Welcome
 

JesikaBeth: A belated :welcome3: to the group! It's great to see you posting a lot! We are happy to have you here. :)

Hoping and praying that your mom's heart surgery goes well on Monday.

Coop
 

COOP: I hope you saw my message to you at the bottom of my first post above. I just wanted to add that I will be thinking of you as you begin your new job. I am sorry that things are rough for you and your OH right now. I hope the transition to your new job will go as well as it possibly can under the circumstances. Hang in there! Sending a big hug! :hug:

Holly & Monica
 

Has anyone heard from Holly (Vermont Mom) or Monica (EasySpirit)? I just read through all of the July posts and didn't see any posts from either of them. Hope all is well!

pinkalarmclock
 

pinkalarmclock: :welcome2: Are you still around? Hope to see another post from you soon. :)

Kathleen - I'm sorry to read your latest update with your son, I really hope things resolve soon.

I'm afraid my news isn't good. OH's dad died in the night. Pneumonia and sepsis. We are reeling, but glad he isn't suffering anymore. It was so hard seeing him go through that.

Kathleen, I am so very sorry about your son. You must be going through ****. I know when Jennifer was sick from depression, I was beside myself, sick from worry. We will do anything for our children. Please, please, please take care of yourself. I'm really worried about you. You mean so much to me and this board. You are so kind.

Honestly, Katheen, I don't know when I am going to be able to leave Bellefontaine. It all depends on when the money from mom's estate is dispersed to us. After it is, I am guessing I can leave within a month. I need to get my house finished and ready to sell. Jennifer said if I gave her power of attorney, she would sell the house and sign all the paperwork for me. That would enable me to move sooner. She's such a good girl.


I am very excited to leave and start over in Kennewick, Wa. I never realized how unhappy I am here. I felt like I was stuck here and that was it for me. Now I realize, with a little luck, I'll be able to have a new life, in a new place.

I am taking classes with Penn Foster, graphic design classes, which is what I've always wanted to do. I'll explain more about them later and fill you all in.


Take care of yourself, Kathleen. We miss you around here.

No, Kathleen, EasySpirit hasn't been here in ages and I think Holly is busy working. She posted a couple of weeks ago, I hope she comes back. :(

I'm watching tv tonight. I'll stay up a bit longer and then call it a night. I have an appt in the morning at 8 am.


Have a good night everyone.

Lisa, good your therapist will help you out. Hope your bruises fade fast.

It feels like the last 48 hours have lasted weeks. I have managed to delay starting my new job for a few days, which is very good of them. Having to get someone to call in to feed our rabbits, as I'm staying with my OH at his dad's. I'm so worried about them being on their own so much. Poor things won't understand why we're not there. I hope to get a night at home tomorrow, so I will fuss all over them.

Good morning,

Kathleen, I am so sorry to hear that your son has not yet come to the realization that he needs meds - he will. It is not easy for people to accept that; I know from family members (that I have told you about.) And, there is also an issue when the meds are working, and they suddenly decide that they are feeling great and don't need them! I have seen that, too! Is your son living at home while you are at your beach house? I am sure your anxiety level must be on high; keep praying - it will enforce your strength.

I have not posted since July 2, and as usual, I posted in the June thread by mistake. I manage to do that at the beginning of most months. I have been very busy with extended family and friends - I always invite people to the Cape in the summer.

Coop, I am sorry to hear about the OH's father's death. Does he have a large family?

I flew to New York for the weekend to watch a couple of Red Sox games at Yankee Stadium with a few friends, and we toured the 9-11 Museum. It affected me more than I thought it would - it is very powerful; extremely moving. I casually knew three people who were killed on the first plane. Having worked in Boston for 35 years, it is actually surprising that I only knew three. Some people in my firm knew dozens.

My appetite has been out of control - too many parties, way too much sugar(my downfall that triggers my appetite.) I am exercising daily for at least an hour a day which helps both my mood and my health. I am somehow back into size 8 and 10s, and I have not felt anxious or depressed in months. Like people on meds, I need to remind myself that I am feeling this good because of the exercise, and I cannot stop it. I need to stop the sugar. I tell myself this every single morning, yet the longest I seem to last is a day or two.

Holly, I thought of you when I went to a brunch in NYC on Sunday morning at the hotel we stayed at - the pastry selection was absolutely beautiful - over the top! They looked as if you had baked them all.

Hello to everyone else.

Hello everyone, sorry I have been MIA. It's been really a challenge over my way. My mom's heading into her 2nd heart surgery, and not doing well. I'm stressed and my wife is sick and now I'm getting sick. Sigh. I'm at work now. I wanted to pop in and say hello. I'll be back soon :)



Have a great day!!!


:grouphug:

:dust:

Hello everyone, I hope you don't mind if I jump in here. This has been a very hard year, but I am making some positive changes.

My seven month old daughter passed away from SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) in May, and in April I broke my right ankle and have been unable to walk or drive. It has been very hard, but I only have two weeks until I can start walking. I think a whole new stage of grief will start at that point.

