Where do I start? I've been on these boards for a short time, joined and then my account was wiped out when the system crash and I came back, but I don't post often. I actually joined to be a part of the maintainer's forum, however, unfortunately I certainly don't belong there ... yet.
I have been overweight all my life. When I was younger I tried a couple fad diets here and there, but they never lasted more than a few days. Finally, in 2001 I made the decision to change my life. I weighed 245 then, and I weigh 146 today. I got down to 137-138 at one point, but since last fall I am bouncing around in a 5 pound range. Lately, my 'range' has been inching upwards.
ALL I do is think about food. When I am not eating, I think/plan what I will be eating next, or I am feeling guilty and berating myself about the last thing I ate. I wake up in the morning and think about food, weigh myself and want to eat more for seeing a gain. Sometimes I manage to eat well until the afternoon, and then it all falls apart. Sometimes I just eat my way through an entire evening.
I have a 7 yr old and 1 yr old twins ... sometimes when the twins cry I run to the fridge because I feel like I cannot handle it.
Then once or twice a month I have a 'good' stretch where I eat healthy, no bingeing, and manage to lose a couple pounds. It all comes right back though, especially the week before AF when it seems I am completely out of control. (This has gotten worse since the twin's birth and I have an appt with my doctor next week to discuss it)
I know I have emotional issues ... my mom was an alcholic/bulimic/anorexic. It seems I am the exact opposite - addicted to food. I cry all the time - I JUST WANT TO BE NORMAL!
The tips don't apply to me ... I can't pick up and take a walk (at least not in the winter), I can't leave the house (when I am home with the kids, I do work outside the home as well), I can't knit, and even if I HAD something to do, occasionally the need for food is so STRONG that it wouldn't matter anyway. It's like I am on autopilot and someone else is controlling me - I am the fat puppet of some evil monster who just makes me do this to myself.
During the weight loss, I NEVER binged! I was SO well behaved I amaze myself. I don't have a CLUE of how I managed! I used to be able to go to parties and not even be tempted by the foods because it felt so good to be losing weight. What happened?
To make matters worse, I had my gallbladder removed on 2/13 and we had some complications and I cannot resume exercise until 4/1. Originally it was 3 or 4 weeks, now it is SIX weeks with no exercise! Not that I love to workout, but I need to. I am becoming maniacal, obsessing about becoming fat over this next month or so. I have gained 4 pounds this past week alone! I am still swollen and none of my pants can even button, which depresses me even more.
I am so sorry this is so long. I need support. I used to belong to another group where there were so many posts per day it was hard to keep up ... now they have changed and many people left and it isn't the same. Plus, you can't even mention the word binge before people get on your case ... I guess they think it isn't a real problem.
I guess I expected that after I lost the weight, I would be able to go back to eating a modified healthy diet with occasional treats, but I haven't been able to master that, or even come close. Maintaining is harder than the losing, and the pounds are coming back and I just feel like a failure.
Worse than the weight gain is the way I feel about myself and my lack of control. I don't know what to do anymore.
Kelly