Hi ladies,
I am truly touched to see all the responses and safety network we have all created here!
Ray, and to many of you, your posts inspired many many thoughts in me and for the sake of all our sanity , I will try and remain breif. lol
Ray, I think you hit the nail right in the head! Absolutely, we need to understand, and often times it can be traced to a certain time or event/s. I personally feel that though it is a huge success and utmost key factor in understanding the "why", we must then learn to conquer the "how" . Afterall, habits are learned, and so thus are coping mechanisms , so we must find ways to replace our outlets via constructive outlets. Exercise helps a lot, as well as many other form of outlets. Needless to say, you made my day, I am so happy for you
keep up the good work honey! Your definitely onto something!
By the way, I watched a short segment of a show the other night....about an eating disorder specialist and a group of overwieght people and/or with body issues. THe doc said, "think of the time when you first began to gain weight" and then she said, "what was happening in your life?" Almost in all cases, of course there was some sort of emotional turmoil. THen she went on to say how these women were often the loveliest of people she ever met! She went on to ask them if they talk negatively to themselves. Almost all the women responded with a yes and she asked them if they would talk to another person this way? Noooooooo! She then went on to say, "imagine yourself as a 5 year old child, what would you do if this kid was having a hard time? would you say, "just shut up and eat the candy bar"? Interesting!
flowingair, welcome to our team
Lytricia, you go girl! I don't see at as a weakness but rather a strenghth! absolutely! and ordering healthy meals at restaurants doesn't mean needing to lose weight necessarily or a lack of control, god no!! I was a health nut for years and always ordered healthy meals! Beleive me, many people admire that, when you order a healthy meal. As for those judgemental folks, ouff, forget them! They are there on either side of the fence! I remember being at my ideal weight and was accustomed to healthy eating, there were particularly freinds around me at the time not so gung ho about it. A freind of mine got very upset when I ordered a salad for lunch, gosh! she said I mad e her feel guilty, why not order a burger and fries too! truth be told, I was so accustomed to eating light, I swear, a burger and fries in the afternoon would have killed my digestive system at that point! What I am getting at, or at least trying to, is that we can't please everyone all the time. It took me awhile to learn that lesson! Also, when we order a healthy meal at a restaurant, it isn't just because we want to lose weight! forget the word diet! we are striving for a healthier lifestyle! god love us! and you know what? be proud! It has nothing necesarily to do with weight but health, let's be proud! oh lytricia, some people get jealous.....ONly two people i talk to about my plan are dh and my mom and you guys here. I feel sometimes it's best not to say too much,not that it's "a little dirty secret" but just not that everyone understands or is supportive.......and we have enough battles along our journey without having to deal with unsupportive people. Screw the world baby and what they think, now is our time and we are doing what is best for us! As for the housework, I was supposed to do it today to! lol. I did my workouts first, putting myself first now before the house! Anyways, good going and be proud for ordering healthy
rayyyyy, once again, congrats on the 2 lbs. down! : )
mygirlsmommy, hi
I can't beleive you did that!!!!!!! throw the second bowl of cereal away, lol : ) right on! good luck tomorrow and by no means go on the scale if tom is looming and you know you have fluid retention, or at least that's how I feel about it. You are doing super! congrats on the 4 lbs. so far
let's keep it going............and if you run into trouble during tom post okay? last month i managed okay.....I just told myself i would not think about it and keep busy. I was lucky, I eased through it okay with no extra hunger, etc. but the month before ay ay ay. Just post if you need too darling, we are all here for each other. keep up the great work
nosnahhhhhhh, congratulations on your loss! : ) as for your question of weighing in the next day, why mess with a good thing? lol. I wouldn't, **** no!
oh shoot, ray, sorry. In regards to your question about eating out.....drinking a lot of water prior to going in addition to eating a bit of protein in the form of a hard boiled egg or cutting up a salad (about anhour before) really helps. Also, I would like to recommend to all of you to get the new fitness magazine! it rocks girls! It has a section on eating out as well as many other super articles. Let's keep strong, one day at a time! By the way, thanks for listening to my rants and for the support which was extended my way, during those bumpy roads. Having you all here and the support system we have all grown together makes a tremedous difference, ty
stay well my ladies! Let's awaken to a new and successful day tomorrow.
Congrats on starting off so strong and motivated! You've motivated me, too! Have a great day everyone!!!
