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May(ke things happen!) Chat
Hey guys! It's May! Come on... get with the times ;) Does the title make sense or does it just look stupid?
Lets see... what's new with me.. not a whole lot. I'm still doing pretty good. Had a blip yesterday morning but I'm ok. I am really worried about my husband though... he's diabetic (type 2) and so far has used meds to control it... he also lost about 60 pounds and it seemed to get a lot better. Lately though his meds aren't working and his sugar is really high. It's always on the high side and I've always worried about the damage it's doing to his body. I'm worried now because he didn't control it very well that he's done serious permanent damage and will have to be on insulin. He had a doctor appointment this morning and now I can't get a hold of him. I know where he is and what he's doing... I just really want to know how the appointment went and I'm kinda ticked he didn't call me to tell me :mad: Vermont - Did you eat a cookie or two or did you totally lose control? I have to let myself have the sweet and/or bad things or I go insane and binge. I just really limit it and try to make them as healthy as possible. It slows down the weight loss but it's ok to do this. You're only human :) Would it help to know I was REALLY bad yesterday? Just forget it and move on :) The tough love kind of works... I'm really conscious now about negative things I'm thinking and saying about myself. I did some cognitive behavioural therapy last fall and it's really helped so I'm trying to merge that with the feedback from my husband. Hope - that sucks that you got laid off and can't find a suit :( Would you really want to go back to that company though? You might find something even better. Hope you have a good time visiting your Mom :) Oh, and I haven't made it to the doctors yet so I'm still taking all of my pills. Leila - Hope you heal up soon... I'm glad you didn't have to put off the sugery after already waiting for a year. How is your sister? Grneye - It happens... my weight is back up and it sucks! I had a REALLY fat day yesterday... stood in front of the mirror for a few minutes looking at myself very critically and saying "Oh my god... you thought you looked ok???? Ew!" But then I remembered how I used to look and tried to focus on how far I've come. There was a quote going around FB a few days ago along these lines that I really liked... I'm going to go see if I can find it. :wave: Gotta go... lunch is over! |
Hi, I am rather new and want to join in. I feel the more support the better.
I have 100 lbs to lose, have PCOS and depression. I was rear ended last fall and have had 3 surgeries since to correct injuries. Major injuries. My last one was 4 weeks ago, and was spinal surgery. So I am slowly walking and doing some yoga. |
Hey Aunty Jam, thanks for the reality check that it is May :D and it's a good title!!
I didn't know your DH had type 2, but he's lost 60 lbs?? that is great!! but I understand the worry you must have! I 'lost' it with the cookies but that was last week, I had an OP day yesterday (ONE day out of many non) so I'll just keep pluggin away. I AM at the good summer job now though, YAY. YAY I mean! HI and :welcome: Jenny!! that sux about the accident and spinal surgery! being able to walk and do some yoga is wonderful, I'm sure you've worked hard to just be able to do that. |
Good morning!
I am slowly getting back on the wagon. It's going to be difficult this month too - one of my friends is getting married and then there's Memorial day - oh well, life happens. :D Most people struggle during the holidays - I think I struggle staying on plan more in the spring and summer. There's something about warm weather, a patio, and a refreshing adult beverage that makes me happy. Don't forget the BBQ... Aunty - You and your hubby hang in there! I hope he is okay and gets the diabetes under control. Cemommster - welcome to the group! We're a pretty nice bunch of gals, and we don't bite :D Vermont - good to see you! One day at a time - count your on plan day as a win!!! Hello to Hope, Leila, and everyone else! :wave: |
Can i just say how much you are all my heros? the weight loss is phenominal in here.
