[IBelieveInMe2]

Lisa: It is so great to hear from you and to know that you aren't quite as down as you have been recently. I adore your new kitten!!! Thank you for posting a picture of him! Hope he brightens your days! What did you name him? You can't beat the unconditional love from animals! I love them so much!!! Too bad the place you interviewed at didn't have any clients in your area. That just means that something better is on the horizon for you. I have faith that you will eventually end up where you are supposed to be and I will continue to keep you in my prayers.

[IBelieveInMe2]

EasySpirit: I like your idea of turning the season's clothes inside out and to give away any that are still inside out when the season ends. You sound much more organized than me, though. I often don't even do a complete switch out of clothes each season. I always find some strays from the past season in with my current season. Right now, it sounds too tedious to me to turn them all inside out..... but then that is probably just me procrastinating and avoiding the job. I am also still focusing the majority of my energy toward getting my son the help he needs. We continue to have issues nearly daily and he isn't taking his meds consistently at all, which isn't helping. And I hate to admit it, but I am pretty sure he has a substance abuse problem along with the anxiety and depression. I just hope he doesn't end up having to go inpatient somewhere, especially to the place where I was last summer. Uggh!!!

About the swimsuits, I have ordered from swimsuitsforall.com before. They have cute stuff. I am a little embarrassed to admit that I need mastectomy swimsuits that have the little pockets for swim forms. Yes, I know I recently had my final reconstruction surgery, but I am totally UNsatisfied with the size (or lack thereof) of my implants. I recently bit the bullet (since I STILL can't find my damn swimsuits) and ordered another one from Land's End (since they have some mastectomy swimsuits), which I like..... well, as much as I'm gonna like any swimsuit on me in my current SAD condition. I really don't even want to be seen in a swimsuit right now , but we have a pool in our back yard, so I WILL be swimming for exercise and to get some sun.

Anyway, I was thinking of your last message to me and remembered that I didn't respond to you, so I wanted to touch base. Thank you for the tips. Hope all is well with you!

[Coop27]

My OH is really stressing me out right now. He keeps getting worked up about very small things, and then projecting it on to me, and I'm finding it quite hard.

6 months ago our roof started leaking at 2am, just a little drip, and he convinced me the roof would collapse in if I didn't wake a roofer up immediately! Last night our rabbit broke a claw, and he had me convinced we needed to go to the emergency vet (around $220 a trip), but I decided to call ahead to ask some advice, and the vet said it would be OK until today. OH wasn't convinced, and it was a battle to convince him we didn't need to ignore the vet and take her anyway.

He's obviously stressed out with his dad, and I'm being as patient as I can, but the stress is really taking its toll. These are not life threatening situations, but every time they happen, he's working them up to be awful... I don't know what to do.

[ThinkinThin]

Hi all-
May I join you? I liked the title of this thread because it's so me. I struggle with ups and downs and it definitely affects my weight loss efforts, all excuses aside. Meds make me tired and maybe that's why I crave caffeine, which de-hydrates me and makes me crave sugar. Sugar and carbs give me a short burst of much needed energy, etc., etc. You know the story. The only exercise I can do now without too much pain (most days) is walking and that makes trying to lose weight as slow as molasses. Then, there's the being 44 years old thing; my metabolism is a joke. Help! So, thought I'd jump in if it's OK so I can get and give some support... Been a member off an on since 2009, but trying to get back on the wagon so here I am again.
Talk to you soon!
Karen

[Lisaluvshearts]

Originally Posted by IBelieveInMe2

Lisa: It is so great to hear from you and to know that you aren't quite as down as you have been recently. I adore your new kitten!!! Thank you for posting a picture of him! Hope he brightens your days! What did you name him? You can't beat the unconditional love from animals! I love them so much!!! Too bad the place you interviewed at didn't have any clients in your area. That just means that something better is on the horizon for you. I have faith that you will eventually end up where you are supposed to be and I will continue to keep you in my prayers.

Kathleen, thank you so much. I hope you are right and something comes my way that I can physically and mentally do. I am still feeling better mentally. My meds are doing their job.

My new kitty's name is Felix. He is something else. He brings me so many chuckles. He sleeps a lot but when he is awake....look out. He plays non-stop. Ruby hates him, Buggy seems to like him. Elvira, our dog, is curious about him. I hope Ruby, Jennifer's cat, comes around. Buggy, our male cat, seems to be ok with Felix. Felix likes to chase flies, pens, shoelaces, and whatever is on my floor. He isn't much of a cuddlier, he's on the go too much.