Anyway, today is hard. I live in Washington, and the weather is very gloomy where I am right now. I'm at home watching my toddler all day, and am just itching to get out and honestly
go buy a bunch of junk food. So strange how grief feels like it can be sedated with enough food, though I know that's not the case.

MommyOlly - welcome to the forum. I'm so sorry to hear of you loss, I can't imagine how painful it must be for you.

I don't know what it is with food and grief, but I can sympathise with how difficult it can be to break the habit. You will get there.

We have been busy sorting through all sorts of paperwork and plans today. I'm pretty tired.

My OH says he feels surprisingly fine. He is holding together quite well, no breakdown, very little in the way of external grief. I'm very worried about this - I think he can't be processing it properly, or he's just putting on a really brave face, like he thinks we need him to be strong for us. I don't know, it feels like it will spill out in a bad way if he doesn't deal with it. Don't know what to do.

To answer Monica, he isn't from a big family. He is an only child, and his mum died 12 years ago. He has 2 aunts and some cousins, but other than that, it's just his gran (dad's mum). I worry a lot about her - she is 86, and losing a son at her age makes me dread she might follow soon. His aunt takes good care of him, and he is close to his cousins, but I imagine he must feel quite isolated now. I've been going with him to meet the undertaker and deal with things. His gran has excused herself, understandably, because I think it would be too much for her.

Anyway, it will get done, we just have to keep going.

Hi Everyone :)

Sorry I have kinda been MIA. My mom is in the hospital and not doing well :(
So yea, life has been crazy. I'm stressed and overwhelmed and the scale isn't budging :dizzy:

I hope everyone is alright! Just wanted to pop in and say hello.

Have a good day :grouphug:

Jessica, I hope your mom is getting a little better. Has she had her op yet?

Not much update from me, we're in that limbo period before the funeral. Gradually getting through all the paperwork.

Hi, thanks. There's been some complications, but they are discharging her today and she has to return in 1 week to be admitted for her heart surgery :(

P.S. I think I missed something... funeral?

Hugs :hug:

My partner's dad died at the weekend. Complications of lung cancer, but his death was very unexpected.

Funeral will be next Wednesday.

I've had a rough couple of days here. Just thinking about leaving Jennifer makes me so sad. I cried last night. Even though I am so sad, I can't even imagine staying here. I am so unhappy in Ohio.

I missed taking my Lamictal yesterday, that could be why I'm struggling today. Maybe I'll feel a little better tomorrow.


Ladies, I'm so sorry you are both going through extremely difficulties. :(



I'll try to post again when I feel better.

Via text I asked Jennifer if she was going to stay with her girlfriend this weekend and she said no. I got suspicious. Looked on Facebook and Jennifer no longer has her girlfriends name on her Facebook page.

I wish she wouldn't hold things in. She is really bad about that.

I know what you mean. This brought a smile to my face. A new place is sometimes the best thing to do for ourselves. I hope I am able to do the same really soon as my spirits are a bit low being in the same place for the last 4 years (I used to bit a bit more nomadic when I had the funds :) )

Hey my friends!! I'm SO sorry I haven't checked in. Yes working, both at the summer pastry/baking job and up to 12 hours more a week for the Rat B@stard :devil: because I can, they need me, and the money is good.

Coop - I'm so sorry about your OH's dad passing so unexpectedly :( that is a shock. :hug:

Lisa - kudos to you for your big decision for the move, that is huge, but it will be great for you, and wow for your energy and accomplishments on the cleaning out - moving process!! it was sad to read about saying goodbye to the kitties :( but so glad you have your remaining fur babies :)

JesikaBeth - very good to see you as a regular here now!! very sorry about your mom's health :( :hug:

Kathleen - our continued love and support to you in dealing with your son!!

EasySpirit - wow yay for your working out so much!!

Hi PinkAlarmClock! glad to have you here

MommyOlly, SO sorry to hear of your devastating loss! we welcome you here.

I have NOT been working out :( I HAVE been eating whatever I want, and feel pretty disgusted with myself. However, i have been enjoying summer so much, still love the summer job, still love my motorcycle, and today our younger son is getting married!!! it's an outside event and the weather is going to be 50% chance of thunderstorms with wind and maybe hail :devil: but we will make the best of it.

I hope to promise to get back to being regular here!!

Coop: I'm so very sorry about your OH's dad's death. :( Keeping you close in thought and prayer during this difficult time. Hope your OH will be able to get some of his grief out with time. Take good care of each other! :hug:

MommyOlly: :welcome3: to the group! So glad you posted. I am so very sorry for your sudden and painful loss. You must be devastated. :cry: No mother should ever have to go through that pain. It is very understandable that you would want to eat to stuff and numb the grief. Do you ever write about your feelings and the experience in a journal? Or do you have a therapist or pastor you could talk with about your loss? It seems like such a huge thing to go through alone. I really feel for you. I lost one of my twins 14 hours after birth and that was hard enough on me. I couldn't imagine losing a child after having several months of bonding. :( Please be patient with yourself and take good care. You will get through this difficult time. We are here to help you in any way that we can and to lend our listening ears. :hug:

JesikaBeth: I hope your mom will pull through this okay and soon. Please keep us posted on her surgery and progress.

