Subconsious sabotage, I know thee well...
First, is he anxious about you losing weight? Are there any security issues with him? Perhaps talking to him about this might help.
Second, you don't have to get mad at all! Just be understanding, and explain to him that you know he loves you but you really really REALLY want to accomplish this goal of yours so you can be healthy and stick around to be with him for a long, long time.
Third, just because he prepares things for you or brings them home doesn't mean that you have to eat them! You can praise him fully, give him some special attention, and then "put it aside for later". OR, in the case of a meal, have just a taste (I KNOW how hard this is) and bulk up your plate with salad salad SALAD. He'll get the message soon enough!
You really have it good, because he is trying to do things for you that in his mind shows you that he loves you. Redirecting this into a more productive area (like, say, "BOY thanks for making dinner. I sure appreciate it! And what would also really help me, even MORE than the fabulous snack that you picked up for me, is if we could go for a walk with together tonight!!!") might be your best option...
Every time my DH used to do this, I would beg him for a back rub! After several weeks of meals and treats, he started complaining that "Every time I bring you a treat, I have to rub your back for an hour. I'm not bringing you treats any more!" which was the whole point of the exercise! Problem solved, and everyone was happy (and my back felt GREAT for two whole weeks...good times....sigh...)!
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