Thanks for posting to me, Kathleen.

My OH is really stressing me out right now. He keeps getting worked up about very small things, and then projecting it on to me, and I'm finding it quite hard.

6 months ago our roof started leaking at 2am, just a little drip, and he convinced me the roof would collapse in if I didn't wake a roofer up immediately! Last night our rabbit broke a claw, and he had me convinced we needed to go to the emergency vet (around $220 a trip), but I decided to call ahead to ask some advice, and the vet said it would be OK until today. OH wasn't convinced, and it was a battle to convince him we didn't need to ignore the vet and take her anyway.

He's obviously stressed out with his dad, and I'm being as patient as I can, but the stress is really taking its toll. These are not life threatening situations, but every time they happen, he's working them up to be awful... I don't know what to do.

Coop. I am so sorry homelife is stressful for you. There are people who worry a lot and it sounds like your OP is one of them. I tend to worry too. My Saraquel has helped calm me down so I'm not quite so bad. Please continue to post here and vent to us. It will help you to let it out.

Again, I am so sorry.

Hi all-
May I join you? I liked the title of this thread because it's so me. I struggle with ups and downs and it definitely affects my weight loss efforts, all excuses aside. Meds make me tired and maybe that's why I crave caffeine, which de-hydrates me and makes me crave sugar. Sugar and carbs give me a short burst of much needed energy, etc., etc. You know the story. The only exercise I can do now without too much pain (most days) is walking and that makes trying to lose weight as slow as molasses. Then, there's the being 44 years old thing; my metabolism is a joke. Help! So, thought I'd jump in if it's OK so I can get and give some support... Been a member off an on since 2009, but trying to get back on the wagon so here I am again.
Talk to you soon!
Karen

ThinkinThin, welcome to the thread. We are so glad you are here with us. Please post often and whenever you need us.

Your post sounds a lot like what I go through. I need caffeine and have gained a lot of weight due to drinking pop. I also have an exercise DVD I haven't even opened. I hate to walk, it's boring to me so I need to do that video.

Again, welcome to the thread.

[Lisaluvshearts]

This is my boy.

[Lisaluvshearts]

My charger has stopped working. I may be gone for a while until I can get another one.


My Mac is almost dead.


Much love to all.


edit: I finally got it to charge but I think it's a good idea to get another charger. I'll try to let you know if it acts up again.

[VermontMom]

HI friends I'm so sorry I've been absent, it was Opening Week at my summer job and I put in 55 hours last week one day was over 13 hours straight, but I made it, got some CASH tips and my paycheck next week will be suh-weet. Which is needed, because my car broke down (new water pump AND brakes needed) so there goes my sweet paycheck, easy come easy go LOL!!

LISA I love your new kitty!!! Felix is adorable and I love how you described him I hope he brightens up your days and nights all the time to bring you more fur baby joy I hope you remember to consistently take your meds if they help you. I'm glad others here have been able to help with your grief with your mom. I don't have anything to add in that area, my mom passed five years ago and I had to look that up because it 'feels' like it was only 2 or 3 years ago.

COOP I'm sorry you are being given a hard time!! and hope you can be the "winner" during the out-of-touch conversations. Yeah it is hard when our partner is going through something and then projects on an innocent person and hope the rabbit's claw is not an expensive thing to deal with.

EASY SPIRIT yay for your fun long weekend!! here is that sometimes effective dust for anti-sugar strength. Oh and way to go on working on your garage items, lol @ the 4 crockpots, my DH will buy a new item when he can't find the old one, maybe that's what happened there. I liked the idea of the sticky note to check on next year!

KATHLEEN Hi and glad you have a swimsuit on the way, how nice to have a private pool that you will take advantage of hope you have weather to enjoy lots of pool days.

to Thinkin Thin of course you are welcomed here

I haven't gotten my usual load of annuals to plant yet, we *just* now have only entered temperatures that are OK for getting things outside, though our official 'safe' planting date for up here is Memorial Day weekend. Have only had to cut the grass once but soon it will be an almost twice a week gig. Am LOVING that it is light out so early, the chirping birds, and even now at 8:30 pm there is some light outside I LOVE THIS TIME OF YEAR

I don't even think I told of scraping and then painting half of our garage!! I did it in one day!!