Ok, time to get dressed. the video store is about a mile away, round trip. And the bank is across the street from the video store. So the kids and I are going to walk to both... may take a while, because I am still not up to a mile without pain from the muscles being disturbed in surgery. but I will be back. Thanks for the warm welcomes..and about the biting...man I am dissapointed. lol |
I like the title :) It brought a smile to my face and sounded perfect as this is the month I started getting serious about my weight loss :)
Aunty- how is he doing now? Jenny- I'm sorry to hear about your accident, but it is so good that you able to walk and do yoga now :) How did you go with your walk? I'm fairly new here, I started off at 319, am currently 286.6, I just love the support here. I have depression, I've had it since about 15yo, it went undiagnosed as I wasn't really noticed in the family, after I had my girl 3 years ago it got much worse and the weight piled on with it, I keep hoping that as I lose weight and get healthier and feel better in myself that it'll 'magically vanish' but I don't think it will, most of all, I just want to feel happy again, Will be good to get to know you all :) |
Originally Posted by Cemommster: and :welcome: to Stephanie!! I'm so sorry you had depression at such a young age! and I experienced worse depression after my second child, it was terrible. I hope you become part of our group :) it does help :hug: congrats on losing over 30 lbs already!! |
The walk went good. We walked to the video store and the bank, just under 1.5 miles. Stopped twice to rest for a minute. Then at my son's baseball practice I walked the track. Another 1.29 miles Not bad. Had PT today, and she massaged it and gave me tips on what to do for the pain.
Welcome Stephanie. Congrats on the loss already. That's great. I got depression after my first. IT took so long to dx postpartum. With my second they watched me like a hawk. |
Aunty Jam: It's a great name, and thanks for bringing us into May haha, I think this is healthier. How's your husband/how are you?
Welcome Jenny & Stephanie! Jenny: Glad the yoga's helping! sorry to hear about your surgeries and hope you recover quickly! Stephanie: I don't know if it'll magically vanish but I think taking care of your physical body does a lot for your mind. For me I'm trying to understand why i was depressed and putting on weight in the first place and it's helping me to identify triggers and problems I never really thought about. Happy to hear you're making a change :) Vermont: holy crap, that much ben and jerrys a day? I'd be huge! I literally couldn't stop myself.. there used to be a ben and jerrys cafe in this town and that was my lunch. Nutritious or what :D glad you're at your Summer job yay. Also glad to hear you were feeling better, I'd imagine that helps a lot! How are you now? mustang: one foot on the wagon is better than being off it completely ;) I'm still feeling a bit sick and tired after the tooth thing but getting a bit better everyday! Soon I'm going to kick ***. Well that's the plan anyway. Still mentally so up and down all the time I'm not even sure where I'm going but just trying to stay positive most of the time and take things as they come. I've been stuck around 158 for the past week and a bit but today I was 156.4 so hopefully it's moving again! It gets to disheartening when I stall. At least I can exercise a bit more again now, that's probably why :) Love to you all! |
Quick Post:
I'm back in town. The trip was really good and my mom hemmed my 2 suits so that I can wear them right away if I get an interview soon. The days that I was gone flew by and I can't believe it's over already. Today my goal is to get a short workout in (it will be my first in almost 2 years...), maybe mow the back yard, and get my resume updated. I'll try to do personals later. I need to jump on my to do list before the day gets away from me. Tomorrow I work my part time job so I need to get my resume done so I can post for the jobs I'm interested in before Monday. Welcome Jenny and Stephanie! I look forward to getting to know you both. |
Thanks girls :D
Depression really isn't easy for anyone so I feel for you all deeply, it's such a hard thing to deal with and not many people (surprisingly) understand just how hard it can be :hug: Sounds like it was a good walk Jenny and well done for doing it :D I hope the tips help in future :D LeilaJey, I agree fully, I agree fully, I was in counseling for a bit and that helped me realize where it kinda stemmed from and it gave me an understanding about why I feel like I am not worth anything etc which helped a bit and since taking better care of myself I'm starting to feel better :D It's not good how you were feeling, and it is definitely disheartening but I'm glad it is moving again for you :D How'd you go hope4me? Trips seem to fly by so much faster than any other normal days! Hope you are all doing well and have good weeks and look forward to hearing more from you all xxx :D |
:wave: Hey everyone... Hope everyone had a good Mothers day :) My step-d got me fruit dipped in chocolate and then we all went out for brunch with my mom. Oh my gosh was it good! I ate way, way to much. I haven't done much for exercise lately, bad me. And I drank 2 nights this weekend, really bad me :( My shin splints have been bothering me lately but I did some research and I think I have another way to help them. Apparently smaller strides help because it lessens the weight that goes into each step. I know I have a fairly long stride and I tend to "pound" the pavement so I'm going to work on that.
