July 2016 Ups and Downs Support Thread
 

Hi folks,


Welcome to the month support thread. YOU are all welcome to post here with us. This is a support thread, post whatever is bothering you. We are great at listening to you and giving support feed back.



Last month was a little slow, perhaps this thread will pick up.


Have a great 4th, everyone. :)

Hello :wave:

I'm Here!

I'm hoping this thread becomes active :)

So I'm Jessica 36 y/o in Texas. Been on my weight loss journey since October 2014. I've lost over 90 pounds in that time and have just about 50 pounds left to go until my goal.

Not too much on my mind today... working a 12 hour shift (blah) to try and make up some hours from being off on Monday due to the Holiday.

Luckily, though, tomorrow is my Friday :cheer2:

I hope you have a great day :)

Cool. Are you in college? What are you going for? I'm sorry to hear you've had a headache. I get tension headaches often. Hope you feel better soon!

awwww Thank you so much, you're so sweet for asking. I used to have migraines several times a week, they were so bad. I was so sick from them. When my nurse practitioner put me on Seraquel for anxiety, it helped my migraines so much. It was incredible. Lately though, the migraines have returned, not quite so bad as before but still enough to hurt and make me sick to my stomach. I got a hold of my neurologist yesterday and she prescribed me my migraine medicine. It's waiting at Rite Aid for me.

My major is Graphic Arts.


What is everyone else doing today? Something fun, I hope. :)

Graphic Arts, very cool !!! I hope your new medicine helps those migraines! I just take Excedrin Migraine and usually that'll kick it out of me (but nothing else works i.e. ibuprofen, Tylenol, etc.)

Not doing anything fun today, lol. I'm at work for a 12 hour shift. I love my job though, but not my definition of fun haha ;)

Lisa, thanks for the new thread! I'm just popping in to say Hi!

I've been very busy car hunting this last week and filling in all sorts of paperwork for insurance and all that! Been a bit quiet, but I found a new car now. Picking up tonight, so I'll have time for a better catch-up at the weekend.

Hello!!!

Oh exciting on your car! What did you get?

We're due for a new car probably by fall. Both of ours are 2004's. Eventually we'll need 2 new cars, but trying to hold off d/t the expense of having 2 car notes (LOL)

Just wanted to wish everyone a great day! :grouphug:

Today is my Friday. I work until 3pm. Even though it's been a short week bc of the Holiday, it's felt excruciatingly long! Plus I'm off on Monday bc I have jury duty. At 36 years old, I've never had jury duty before. Guess there's a first time for everything, LOL!

Jessica - I got a lovely turquoise mazda 2! Very pleased with it, it's so comfy, and the first time I've had working air con in my car! My last car was such an old banger :lol: the sun roof leaked, it ruined all my cds. I'm sad to see it go in the circumstances though.

I've been quite a little insomniac the last 2 nights, but I've come to the conclusion today that I'm very stressed, I just don't realise it. Between my OH's dad being hospitalised last week and starting chemo next week, OH being away a lot, our rabbit's broken foot, car hunting, chasing insurance companies and sorting hire cars, trying to pull my finances together, covering for my boss who's on leave... Plus next week is my last week at my current job, so I'm nervous about my new position and tying up loose ends.

To top it off, I had an appointment with the pain clinic nurse yesterday, who was a little tactless. She told me 'there is a very slim chance your pain will ever go away'. Well put it this way, I can't carry children if my pain doesn't go away, so she just basically announced I can't have kids. But I have spent 7 years visiting specialists who have never said my pain might never go away, so I'm just thinking she doesn't understand my specific condition. But I'm still a bit worried.

Still, my current medication is managing to keep my stress at bay, which can only be good, even if there is no difference to the pain yet. And I'm gradually ticking tasks off. I have the new car sorted, the hire car has gone back. I've finished off two sets of insurance forms, and next week I'll have the job change out the way. My boss returns on Monday too. Plus I'll have a long weekend next weekend!

I am also glad the OHs dad will be starting chemo - we will know how many weeks his treatment will run for, and we will know his schedule so we can plan around when his bad weeks will be. This illness is so horrible, the not knowing and not being able to plan. I like planning things out and having notice about things, but it's been taken away in one nasty swoop...

Well I'm sorry for the long post, but I think I needed to get it off my chest! The OH can only handle so much of other people's problems right now, and unfortunatelt I'm used to relying on him!

Coop, vent away. I am. lol

Hi everyone. :)


I have to tell my oldest sister today, that I am moving. It will not be pleasant. He reaction will not change my mind but.....she is going to tell me everything she can to put me down. That is just how she is. I can never do anything right in her eyes.

I'll post again later. I'm going to need to vent again.


