Seeing myself as attractive, and not minding it
A brief intro: I'm 30 years old, single, and have had depression on and off since age 17. I've been on Wellbutrin since 2002, and it's been wonderful for me, but I still think negatively even though I know better. I'm 5'1" so every pound really counts for me.
1 1/2 years ago, I had a terrible date which left me thirsty for revenge against the guy (long story, but kind of funny now!), so I started exercising daily, and got into terrific shape, really felt addicted to exercise, lost weight to a really fantastic weight for me, and it felt like complete MAGIC because it had always seemed impossible, and I lost more than even in my past successful weight loss efforts: I weighed about the same as when I left for college at age 18. And I felt amazing that I could just put on clothes and leave the house without wondering if something made me look fat, and buy clothes easily. I've lived in the same place for 10+ years, so while people noticed my weight loss, losing weight did not change too much, just a bit more attention from people I already knew. I'm getting to the point, bear with me.
Then I went to Los Angeles to work for the summer and suddenly met lots of people who didn't know me heavier. I have long blonde hair, but I have always been "pretty but plump" and "the smart one" and never related to the "pretty perfect" types who wear Banana Republic size 4. I'm used to getting a bit of male attention, but having most guys not be interested. In LA, suddenly I was in a different league and got attention that I honestly had no idea how to deal with. I don't mean catcalls, but on dates and at work suddenly I had all this feminine power and got 10 times more attention. I can't afford Banana Republic, but I could wear size 4-6, and most of the adult clothes at Target were too big for me. And it started to feel a bit overwhelming. And I was in a new place, lonely, trying new dating relationships, having them not work out, wondering if I would ever get married.
I got depressed and I started binging (again), stopped exercising, and ended up back to overweight, where I feel comfortable. I'm used to being a bit depressed and feeling fat and out of it.
Has anyone dealt with this? How do you adjust your internal image to a thinner you?
Junebug
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