Several people asked about my husband... all they did at his appointment was give him more meds and refer him to a diabetic specialist. His original diabetes doctor won't see him because he skipped an appointment, stupid boy, so now they have to find another one for him. He has lost 60ish pounds but this is happening despite that. Steph - I'm glad you're feeling better, I did some therapy last year that really helped with how I think about things and myself. Sorry to say that unless your depression is soley linked to your weight it won't magically get better. It does help a great deal though! And I'm glad I could bring a smile to your face. Hi Hope :) - Isn't it nice having a mom who can sew? Mine used to do all my hemming too... it sucks having short legs! LJ - Sorry you're still not feeling well... it will take a while I think. I've found the trick is not to try feel really up all the time, it's not possible or healthy. You just need to find a balance between the up's and down's. At least that's what has been working for me lately. But that being said, I'm with you... lol. Motivated to kick some ***! Jenny - It sounds like you're working hard to get better... I hope you are soon. I love yoga but don't get much of a chance to do it :( Vermont - Don't feel bad... I can't remember the last time I had a true OP day... I'm scared witless to get on the scale. I'm also scared because I'm sure my scale isn't accurate! Been planing to get a new one for a while now... not sure I want to! grneye - The bbq and adult beverages are a big part of what kills me too! Oh well... I should go.. I'm sure break time is way past over! |
Happy Late Mother's Day to all of the mom's.
Today I HAVE to get my resume done and apply for some jobs that I have leads on. I have been busy but this has to be my priority today. I'm going to force myself to report back here tonight and let you all know that this is done. If not, feel free to hunt me down and kick my butt. On a positive note I did work out on Saturday for 30 minutes. It's the first workout in almost 2 years. I plan to do it again today, but not before the resume is done. :nono: Have a good day everybody and I will be back later. |
Happy Mother's Day to any mothers! :)
Aunty Jam: Ah don't feel bad about enjoying yourself sometimes, just get back on track. I find that if I drink alcohol I can't control my eating at all. The other night I had a glass of cider and right after dinner I found myself putting butter and jam on a baguette and eating it. I was already pretty full, it was weird I felt really disconnected. Is there anything you can do to fix shin splints? Good luck with your new walk! Stephanie: Hope you're in good form :) hope: Delighted to hear you're working out again, exercise can be really good for your mood so I hope it's making you feel great! Good luck with the resume :) I'm trying to fix myself after my over eating yesterday. Not looking forward to weighing in tomorrow.. I feel like I'm slipping a bit. I keep thinking ah screw it I'll stop now and just eat lots of crap again instead haha, I know it's silly and it's not what I'm going to do but it's funny how the mind works. I'm craving food right now but I'm not hungry. It's annoying as **** though. Drinking lots of herbal tea instead. I think it's just because I'm tired and feeling shitty. I feel like I'm coming down with a cold and that just makes me feel hungry. Eugh, hoping I wake up ok tomorrow. Hope you're all doing great :) |
LeilaJey, how was the weigh-in today? Are you still having cravings? DF and I were in the habit of eating chocolate every night for a while and it was causing serious cravings for more chocolate and other unhealthy foods. We broke that habit about a month ago and it was hard but helped a lot. I'm still eating poorly but I'm not having the horrendous cravings that I was. I find that having an alcoholic drink makes me eat like crazy too.
