Kim - My sympathies to you and your husband and families. She sounds like she was a dear woman.

We have company, and I'm having a tough time reigning in the calories. I am not going to enter in fitday today. I did take an hour walk

Mudpie I'm 5'4" too, but my goal weight is 10 lbs more then yours, so compare yourself to me instead and you should feel better. :)

I was in a Dolly Parton look-a-like contest when I was 16 years old, so I have some extra cargo that I am happy to hold on to, if you know what I mean. :o

TOM came for his monthly visit this afternoon. I could tell he was soon to be arriving because my eating program has been out of whack for the past 24 hours. That TOM sure doesn't like the feeling of lightness that is my goal. He much prefers to weigh me down with as few fruits, vegetables and water as possible. I had a hamburger with cheese tonight. Hopefully that should keep him quiet tomorrow. Little bugger!!

I have a headache too! Time for bed!

Thank you all for your kind words. It's so nice to know there are so many good people out there willing to spare a thought for a stranger's loss.

A work deadline, ten million things to do at home for our upcoming cross-country move, and residual grief combined to make me less than excited about going to the gym today. At 6 pm I was on that cusp between sucking it up and going, and just heading home for dinner. The gym won. It wasn't my best workout ever, but it was a workout.

The Boy's here for a story. Off to bed!

Mudpie--You're no slouch! I sit on my butt all day and you walk dogs, for Pete's sake! It's entirely possible that my goal is completely unrealistic. It's been my goal for a year now and I still haven't gotten there (of course, there have been several detours :o). Your goal is well within a healthy BMI range and I'm sure that you will look great when you get to it. I know I was pretty psyched about the way I looked when I got down to 130. You have to set a goal that's right for you, where you are happy with your weight and comfortable with what you have to do to maintain, because no matter what it is, it's going to be hard work. :stress:

Road trip - Yikes!
 

I'm off on a 4 day vacation tomorrow. Visiting my DH's relatives, who make broccoli salad with bacon, sour cream and oil! I am bringing dinner on Saturday - steaks and corn so won't be too bad - but I'm kinda dreading the whole thing. They all are obese and scoff ever time I say I'm on a diet or try to turn down that second helping of pie and ice cream.

You know, I think I'm gonna LIE :devil: to deal with them. I will say my stomach's been upset from the heat and I can't eat any really heavy food :p.
That should work. As for the road part of the trip I'm taking a cooler with bottled water and fruit for myself. I will invite DH to join me in consuming these but I suspect he's going to pretty much live on coffee and donuts.

I'm planning on weighing about the same on Monday when I return as I do tomorrow morning before I leave. I CAN DO THIS!!

Have a great weekend everyone (ours is a long weekend with a civic holiday - ain't the government grand?)

Dagmar (still hiding from the fat fairy) :cool:

Morning!

I also think that as we get closer to goal 'weight' our goals change for other reasons. We become aware of our body composition and our body's capability to do various things.

Let's stick with our same example gal. At 170 lbs ... the scale just simply had to move downward. No ifs, ands or buts. That was just too many pounds.
What if at 137 she can almost wear a fitted T with low rise jeans -or- her body fat percentage is fractions higher than a nice round number -or- she can almost do a complete set of reps at 35 lbs? Her goals no longer have much to do with a scale weight at all.
However ... she has to put something in her ticker or profile. It's almost universally expected that squishy women are interested in 'weight loss'.

hi everyone!
 

thank you for inviting me susan! my name is jessica and i am very new to this! two years ago i weighed 127, and i thought i was fat!!! since then i have gained more than 20 pounds and it is killing me. its not too bad when i look in the mirror, but when i see pictures of myself now i am shocked. i used to wear size 3's in pants and smalls in shirts. well, as of the last time i went shopping i bought some 11's and they are getting tight! my weight gain is definatley starting to hurt my day to day life. i used to be so fun and want to hang out with friends every weekend. i havent been out in over a year now. i make excuses whenever i get invited to go somewhere just because i dont want to be seen by my frineds who remember the old me. i am just miserable. it used to be so easy to keep the weight off i didnt even have to try. can someone please give me some motivational tips on how to stay focused? i am the classic person who when i start feeling fat, i head straight for the icecream. it has also taken a toll on my love life. i never want to be intimate with my boyfriend because i get grossed out at myself so i imagine he does too. even tho he says he loves me no matter what. i cant even get thru this post with out tears streaming down my face. please tell me what your final straw was and your diet and exercise regimine. thank you so much for taking the time to read this.~~~~~~~~ jessica

p.s. can you also explain to me how to get a ticker?

