IRIS ~ Those things are very hard for us to understand...in fact we can't.
We just have to remember that our God is a fair and just AND LOVING God!
One thing that I use to comfort me on the How and Whys of situations like your friend's is....
I know God knows what would have happened with that person if they were able to live their life out as God intended...he knows whether or not that child would have come to Him....
That is all my own thinking and not anything I have ever read or been told.....
it comforts me.



It is comforting to know that God is fair and that he can see into a person's heart.