Aunty Jam, I'm so glad you are here on a regular basis. Everything that I buy has to be hemmed. It was nice not to have to pay to have it done. It sucks having an injury doesn't it. Sometimes it's hard to get yourself motivated to exercise but then having to worry about working around pain makes it even less likely that it will be done. Vermont, I hope you are enjoying the 'fun' job. Are your days off during the week or doesn it vary? Mustang, good to see you again. It sucks getting back on the wagon. Summer can be challenging with all of the holidays and cookouts. Cemmomster, how are feeling today? Have you been able to get in any more walks? It's great that you are doing what you need to do to recover. Stephanie, how are you doing? Are you on medication for depression if you don't mind me asking? I couldn't live without it. Congratulations on your weight loss. I hope I can find it within myself to get started again soon. I finally got my resume done, it took forever. I also applied for the job at my old company so we will see if I hear anything. Today I need to search for more opportunities. The whole process is annoying. |
:wave: Hi everyone
Hope - Did you get that second work out in? Even if you didn't bravo :cp: for the first one... now get moving ;) LoL. My sister and I had a funny moment a few weeks ago when we realized we were both wearing our jeans rolled up now rather then get them shortened. We decided we were starting our own fashion LoL. Injuries suck... it's far to easy to use them as an excuse beyond the time you need to heal. LJ - You're right. Back on track. And that's it... period (.). (Does that make sense? It's a joke in my head... period (.). LoL - I'm crazy) Anyway... this weekend we're supposed to be going camping, but as soon as I can I'm going to go out a buy a new digital scale and have weigh in days again. Also, I've discovered it's a little over 5 weeks until my birthday. If I really buckle down I can finish my second go through of the couch to 5k running program. Then my bday gift to myself will be a 5k run. If the shins hold up I just have enough weeks to work up to 10k and fit in the race I want to in August. Really shin splints are from form problems (stride, heavy landing, heel striking etc...) when you run and over use. I started running at least 3 hours a week and logged almost 50k in a month. My body simply wasn't ready for it. It actually takes tendons longer to adjust then muscles... and shin splints are a tendon problem. Anyway... live and learn I guess. |
Originally Posted by Aunty Jam: I have to be selfish and make this post all about me, me, me :devil: my fun job place's yearly opening day is tomorrow, so the heat is on! have spent the last days preparing like crazy. And the next few days will be kinda crazy, but good. Besides being in the kitchen days, I also signed up to work dining room dinners (lots of $ ) and I might sleep over at the club, to save the 40 minute commute late at night and then right back at it in the morning. so...I might not check in for a couple days. My 'blah'-ness is gone, as you can probably tell :devil: and I think weather-wise I should be able to ride the motorcycle to work tomorrow, for the first time this year! best wishes and HI to everyone! |
Helloooo Peeps!!! I have been checking in here because I can surf from my phone when I am waiting in line or in random places! :-) But I have been soooo crazy busy it is not even funny! This is my third week of my new job at the golf course! I love it! Certain parts of it are going to be overwhelming for awhile but I think I am settling in nicely! In fact, yesterday my boss told me that he had already gotten good reports on me! :carrot: He also said that normally that doesn't happen right away (they apparently take time to warm up to people usually...heheheh) He said that he knew that my personality would be right and he thanked me for doing such a good job out there... That is very satisfying... My work hours are crazy...I never know what is up usually but that is okay... Tomorrow and Friday are both tournament days so I am going to be VERY BUSY!!! But it is going to be fun. I am getting a horrible uneven tan on my arms though...my left arm is in the sun because I am driving a golf cart a lot of the time. It is going to look really weird if I don't find a way to even it up! :D I am also getting ready to finish my Organizational Behavior class and have to take my semester exam the first week of June! EEEK!!! DD got a call back for a cleaning job at a lodging facility and is extremely excited! Woo hoo!!! DH just finished his Master's degree with top honors! He is on to a final certification class and then he is done with school. SOOOO proud of him! Weight is still up...but I think it is possible that this new job is going to make a difference with all the extra unscheduled activity. I saw the podiatrist for my plantar fasciitis and he casted me for a custom orthotic and gave me some extremely helpful advice that seems to be making a huge difference. I should be able to work out soon (when I can make it to the gym!!!) The Bod Pod gave me a really disappointing body fat percentage but I am just moving on and continuing to do what I can do, that is all you can do.
I am sorry Peeps but I have to run...errands, shopping, and homework all have to be done today on my day "off" so that I can get ready for the craziness at work. I hope you all had a good Mother's Day...I didn't have to work and it was a lovely day... Holly!!! So glad you are feeling better!! Aunty! So glad you are posting again!! Yay!!! Mustang....so great to hear from you too... And everyone that I haven't mentioned I am sorry...I am in such a hurry but I am reading everything you write and sending you welcome and support... ~Raven~ |
Raven, good to see you again. You sound really busy. Congrats on the new job and doing so well at it!
I've tried to keep myself busy working around the house today. It REALLY needed it. I cleaned the upstairs bathroom, did some laundry and washed the dogs and their bedding. As I've said before, the fur removal in this house is impossible to keep up with. I plan to clean the downstairs bathroom and then I have some more job-hunting related stuff to do. I did apply already to another job at my former company that sounded a lot like my old job, just in another dept. Vermont, you go girl! Make that big money$!$! Aunty Jam, I did not do a second workout yet but I'm planning to do it right now! I will report in later either way... |
I did my second workout yesterday. Yay. I feel a slight pain in the ankle that was giving me so much trouble a couple of years ago. I'm not going to inflame it but I may just do some free weights today.
