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VermontMom - I hope you're okay and everything goes well! My step mom was told she may get glaucoma 15 years ago. She's still waiting for it!
lisaloveshearts - Good luck with the move!
So, in terms of jobs, I have found a new one, but it won't start for a few weeks and is zero-hours so swings and roundabouts.
But, on the plus side, the zoo I was made redundant from is looking for volunteers with their bird section and, as I happen to be friends with the supervisor (and may be dating a bird keeper), I am guaranteed a spot! I just have to let them know when I'm ready to start! Hoping tomorrow but I've got to get rid of this nasty head cold before then.
Hi GingerKibble hey thank you about your stepmom still waiting (not impatiently ) for the doctor's crummy news I hope your head cold is gone and yay for the good news about the volunteering spot!
Holly, you might want to consider a second opinion. Mass. Eye and Ear is the top place in New England; you might want to research and decide whether to give them a call. If that is too inconvenient, I would suggest a second opinion in your area.
Yes, I was in corporate law for 30 years; I wanted to be a defense attorney, but after studying some cases and realizing I would be defending guilty people 95% of the time, I switched to corporate law. But, for fun, I would take weird cases pro bono - like the coffee shop workers. I once represented a woman whose wedding dress was a mess because of the person who did alterations; that was a dramatic one! The bride was a large woman, and needed a size 24; they only had a 22 and 26, and the store convinced her to buy the 26 and they would alter it so you could not tell the difference. And, this was a very exclusive shop. Not only did they butcher the dress; they charged her $450 for the alterations, after stating (but not writing ) they would do it for free.
Eddie is adorable!
Kathleen, I hope things are settled for you. Stress and tension are tough to deal with.
Jessika, I am sorry to hear about your mother. It is a very difficult part of life.
Lisa, congratulations on your quick action! I hope you are very happy in your house.
Hello to everyone else.
Monica
Hi Monica ! I do very much value your opinion..but I have gone ahead to solidify with the plans. I just have to deal with the limited options in this area and hope for the best
thanks for sharing the bride story! you have really interesting anecdotes, I'd love to hear more.
I hope things are good with you Monica, how is your winter? we've been getting alot of snow, ugh. At least it's good exercise
Last edited by VermontMom; 02-08-2017 at 07:52 PM.
Guys, I'm sorry for not posting much recently, I felt a little inappropriate with Jessica's news. I know everything will be much rawer than for me, but I had mentioned I was having a tough time, and thought I should go into it a bit more. Last week was the second anniversary of my mum's death, it was a horrible week. I took some time to visit my dad at the weekend, and to visit her grave while I was there.
The thing is, my dad seems to have met someone new, and I'm finding it hard to come to terms with. They have been together for about a year, but we were only told the truth at Christmas, when my sister asked him. While visiting my dad to pay my respects to my mum, the new lady invited herself through, which made a tough weekend tougher.
Unfortunately the whole thing had me really upset, I barely slept for 3 nights with anxiety. I ended up having a huge rant to my OH about how my dad has treated us through the years, which was very insensitive given he lost his dad 6 months ago.
On top of this, my OH's Gran has been having difficulty with her memory - up to now, it has been quite minor things, but we had a bigger incident at the weekend. We are not sure if it's just an age thing (she's 88), and she did lose her son not long ago, but we're worried it's the start of a more serious problem. We live 2 hours away, which makes things difficult. I really hope she'll be alright.
Coop, you are SO considerate that you 'held back' with your own personal grief, because you didn't want to appear inconsiderate concerning Jessika's grief over her mother. blessing to you!! However YES I would also be very upset if my dad met someone after only a year. It's a really difficult situation because everyone should have the right to be happy but it doesn't make you happy I guess you just have to honor your mum's memory and keep loving her and nothing will take from that.
Hello everyone I guess I answered my own question when I looked and saw this thread I didn't realize there was a new one for each month. That is pretty cool I hope everyone is doing ok
Coop I am sorry to hear about what is going on with your family, I know changes are never easy to begin with then you add emotion to them and they turn into a whole different beast.
I really thank you guys for being so open and I feel like this is a place I am come to and talk and not be judged or looked at funny. When people hear about depression they are just like yeah yeah ur sad all the time what ever. Then when they hear bi-polar they think you are absolutely crazy. The sterotypes really annoy me. And it makes it hard to talk about to anyone about it. Then the anxiety on top of it is just sometimes an incredible weight to handle and I would rather not deal with it and I know I have alway hidden or eaten my feelings for most all of my life. But I want to be healthy and feel better physically. The mental health I guess with just take time to sort out and work through, sometimes I don't think it will ever get "better" But I know I have control over my physical health and that is why i am working so hard and looking for the support to keep my head up and to keep on keeping on. I really hope everyone will pull through their struggles and be able to have a good year. If anyone has any questions they want to ask please feel free.. Thanks
Nerdbling - oh ABSOLUTELY you can talk about anything to us and there is unconditional support here. You make a ton of sense that you see that you have control over your physical health and good for you for working hard on that!!