EasySpirit: Way to go with your hour-long workouts!!! :carrot: :bravo: It is great to hear from you! I would kill for a size 8 or 10 right now!!! It's all a matter of perspective. You are doing great! Keep up the good work! :)

Holly: It is good to hear from you, too! So awesome that your son is getting married today! I sure hope your weather has held out for the big event. Regardless, I hope he has a beautiful day to remember for the rest of his life! :)

Lisa: Hang in there! You will be on your way to Washington before you know it! I sure hope Jennifer is okay. Remember, though, that she is a big girl now and can take care of herself. Easier said than done I know all too well from what I'm going through with my son. Love you! :hug:

Good morning!

Kathleen, how is your son doing? How have things been at home? How is your daughter?

I came to the realization that my scale was once again doing me in. If it showed I lost a pound or two, I celebrated by eating. If it showed a gain, I consoled myself by eating. Rather than throw it out, as I have done to others in the past, I stored it in my garage. I decided to go by an old pair of shorts - the only truly "skinny" thing I still own. I will weigh myself when I can get them up past my thighs! Meanwhile, I am trying very hard to eat clean, and I am exercising a minimum of an hour a day. That usually includes 30 minutes of walking on the treadmill at an incline, a few machines and a water aerobics class at the Y. I am definitely losing inches - not so sure about pounds. But, more importantly, I feel great - depression is at a zero, and I find myself happy, enjoying life.

WEIRD - the shorts I cannot squeeze into are an OLD size 8; smaller by about four inches on the waist from my new size 8s ! ! ! I guess clothing manufacturers have changed their size dimensions due to the general weight gain! No wonder they now have a Size ZERO!!! It is probably the old size 5.

Holly, so happy to hear from you! How was your son's wedding? Did the storms hold off for you? We had crazy storms, but not until later last night. It sounds like you are having a great summer. I have been spending a lot of time at the beach in this hot weather- swimming and reading.

Lisa, have you put your house on the market? Is your mother's home on the market? Who is in charge of her estate? My siblings and I sold our parents house in 11 days! (which made me wonder if it was priced too low.) I sold my condo in Boston in six weeks.

Hello to everyone else.

Monica (aka - EasySpirit)

Newbie dooby do
 

Hi all!

I'm new to this thread, trying to lose 17.5 pounds, which I'm only just realising I have put on since my last weight loss as I've actually been battling with some pretty bad anxiety and depression, and turned to eating as a way of dealing with my emotions.

I feel very tentative about losing this weight. I keep trying and failing and then using that failure as an example of why I'm not good enough etc...the same viscious cycle!

Anyway - here's to trying. Wish me luck!

L :smug:

Thank you, and I'm glad to be a regular here :)

Thank you, I will. She was DC from the hospital, and has to go back within the next 2 weeks for her next surgery. I'm still having a hard time with all of this, not only worrying but we do not have a good relationship. It's just all very messy :( :dizzy:

lisbeth, it is really hard to lose weight when your state of mind is bad. My state of mind is usually pretty good, except getting frustrated some days, and I am struggling with my eating. Just know you can come here anytime and vent, we're here for you. :)


JesikaBeth, I am so sorry about your mother and the fact that your relationship with her is tricky. I lost my mom back in March. I am doing ok, miss her but she was just so weak. Even with all the great Dr's and nurses help, it was her time to rest. The whole death thing though, I will never get used to it.

Like I told lisbeth, please come here to vent when you need us. We are always here for you. :)

HI ladies,

I'm frustrated today. I wish my mom's estate was going faster. I don't mean to sound selfish. It's just hard.


I hope you all had a good day today.

Hi all,

I have been checking in daily for your updates, but I've been a bit too drained to respond.

We held the funeral for my OH's dad yesterday, we're holding a memorial next week as well. Funerals take a lot out of you.

My family came along for support, which was very good of them. My OH's aunt took the (inappropriate) opportunity to suggest my OH and I should get married so they can meet again soon, and yearning for us to pop out a couple of kids. Her pressure just makes me feel the burden of my health problems all the more - I can't have kids until I get my pain condition under control, but how are you meant to tell them that?

Sorry for the rant. I have lost my primary ranting buddy (OH) as he has his own problems to deal with right now!

It's very quiet here, just thought I'd break the silence and say hello! (Was that an echo?)

I'm here, Coop.

Kinda having a sad day today. Jennifer came to visit for a while. It's really hard to watch her leave. It only drives home what it will be like when I move. Jennifer was quiet. I didn't want to come right out and ask her if she was happy but I didn't want to make her mad. It's just hard.

Just sad today. :(

Lisa, how are you an Jennifer getting on now? Are you any further clearing out your Mom's?

I started my new job yesterday. It wasn't as awkward as I thought, people know we've lost OH's dad, but they haven't brought it up. Our house is a difficult house just now though, and we're having a hard time keeping on top of housework. Just tackling it half an hour a day, and seeing just a little bit of improvement.

New August 2016 thread
 

Just a quick note that I started an August 2016 thread and I'll post an update there. Sorry I haven't posted in several days. I just caught up on reading all of your posts.