I was going to have dinner with a friend tonight but she has a lot to do for her daughter's prom tomorrow so we are going to put it off until next week. I have to run out today and get DF a card for his birthday tomorrow. I was going to make a cake for him but he said he didn't want one since we are trying to break our sweets habit. That's probably a good thing. |
Hey ladies
Just popping in to say hi. Went away with dh for a few days, and also went back to work. When I saw my physical therapist, she said I needed to go see the surgeon for more time off of work. My job requires a ton of driving. First of all sitting really compresses my spine and the driving vibrates it more. I hurt so bad this week. Other then that, I can still exercise as I was. Just have to rest it today, and start tomorrow. Hi to everyone. |
I had to come on here and voice something, cause I couldn't think of another place on here that would understand.
There is alot going on now. Dh was understanding but dissapointed when I told him my PT wants me on medical leave longer. I see the surgeon Tues. i know it's a cut in pay, but not much. I don't have much work in the summer months, and I feel that it's my spine, I really want it to heal right the first time. Then I know it's mostly his reaction to the same thing I am reacting too. That one person, carelessly on her phone, did not pay attention, and caused such havoc in our lives. On top of it, dh is having major work problems. He is so down about it...he did not even want to go out for ice cream tonite. i was excited to take the kids, even took my 13 year old's friend. had fun. But now....I am just agitated and want to be alone. UGH, I hate cycling. |
Aunty Jam: Hope you're having fun/had fun camping! Sounds great :) did you get a scale? I need my digital scale, it's made a huge difference to losing weight. Period (.) haha :D take care of yourself and your shins, doing a big run for your birthday would be a great gift to yourself so good luck!
Vermont: So glad you're doing well! Enjoy the work and the $ - take care :) Raven: Hey! Nice to see you, I'm happy work's fun for you! haha, I've had some funny tan lines in my day too.. ahem. I often had this little patch on the shins from where my leggins ended and my boots started. :D Hope: Well done on the workout, hope it's feeling good! cemmomonster: hey, sorry to hear about your spine.. but you've gotta take care of it and get it sorted.. better to do that now than to work on it. I feel bad for your dh too, it sounds like a tricky situation.. I hope it all starts to come together for you, good luck with the surgeon. I seem to be having bad dreams every night and grinding my teeth a lot but I'm feeling pretty good in my waking hours. Feeling healthy and I'm losing weight and noticing it on myself. Still a way to go but yeah well on my way :) yesterday I was shopping with my sister and we stopped for lunch. I was sooo close to ordering the ham, chips and eggs for lunch but I resisted and got a really tasty chicken salad. I normally would never have ordered a salad somewhere instead of chips as I didn't feel like I was getting my money's worth ha! Now I know there's more important things. I got a nice dress size uk12 (8US??) that was actually a bit big on me ( but looks really nice with a waist belt). When I went to try it on I thought I was kidding myself as it looked really small so I was very pleasantly surprised. Also when I caught my reflection in shops I didn't feel as bad about my face. Usually in shops with those bright lights even if I thought I looked good earlier they would strip me of my confidence. I must be losing weight in my face too hooray! I'll take some comparison pictures soon. Going home today so I'll try and do a workout later. The other day when my mum's bike didn't work I just walked/ran up the stairs for 15 minutes haha, surprisingly good exercise! I wish I had stairs. Sorry if I missed anyone, I'm still half asleep this morning. |
Hello!! I'm back from being at work for 3 and 1/2 days!! so nice to sleep in my own bed.