Hello everyone. Thank you so much. It's been really rough. I'm glad I have you all here. Love you guys
We had her celebration of life gathering on Jan 28th, and are going to spread her ashes on the weekend of Feb 24th. I miss her dearly, and continue to struggle quite a bit
I've set up appointments to see my therapist weekly, I've been doing a lot of journaling, reading a daily grief recovery meditation book, I see my psychiatrist soon, etc. I have definitely struggled, though, with depressive and hypomanic episodes, anxiety and OCD stuff (I have Bipolar2 Disorder, GAD & OCD, and a couple of other diagnoses...)
My sleep is all messed up, for the first 11 days after her passing I was only sleeping approximately 3 hours a night, and I kind of went off my rocker a bit. My sleep is bouncing around now, for a couple of nights I'll get solid 6-8 hours of sleep, then it's back to just a few, and then back again
My wife has been very supportive, but it's also been hard on that front bc I'm an introvert and she's an extrovert, and we deal/cope with things in very different manners on that respect. Plus, considering I was the only child, everything is falling on me (all the red-tape stuff, which believe it or not is a lot, especially for someone who in her life didn't have much. I'm actually having to go to probate court soon, and that's just the tip of the iceberg.)
I'm also very much struggling at work... I am a counselor, actually, by profession, and it's not the work it self that I'm struggling with - it's just keeping up in general
Lastly, my eating has been out of control for the last 2 weeks. Prior to my mom dying, I had broken out of my weight loss plateau and lost 6 pounds on Weight Watchers... Then she passed away, and I've been binge eating for 2 weeks. I'm frustrated and disappointed with that.
Anyway, I wanted to stop by and give an update. Thank you all again for all of your love and support. I'll be back soon
JesikaBeth, oh gosh honey you are having such a tough time now Losing your Mom is SO hard. it will be affecting everything in your life for a while unfortunately. There WILL be a time in the future when you are able to look back and be glad you got through it though it doesn't seem like it now. I hear you about the difficulty of introvert/extrovert and discussing your feelings. And oh gosh the red tape aspect of handling someone's passing is adding insult to injury, sometimes. You WILL get through it. you will
* the best advice i got from someone, regarding having to take care of my dad's estate, was to request MANY certified copies of the death certificate, if you haven't already done so. *
Last edited by VermontMom; 02-08-2017 at 08:32 PM.
I just have to pat myself on my back and tell you about taking care of our driveway today!! we had snow, then it rained, then ice pellets on top..it hardened down to the ground and it was almost 4 inches of almost frozen slush/snow. I couldn't just shovel it..had to chop it with a pointy-type metal shovel, then remove it with a snow shovel..I went outside at 9:45 and finished at noon. I don't know what we are going to do when I am in my 80's, lol, but I am proud of being able to do it now!
We have had some super busy weekends at work, as the average working slob I have to say it sucks that you get paid the same to be frantically busy and efficiently taking care of customers, as when it is slow. But then I guess it's nice to be paid for when it's slow time. See I am being 'glass half full'
Yesterday at work, I made the decision to close the store an hour early, it was approaching 5 pm and it was snowing, and it's hard enough for me to see at night when it's clear, let alone wet or snowy. I left a note for the boss saying I owed him an hour. I don't think he will try to chastise me, he lets other employees get away with all kinds of crap, I am usually a model employee and I have enough dirt on him to bring down the whole organization bur I must say it was sooo good to drive home before it got dark. Come on Spring!!!!!!!
good to hear from you Lisa! good luck with your keyboard!
Hi holly, I am using Jennifer little HP until I can get a new laptop. My Mac is toast. I cannot even type on it anymore.
I am so tired tonight, I can't quite yawning.
How are you feeling, Holly? I hope you are good. Have you been exercising? I know you usually do several times a week. Just remember you are lovely just the way you are.
lisa I'm guessing your sans internet for a while, but I really hope your move went well!
holly what difficult news from the eye specialist! I agree with Monica that a second opinion might be worthwhile. By the way, I loved the photos of Eddie! He looks like a big softie!
monica I've been listening to a lot of stories about defence law recently, I'm thinking you were right to stick to corporate law! I do find the whole profession fascinating, but a lot of responsibility. The pro bono cases sound like a good way to break the work up.
Nerdbling glad you found the new thread! I hope you can keep stopping by, and things can get a little easier for you, even if you never get truly better.
My OH had a Celiac test before Christmas, but was told his tests came back normal. He went to the doctors about something else today, and his doctor just happened to relook at his test results - it turns out he actually tested positive for Celiacs disease. Can't believe they told him otherwise! It's going to be a huge overhaul for us. Most of the foods he has to cut out are unhealthy though, so I guess there is a silver lining somewhere in there...
I'm still here, Coop. Had to borrow Jennifer's little laptop. Mine is no good now. I can't even type on it.