Much love to all.

hi, i'm joining in. stay at home mom of a toddler, in texas too, and 27. my big thing is i lost my license over two years ago and have failed to fufill the requirments to get it back (pretty much just paying money and taking a long course). i'm pretty bummed about my failure, but also how restricted my life is because of no license. i have a list of daily things i need to do to "stay above the water" and getting out of the house and going somewhere was always on it. it's been an adjustment and the longer this goes on the more upset i am with myself, and i feel hopeless about accomplishming something which should be simple which really effects my confidence. i wish i could take my daughter to storytime at the library each week or pop into the grocery whenever i need a few things. i don't feel independent at all.

Lisa - good lick with your sister! I hope she surprises you and gives you her full support :)

Hi Pinkalarmclock! Welcome to the thread. I'm sorry about your losing your licence. It is so hard to live without a licence, I know what you mean about being without the freedom of a car, I live in a city with so much on my doorstep, but I still couldn't cope. Is your area good for cycling at all? Any other parents near you that could give you and your daughter a lift to story time? Maybe give the organiser a call and ask them to ask around.

I had a car accident a few years back while I was doing weight watchers, and couldn't get there without transport. The organiser was so helpful and sorted someone out that night for me :)

Lisa - I think you posted in last months thread, but I'll answer you in this one so it'll go higher in the queue!

I can only imagine how expensive it would be to ship furniture that far... If you don't mind second hand stuff, it can be so cheap to furnish your house, and I kinda like the looking part too. Gives you something to do.

Hope Jennifer's bed arrives soon!

Well I feel a bit emotional today, I don't know what's up. I think now I've realised there is something wrong, the emotion I've been ignoring is coming out a bit. Or something like that... Not really sure how to deal with it. I'd normally put on a weepy film, but these days they don't work so well as they used to.

I've become interested in finding something sociable to do on my weekends while the OH is caring for his dad. My OH is here during the week (Mon-Thur), but I can get through much of the weekend without talking to anyone except the person on the checkout at the supermarket, and "oh, that's a good price" isn't great conversation!

I wondered whether to try some counselling. Although it's a short term solution, I've found it helpful in the past. My other thought was to find a cancer carer's support group. I know I'm not caring for my OH's dad directly, but it might help me to know what support he needs, and to have somewhere to talk about it openly.

I've even just been thinking about joining a knitting group, or there's a local woman's library that might run some activities. I don't really know what else to try - any thoughts?

Lisa - I never considered bed bugs! How nasty... Not surprised you don't want to go second hand...

I've rented so many furnished flats, I'm so used to not being the first to sit on a certain couch, but the one I was looking forward to above anything was getting my own bed and mattress.

By the way, I hope your knee is feeling a bit better now :)

Coop, yes, my knee is so much better, thank you. Standing can still be tricky but it is tons better.


I've had a difficult day today. I have felt myself on the verge of tears all afternoon. I'm just scared to move. Scared to leave Jennifer. What am I going to do without my precious girl? i Know she's a grown young woman but I love her so damn much.


I hope you all had a better than I did. :(

Hi all,

Hope everyone is well! It's been quiet around here, but I hope it's because you're all off doing nice things :)

I'm still a bit emotional, but at least sleeping a bit better. I have been trying to tick off a few more stresses, and knitting to get some of it out. Two days left at work, then a long weekend before I start my new job.

Hello everyone! I hope you all are doing well :)

I just wanted to check in...

Having a hard time lately, and been eating more than what I'm comfortable with (although not too much, but just more than usual.)

My mom is having heart surgery on Monday and it's pretty serious. She's also a dialysis patient. We do not have a good relationship, and haven't been talking much due to that. She's still my mom, though, and I'm concerned and scared :(

Accomplishment is a great feeling!!!

Have a great day :)

What's your new job? Yay for the upcoming weekend!!!

:)

It must be something in the water because i'm emotional too, very frustrated.


I know in my head that I have to be patient and let life work it's magic so that I can move. Today, I am struggling with that whole patience thing. I want to know when I'm moving so that I can have something to look forward to. I want to know when my mom's house is going to sell. I'm rather a mess today. My hands are shaking.

I have done some stuff around here but I have sooooooo much to accomplish before I can leave. I need to keep going through stuff. My next move is to lease a storage unit. Instead of moving around all this crap, I'm going to start taking stuff to the storage unit and get it out of the way.


I really am a mess, so fricking frustrated.

Sorry everyone is having such a hard time. Today is a down day for me :(

I'm at work and still have 6 hours to go... just wish I were home, cuddled in my bed with my blanket.

Food wise, I'm doing ok. Just feeling meh.

Here's to a better tomorrow for all of us :) Hugs!