Jenny - :( I'm really sorry that the DH did not take the news well. But you're right, it's your spine and that is important!! of course any frustration he has is not because of you, it's because of that one person who was at fault..but she's not around to take the blame, right. So unfair. I'm glad you had a good time taking the kids out though. Raven - wow! your posts always explode with good energey :D I'm so glad you are fitting right in to the job and have gotten comps already! Hope - yay to you for your continued working out! and yay for resisting making a birthday cake, that is a hard decision. and oh how I know about fur removal, even having a supposedly non-sheddy looking dog. If I don't vacuum daily, you can't even see the pattern in the rug. LeilaJey - congrats on being smaller! :D new dress sounds lovely and it is GREAT that you can see yourself as smaller when you catch your reflection . awesome!! Hey AuntyJam! Hey Mustang! :wave: and any I forgot :o I actually went down 2 pounds from being at work, yesterday I weighed as soon as I got home because my jeans felt loose even right out of the drier. The scale showed 142..haven't seen that in a while. I think if i ever see something in the 130 range (even 139.5) I will :faint: need to work out, then get go to work, but it will be a beautiful m'cycle ride to and from..and I will be picking fresh rhubarb on the way in, it is always funny pulling into work while balancing a bag of rhubarb on my handlebars :rofl: |
How are all of us today? It's beautiful here and the windows are open. Went to church and the farmer's market. Think I may try mowing the lawn. We shall see how that goes, lol. Probably not very well.
Then maybe the kids and I will walk up to the park, and ignore the house that is a mess. Have a fab Sunday ladies. |
Ok, I just did a thoughtful post with personals and lost it... bleh
I'm trying to keep myself busy so I don't get depressed. Yesterday I was pretty down. |
Today is busy.
We are having plumbling issues, had someone out about 4 weeks ago and they are coming back again today. GRRR Picked little one up from Preschool...she NEEEDS a nap. Oye is she cranky. Big one has a baseball game today, so i have that too. Busy busy week. |
Originally Posted by hope4me: Hi Jenny :) , sorry to hear about the plumbing problem! is it going in, going out or both? Running water and having it go where it's supposed to, is an everyday blessing!! I had a pretty fantabulous day off even though, when flipping our mattress, found my DH's stash of Girls Gone Wild dvd's. I slowly simmered in black anger for a while, then went on line and read about hundreds of other poor ladies who feel the same way I do about it...had a good cry...and now am going to accidentally throw out all kinds of things of his :devil: Not very mature, am I. |
Thanks for asking Vermont. I wasn't much better I'm afraid. I slept away part of it just to escape.
I will post more later, DF just got home and by the way, I feel the same as you about 'those' kind of videos and mags. |
Originally Posted by hope4me: |
Vermont I am with you. Before we were married, dh had a HUGE collection of magazines and some were from the "gentlemen's" clubs. I made him throw all of them in the trash compactor. I was hot and hurt.
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Hi all. I came here looking for support from other women dealing with depression but in reading this thread I stumbled upon this topic and I'm really baffled, so please don't take offence, because I don't mean to offend anyone, but are you guys saying that our husbands/partners shouldn't watch prOn? Or were you just upset it was behind your back?
Is this something a lot of women get upset about? I thought watching prOn was normal?? Help a confused girl out :-) Is this something I should be looking out for? Does it mean more than just a typical guy just getting off sometimes?? Is it naiive that I don't have a problem with this? |
meltaway hey and welcome :) this is a good place to get support for your depression.
To be honest this is a topic I actually feel pretty strongly about. I don't think porn itself is necessarily wrong if it is consenting adults who are healthy mentally as well as physically. I've read many stories of ex prostitutes (trafficked women) who were forced into doing porn too. For me my main issue with it is that it's so derogatory to women. I don't think anyone has the right to that, if it's more equal/normal sex then yeah I understand it but I think it's pretty screwed up and a sign of inequalities still prevalent in our society that it's ok to abuse women and treat them like crap the way they do in porn. And it's becoming more and more common and normal. More and more young girls are having bad first time sexual experiences because the boys have been watching porn and think that's what normal sex is. I'm obviously not speaking for anybody but myself here as I wasn't even talking about it until you posted haha :D those are my feelings about it though. Also not all men watch porn http://www.antipornmen.org/about/#.T7tNKEWm-So |
Hello everyone! I'm afraid to report my dietary debauchery has continued - and now it's made its way into the exercise realm. I'm usually good about going to the gym and exercising, but I haven't been in 4 days. I am going tonight though.
