Dearest Danirockyo, I read your post and it brought my eyes to tearing. Ohh how sad to lose your dad on Thanksgiving Day of all days! I just first want to give you big hugs
and let give you the warmest of condolences!!!
I lost my mom on May 18, so I have a feeling for what you are now going through. Christmas Day yesterday was rough rough rough! I imagine that you had a similarly challenging day, too.
I think it is awesome that you are trying to eat well and exercise. Good for you! Yes, taking positive healthy steps - even baby steps - is important at this time.
How long does it take? Ohhh Sweetie, I have to be honest with you - You will feel VERY normal on some days and very NOT normal on others. Grief is something that flows and ebbs, with no particular rhyme nor reason. One day you will feel really down and the next day you will find much joy. It depends on what "triggers" a sad memory. That is the way that grief is.
But the Shock stage, at least for me, wore off after maybe the second month. Then I came to acceptance, as if it was reality. But once in a while you will suddenly still forget. You will go to reach for the phone or tell yourself that you have to tell your parent something about a future event... and then suddenly gasp to recall that that can not happen.
But yes, after a couple of months, life does start to get back to a more normal feel, when the initial shock wears off, yes.
Honestly, since May I have only lost a few pounds. It is up and down. Some weeks I will lose 2 lbs, the next week stay the same, next week gain a pound and so on. I believe that THE single most important thing we can do at this point is keep thinking, What can I do today to be healthy? (Not to be "thin" mind you, but just maintain our health).
Please keep in touch here. I will put this on setting to notify me of posts to this thread so we can keep in touch, okay?
I am a 47 year old mom and work from home. I am 22 pounds less than when I gave birth to my daughter 13 years ago. I still have 60 pounds left (wow that's a lot when I do the math!
) to go.
Let's do this together, okay? I sure could use a "health and fitness" pal!
More great big hugs!
Cathy