little black book method and write everything down...
There are other sites that are good for calorie counting but I use fitday.com and am very happy with it... I can't remember the names of the other sites...I'm sure someone will come along and let us know...