My friend is getting married Saturday - so I have to travel and also have wedding activities. The debauchery is going to continue, unfortunately. Next Tuesday when things settle down a bit - I am going to make a whole hearted attempt to get my rear end all the way back on the wagon! Cemommster, good luck with the exercise and going back to work. Hang in there! Hope, I understand how you feel totally. Here's a :hug: Vermont - at least it's not Boys gone wild! (I am going to stop with the inappropriate humor now). Seriously, at least you didn't let it turn into a huge blowout argument and were able to "simmer down". Hi Leila and Meltaway! Hi to anyone I missed! :wave: |
Hi Meltaway (cute name) and :welcome:! Yes this is the depression support forum, but we do throw in our personal daily stuff here too. I know if I put my 'problem' out there on the general forum I would have gotten a billion replies...I just wanted a little :hugs: from my peeps here :)
No you are not naive at all.. It is a subject that does not bother some women at all, but yes it does bother a large amount of women ( I quickly did a google search of 'my husband watches p0rn and there were heartbreaking replies) For me, it is because I have such low self esteem, all I can think is that he prefers 'that' look to me. The big boobs, great figures, beautiful legs. I KNOW he loves me, and he does find me sexy (and he does tell me like every day, he is very very good that way) I just can't believe it because I don't think I am. I read what a lady counselor was writing, that men who watch the usual stuff, absolutely still love their wives, and want to have sex with their wives, not the images they see. I believe my DH has a problem because, when we were on vacation and in a hotel room together, he handed me his laptop to use, and there on an open tab was a closeup shot of a vagina. Come on...he couldn't lay off of looking, even for that time? So I said that I knew I couldn't stop him, and wouldn't forbid him, but I did NOT want to see evidence of it, to be reminded of it. Originally Posted by grneyedmustang: |
Good Afternoon everybody. I got out of the house today and it helped some with my mood.
Vermont, the trigger for my bad mood aside from the usual craziness is being laid off from my job. Now I'm at home scared to death not that I'll never work again but that I'm going to never replace the salary that I had on that job. I'm sure I could go out and get a low paying job but I'll never have anything that I want and won't be able to save for retirement. I'm not saying I want to live like a movie star, just normal middle class. I want to be able to pay my bills, save money, and not have completely stress out if any emergency comes up. That's not such a lofty goal but for years I went from low paying job to low paying job even though I have a college degree and I just don't want to go back there again. I spent the past 2 yrs paying off debt from those years of low pay and I'm afraid at age 41 that I'll just start going backwards when I was just starting to get ahead. Of course having time on my hands has never really been my friend either. It's too much time to think about things. I'm at my heaviest and that certainly isn't helping. I hate interviewing but it's especially hard when you feel you look hideous. OK, enough of that. I'm feeling a little better, at least for today but I just wanted to explain my mood. Mustang, good to see you. I'm sorry you are struggling right now. It's so strange how we can be on such a good path and then all off the sudden we just lose control. It's good that you are going to work out and have a plan to restart on Tuesday. Cemommster, did you get the plumbing problems fixed? We always seemed to have plumbing problems when we had company. Very annoying. As I'm typing I'm watching a documentary on HBO call The Weight of the Nation. Has anybody else watched this? Some of it is interesting, some isn't. Some of it is scary. It's talking about being overweight of course and the effects on the body and the economy etc. |
Hi all- I've not been on here very much the past few weeks. Just thought I'd stop in and say hi! I started doing HIT (high intensity training/circuit training) this week and have lost 2 lbs. I'm no longer obsessing about calories, just being more religious with keeping up with exercising.
As far as the porn discussion goes... I can see everyone's points. I am both offended by some porn and it makes me feel bad about my body. That being said, my husband and I have been apart more than we've been together throughout the past 3.5 years because he is in the military. I know he watches it and I'm... OK with that. We are in a very different situation than most married couples and I would definitely be upset to find that he'd been watching some if we were living together... |
I don't post a lot, kind of in spurts depending on how busy I am, but having this site has helped me so much with so many issues.
As far as porn goes, if it doesn't bother you, fine, you may find someday it does bother you. It's complicated and I have had opinions all over the map over the years. |
thanks everyone for your input. I'm over my initial anger/hurt, guess I'm settling into 'acceptance' stage again. There are worse things in life, right :D
Hope, i was dumb for not realizing 'of course, it's being laid off that is bothering her!' :( I wish so much that TODAY you find something, or get hired back..the loss of feeling financial security is shattering isn't it. Hugs hugs hugs to you! :hug: hi erbear!!! nice to see you again :) congrats on being down with the help of the HIIT! gonnadoit, I always enjoy what you write, here and on other threads. and big Hey to everyone else :) |
gonnadoitthistime-I agree that it is quite complicated! That is for sure.
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