I, like you, feel the need for help. I understand the feeling of wanting control and not having the discipline to do it. I MUST think of what I am now trying to do as a "life change". I can NOT think of it as a diet. It is about getting healthy. I know that to be healthy I must not eat chocolate desserts, refined white flour and sugar. these items trigger a mode that causes me, too, to binge and not be able to satisify the "inner hunger" the "cravings" that these foods promote in me.
For me there is no single cookie; small cup of ice cream or one slice of cake. I'll keep at it... nibbling indecernable servings until the whole thing is gone. I get so mad at myself and then the feelings rush in that I did what I did and deserve what I am.
Now I am trying to self-talk. I tell myself that everyone over eats occasionally and that to stop is the key. I must be able to put on the breaks. To end the binge. What can I do not to do it again. I know all the platitudes that say "take a bath", "set a timer", "substitue a good food", etc. But I can almost see the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other and they argue until I get tired of fighting it a eat something. Sometimes it IS the apple or veggie, but when it is the "forbidden fruit" it has such a negative effect on my moral and resolve. Why doesn't making the right choice strengthen with the same power as making the wrong one weakens? I sure wish I knew that answer.
I am not used to posting and may not find my way back here, but I'll try. The board is still confusing to me.
I wish you good luck in regaining your resolve and you should know that you are NOT alone. That your struggles are shared by many and that your choices, good or bad, are also shared. I guess I wrote to help myself to be conscience of what I am doing. That message is also for you. If you eat be conscience of eating. Make it what you're doing. Live it. The worst eating is when I don't even remember how many cookies I had, or that I ate something at all. Live the moment that you're eating. Maybe that will help us to not over eat, to stop, to regain control. Good luck.
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