[IBelieveInMe2]

Coop: So sorry to hear that your OH is giving you problems. I am a worry wart, but it is heightened because my hubby tends to go to the extremes on things easily. I never know if I should worry more or worry less! Seriously, please feel free to vent here if it helps. And stand your ground when necessary! We are behind YOU all the way!

[IBelieveInMe2]

ThinkinThin: to the group!!! We are happy to have you here!

[IBelieveInMe2]

Lisa: Oh my goodness, Felix is adorable!!! And he sounds so playful and spunky, which I like in my animals. Never a dull moment! He will help to keep you cheerful and feeling loved. Hope your daughter's cat will come around and enjoy a new playmate! Thanks for sharing his pics!

[IBelieveInMe2]

Holly: Wow, it sounds like you started your summer job off with a bang! Sorry you have to spend your paycheck on your car, but thankful that you are getting a big paycheck so that you can afford the repairs. The glass is half FULL!!! I am beyond impressed with the garage you scraped and painted in ONE day!!! It looks great! And you forgot to tell us?!? I'd be shouting THAT accomplishment from the rooftop! I have to say that you get WAY more accomplished than you give yourself credit for. You are an inspiration to me! Have you been able to get out on your bike?

[Coop27]

Hi ThinkinThin!

Lisa - felix is gorgeous! He looks so relaxed and comfortable with you

Holly - hope you've had a chance to relax after your busy week! Hope the car isn't too expensive, but hopefully once it's done, it won't need more for a while!

Kathleen - hope things are going well with your son!

Thanks for all the support guys, bunny is fine!

I don't know how my OH can be coping, he's lost 3 immediate family members to cancer already, and this is such a kick. I was only just starting to cope with my own problems when this all came up, it has been hard keeping my strong-woman exterior going.

I've been decorating this weekend, we now have a very pale yellow hall and a plum and mint bathroom. OH had to stay with his dad, who is on rapid downward slope leading up to his next round of treatment (chemo next), so I decorated both rooms myself. I had just finished cleaning the hall and was about to scrub the bathroom when OH came home, and after a half hearted compliment, started criticising how messy the place was. He was really vying for a fight. I managed to nip it in the bud, and he apologised later, but man is it hard not to snap. I really feel for him, but it is so hard being the one who takes all the stored up anger and worry...

[beagonzalez]

Hello everyone, I was wondering if I might be able to jump in? Everyone here seems so supportive of each other, it's very nice. So I guess this is where I stand so far. Just this past week I was so bad that I could not get out of bed for three days. I called out sick from work on day 1 and the other two I couldn't even find it in me to pick up the phone and call again. I have been slowly regaining my desire to live life, and would like to try getting some exercise. I keep thinking about it, but can't seem to find it in me to actually get up and get moving. Has anyone else been through this? Might anyone have any advice on moving past your depression and exercising? Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks helping me feel like I'm not alone. :-)

[VermontMom]

Originally Posted by Coop27

I've been decorating this weekend, we now have a very pale yellow hall and a plum and mint bathroom. OH had to stay with his dad, who is on rapid downward slope leading up to his next round of treatment (chemo next), so I decorated both rooms myself. I had just finished cleaning the hall and was about to scrub the bathroom when OH came home, and after a half hearted compliment, started criticising how messy the place was. He was really vying for a fight. I managed to nip it in the bud, and he apologised later, but man is it hard not to snap. I really feel for him, but it is so hard being the one who takes all the stored up anger and worry...

OH my gosh you deserve an AWARD for not breaking at that point! you are a super-understanding and patient person Coop to realise what is happening with him. But after painting (and I love the visual of a plum and mint bathroom!) and decorating all by yourself, and then not snapping at the criticising, you get a halo, woman

I do have to ask though, and it is funny that I have let it go so long, but I don't understand your abbreviation of "OH". I know "DH" for Dear Husband, or "SO" for Significant Other, but I don't know what OH stands for

beagonzales, yes a big to you! I am so sorry you were completely incapacitated by your depression for 3 days. I myself have certainly spent the day in bed but somehow I have managed to do that only on my days off, I have a sense of structure of the workplace calling that overpowers my lassitude. But I have sure WANTED to hide in bed. As for exercise, gosh for me I just have to make myself do it. And sometimes that meant making myself swing both legs out of bed, get out of bed, put on my sneakers and force myself to the TV for a dvd.

HI to everyone else! Kathleen, I have been out on the bike a bit, but I must not be such a rabid rider nowadays, I have been enjoying working on the lawn instead.