I'm no featherweight
so I'm seeing this from a slightly different perspective.
I've known a few of my friends who were on the slimmer side of the scale to constantly talk about their need to change their diet and lose weight. They
were fishing for that "What? You look fantastic!" compliments. (In fact, they outright said so... and boy did I feel great as the fat friend telling someone they didn't need to lose weight
Maybe they just wanted to rub it in my face, but I won't go there!) It became an automatic response to them. So, I know that for me, were I to say that, it's not to be insulting. I just figure someone needs to hear that they look nice.
I have a co-worker is also quite slender, and she follows WW, and we talk about it sometimes, because I, too, follow WW. She explained to me that she wasn't truly trying to lose weight so much as eat healthier, and she liked the balance she found at WW. Now
that I could understand & relate to. So, we talk about health, not weight.
(I could talk about nutrition & food all frickin' day long!)
I don't think minding our own business, and shedding a few unwanted pounds while getting healthier is anyone else's business. I'm surprised, and a little worried, that as I approach my goal area I'd get treated the same way. I've tried to replace my "Oh, but you look great" response when someone says "I need to lose weight" with simply "Oh?". They'll talk about it if they want to, and I can usually gauge whether they simply want to hear "You look good" or if they actually want to eat wiser & exercise.
What annoys me terribly is reading that some of you are told those "You look good... for being (insert age here/pregnant/having had kids)". Please. Those are terribly backhanded. If we think someone looks nice, can't we just say "Oh you look so nice!" and mean it?
Also, that people think losing weight is a purely cosmetic thing. Yes, slimming down is part of what I'm doing, but come on, I ENJOY eating healthier & exercising now. So, if I enjoy doing it now, when I need to lose quite a bit more, am I not going to continue to enjoy eating this way when I'm at goal? As if eating healthier & exercising are only for people who need to lose a lot of weight. There's nothing wrong with me now for refusing a slice of pizza, and there's going to be nothing wrong with me a year from now for refusing a slice of pizza.