I am so sorry about your OH having celiac. I don't know much about it though. What does it do to a person?
Hello everyone. Thank you so much. It's been really rough. I'm glad I have you all here. Love you guys
We had her celebration of life gathering on Jan 28th, and are going to spread her ashes on the weekend of Feb 24th. I miss her dearly, and continue to struggle quite a bit
I've set up appointments to see my therapist weekly, I've been doing a lot of journaling, reading a daily grief recovery meditation book, I see my psychiatrist soon, etc. I have definitely struggled, though, with depressive and hypomanic episodes, anxiety and OCD stuff (I have Bipolar2 Disorder, GAD & OCD, and a couple of other diagnoses...)
My sleep is all messed up, for the first 11 days after her passing I was only sleeping approximately 3 hours a night, and I kind of went off my rocker a bit. My sleep is bouncing around now, for a couple of nights I'll get solid 6-8 hours of sleep, then it's back to just a few, and then back again
My wife has been very supportive, but it's also been hard on that front bc I'm an introvert and she's an extrovert, and we deal/cope with things in very different manners on that respect. Plus, considering I was the only child, everything is falling on me (all the red-tape stuff, which believe it or not is a lot, especially for someone who in her life didn't have much. I'm actually having to go to probate court soon, and that's just the tip of the iceberg.)
I'm also very much struggling at work... I am a counselor, actually, by profession, and it's not the work it self that I'm struggling with - it's just keeping up in general
Lastly, my eating has been out of control for the last 2 weeks. Prior to my mom dying, I had broken out of my weight loss plateau and lost 6 pounds on Weight Watchers... Then she passed away, and I've been binge eating for 2 weeks. I'm frustrated and disappointed with that.
Anyway, I wanted to stop by and give an update. Thank you all again for all of your love and support. I'll be back soon
Jesika, just keep taking care of yourself and be gentle with yourself. It sounds like you are, just keep it up. You are still raw from this loss. Give yourself time to heal and it may take a while.
i miss my mom very much. Time has enabled me to realize that as much as I love and miss her, she is not in pain anymore. I would never in a million years want her to live in pain. She did not take very good care of herself, she was very stubborn and did not go to the Dr as much as she should have. I love her so much but she was a difficult woman. Once she got something in her mind, good luck changing it. It will be a year in March, that she passed.
I can think of her now without crying. Therapy has done me a world of good. It's still sad but I know I was so lucky to get spend time with her and I know she loved me to the moon and back.
Just continue to do things for yourself, take care of yourself and post here as much as you need to.
Holly, you might want to consider a second opinion. Mass. Eye and Ear is the top place in New England; you might want to research and decide whether to give them a call. If that is too inconvenient, I would suggest a second opinion in your area.
Yes, I was in corporate law for 30 years; I wanted to be a defense attorney, but after studying some cases and realizing I would be defending guilty people 95% of the time, I switched to corporate law. But, for fun, I would take weird cases pro bono - like the coffee shop workers. I once represented a woman whose wedding dress was a mess because of the person who did alterations; that was a dramatic one! The bride was a large woman, and needed a size 24; they only had a 22 and 26, and the store convinced her to buy the 26 and they would alter it so you could not tell the difference. And, this was a very exclusive shop. Not only did they butcher the dress; they charged her $450 for the alterations, after stating (but not writing ) they would do it for free.
Eddie is adorable!
Kathleen, I hope things are settled for you. Stress and tension are tough to deal with.
Jessika, I am sorry to hear about your mother. It is a very difficult part of life.
Lisa, congratulations on your quick action! I hope you are very happy in your house.
Hello to everyone else.
Monica
Monica, thank you so much. Once I get all moved it, I think I'll really like it.
I'm still here, Coop. Had to borrow Jennifer's little laptop. Mine is no good now. I can't even type on it.
I am so sorry about your OH having celiac. I don't know much about it though. What does it do to a person?
It's a gluten intolerance - kinda like an allergy, but it's not an allergy it's a big sensitivity. You have to avoid cross contamination (so things like our toaster will have to be binned because it's had gluten breads in it). It's going to make it really difficult for us - we can't have anything with flour in it anymore, we can't eat out unless they're gluten free either, and if we go to a friend's for dinner, we'll have to ask them to sterilise their kitchen... It's a real pain.
It's not as dangerous as a nut allergy, but it causes intestinal problems if you have even a drop of gluten. If you carry on eating gluten then it turns into a bigger problem with time.
I just keep thinking about all the things we can't eat anymore, because we can't have any gluten in the house, and I'll have to avoid it when we're out to be considerate to my OH too. We can't have Cake, most chocolates, pizza, pasta, Chinese food, some Indian foods, cookies, pringles, gravy, burger buns... On the one hand, almost everything that has to go is pretty bad for us, but it just sucks.
) for the doctor's crummy news 
I guess you just have to honor your mum's memory and keep loving her and nothing will take from that.
and I have enough dirt on him to bring down the whole organization 