Hi Jessica! Have you had a look at the Introductions forum? (forgive me if you have)

Have you talked to your boyfriend about how you feel? I understand your situation, wow do I understand, when I was 16/17 I was into everything, socialised a lot...and was 140lbs or so. I'm thinner now but I got so deep into depression that I havn't been out in a long time either, and now I'm trying to rebuild slowly.

I think your weight isn't so much to do with how good you are at dieting, its all to do with your selfesteem and depression issues, which sound like two things that are wrecking your life - and you deserve agood time! Everyone does...I thought my therapist was nuts when he said that. But I realized, I'm just screwed up.

Are you in therapy at all/would you consider it?

emily
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hi emily! as far as therapy... no i havent given it any thought. maybe i should. depression does run in my family, my mom has been on medication for years. i dont think im that bad, i really just need some people who are in my same position and can be my support. i did go on the introductions but is there a link for the ticker? or what button to i go to?

just testing to see it i got the ticker to work

Jessica: I think I know how you feel. I was devastated at 135 a few years back and now I would love to weight 135. It is all relative. I'm sure you think worse about your weight and how you look than anyone else does. I also bet your boyfriend still finds you attractive at any weight (within reason haha). It's not too hard to figure out if he does (if you know what I mean)...I'm sure all your concerns will be put to rest.

I am struggling with my weight and moved my ticker back up to 149 just now (from 147)...it is a hard, constant battle. Maybe it is even harder for us gals who used to be naturally thin. I guess I never realized how hard it was to lose weight since I never had to deal with it until recent years.

As for seeing friends you haven't seen in awhile. I get the same anxiety with feelings like they are judging me or saying "she really let herself go"...etc. Just try to feel good about yourself and it will shine through. Confidence is far more attractive than anything else. I think they will envy your ability to remain confident, regardless of weight gain. Just think about how many "after" photos are of women who have reached their goal weight...and it is your current weight! Like I said, it is all relative. Just try to eat healthy and feel good about yourself and everything else will fall in line (eventually). Whenever I start feeling depressed, I just think "it took me 4 years to gain this weight...I can't expect to lose it all in a few months". Hope it helps to know you're not alone.

Welcome Jessica! :wave: My best advice for motivation is to make a plan (food/exercise/goals). Write it down. Take your measurements and write them down and write down goals next to those. Sit down and plan a week's worth of menus and then go shopping for the ingredients. And if you have to, throw away all the junk food in your house. Best of luck to you.

Well, my weight is still at 145.5 (3rd day in a row?). I managed to get through yesterday without a cocktail! That's a major hurdle! Hopefully that will allow me to lose a pound this week. I made a big batch of protein pancakes and cooked one and refrigerated the batter for easy breakfasts for the next few days. I'm thinking I should have eaten two this morning--I'm already hungry!!

Dagmar~have a wonderful holiday!

Kaw~we're not strangers--we're your friends!!!

Susan~I don't know what it is with my weight. The last time I weighed this, my DD said to me "Gawd, Mom, you're skinny" and she was right. I had little to no excess fat around my stomach. So why is it that it's all pooching over my undies now? Perhaps I've gained some muscle (so I weigh more) but still have the fat, so it's what is leaking out over my clothes! So, yes, weight is all relative.

shy~I don't see why lying can be a bad thing in certain situations. If Dagmar doesn't want a confrontation, then I think it's perfectly alright to say she isn't feeling well and can't eat such and such. I do it sometimes myself (although I usually say I'm not hungry or I'm so full I can't manage any dessert). It helps avoid those incriminating looks from people (you know the look--"you're on a diet? why?).

Everyone have a great day!

Mudpie, you don't need to explain your food choices. When I am offered the fattening goodies, pie,cake,ice cream, donuts, etc. I just say "no, I don't feel like it today" and leave it at that, change the subject and move on.I find it best to NOT tell people I am on a diet. Most people really don't care, anyway,BUT once you say you are on a diet the Diet Police and Diet sabotagers will show up and will have something to say about every bite you take or will be offering you mountains of calorie laden food.
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Just popping in to say hi! I'm busy house cleaning. We are having my parents company (aunt, uncle, cousins) for dinner tonight. We are grilling chicken and veggies, so it will be fairly healthy. Hope everyone is having a good day.