Have you looked at meetup.com

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Jessica, I'm sorry to hear about your mom's heart surgery. It must be tough with a rocky relationship, but it won't make it easier. I am sending best wishes she pulls through ok!

Not surprised you're comfort eating! But glad your doing better today.

My new job is similar to what I'm doing now - I'm in the water industry, but just now I do the pipeline part, and the new job will be doing the treatment part. Looking forward to trying something different.

Lisa - well done for the big clear out! It's great to see how excited you are about the move, I just hope you can sort your mom's estate soon. Is the house on the market?

Yeah, I've had a look, but not sure what to go for. My badminton group is through meetup, I can see a knitting group that might work. I'm not the most confident at just going out to new groups though, so people that just meet up for dinner would be too scary!

Hi Coop, good to see you. :)

Yeah, I'm really excited to move but no, my mom's house is not on the market yet. We've got some improvements to do yet. That is why I am so frustrated. I want to get this on the road. It's a nice house but needs updating. The good thing about it is where it is, it's in the country with 3/4 of an acre.


Jennifer is coming later tonight to take the cats. I laid down and called Ruby, she came running like she always does for me. She laid down in the crook of my arm, I stroked and stroked her and cried. It makes me so sad. I told her never to forget me and that I love her so much. I'm not as close to Felix, Ruby has lived here with me for 3 years. Jennifer is her mommy but I adore her and Ruby loves me. I know this is the next step to moving, I can't take all the cats with me but losing Ruby is beyond hard. Leo Bug and Elvira are staying with me so I won't be alone.


Have great day, everyone.

Leaving pets behind is so hard, and she'll miss you as much as you miss her. She won't forget you though, so she'll enjoy whenever you come to visit.

I know what you mean about updating the house, it's tough. I always heard it's a good idea to wait 6 months for any inheritance disputes, so maybe use that as a guide?

Just finished an all evening bake-off. It's my last day tomorrow, so I made 3 cakes - chocolate with chocolate orange frosting, coconut and lime, and sugar free apple and pecan muffins. Might have gone over the top... half the office is on holiday, so there's probably only 40 people to eat all this!

Lisa, it must be a really good motivator to know you can only take what fits in your car. Make you realise what actually matters.

Cakes were a great hit with the office. My chocolate orange cake went really well, everyone thought I was some sort of master who'd been slaving to get the perfect frosting! I have a great cheat though, so they've all stollen it.

I'm having an insomnia night again - I had one yesterday too. I keep waking at 4am. I turned on the news channels to give myself a bit of a distraction, but it's all about the attacks in France, and it's so shocking, I can't sleep after watching it. How can people do that?

My OH is away this weekend, he was supposed to be on a stag night, but his dad is so ill just now he's had to pull out. He's likely going to end up in hospital tomorrow. OH said he doesn't expect to be home for more than one night this next month. I think he's taking too much on himself, that his Dad will manage for more nights than he thinks, but my OH is always such a worrier. He'll start chemo on Wed, and I know he'll need good care for the first week or so after that.

Well the OH ended up in hospital in dramatic fashion... The hospital never called him back to agree to admit him yesterday, so he called a local dr today, the local dr came out, and when his dad got up to answer the door, he collapsed.

I think just weakness from lack of food, so some IV fluids should help. Will keep you all posted.

Things went downhill, OHs dad not expected to last the night.

Sorry I've been AWOL!
 

Hello Everyone! Sorry I've been missing in action for so long. After many struggles, we finally got my son admitted as an inpatient at the same psychiatric hospital I spent 25 days in last summer. I cannot tell you how much all of this has triggered my own anxiety and depression. But I have stayed strong most of the time. Long story, but he was released this past Thursday after 14 days inpatient. They diagnosed him as bipolar because he was clearly manic, but he will not accept that diagnosis and does not want to take the meds they put him on because he says they make him hallucinate and feel suicidal. He has an appointment with his regular psychiatrist Tuesday. I am just praying that he will be able to help my son. I am worried sick about him.

COOP: I am so very sorry about your OH's dad. :( That is so sad how he took a turn for the worse so suddenly. Please keep us posted. Praying for him and your OH's family... & you! :hug:

Lisa
 

LISA: So it sounds as if you have definitely decided to move! Yippee for you!!! :bravo: I know you have some reservations and logistics to work out with your mom's estate and her house, but I really think this will be a positive change for you. :) That would be great if your friend could travel out there with you. I hope that works out! Do you have any idea of when you might move? I was also pleasantly surprised to read that you are taking a class again. Good for you! What school? I admire you for always having the courage to pick yourself up and try again. You are a strong woman, Lisa! I hope you know that. :)